we have been going out for 6 months and things have been stressful for both of us, Parents nagging, trying to get out of our houses and into one of our own, but all we seem to do is fight. and over little things, and when we do he njever wants to talk, but he made a promise about he would start talking about things when they happen, but he snot following threw. . our hole relationship kinda seems like the one from : the break up" like he doesnt do anything, but i dont want us to end up like that i love him, but im tiured of him getting mad at dumb things and leaving me to be upset, never comforts me or anything and never tells me im pretty nothing, its like im holding the relationshipo up myseld and i dont know what to do anymore, i try talking to him about it but he doesnt understand. . i love him so much but i just dont know what to do anymore
2006-10-22 22:49:51 · 8 answers · asked by A m a n d a [[D o l l f a c e]] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dunno.. living in that kind of situation is unhealthy for the both of you. I know that fights in a relationship is normal but when it's too much i guess at least one of you have to decide whether it's worth it to take the relationship to the next level or not. Personally, I want to be with someone whom i don't have to live everyday and fight about every single thing. I'd want us to grow together and see that things really do work out. But if things aren't getting right despite all promises or agreements and all that sort of crap... no matter how much I love him... I still deserve to be happy so i might as well leave the guy. I'm not a saint to keep on hoping forever for something to change...
2006-10-22 23:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, is it love, or just an affection?
It's horrible to imagine fighting everytime in 6 months. I think the feeling for him is just an affection right now...
But if you feel certain that it's "love" and nothing will make that feeling change for the rest of your life sort of, conversation is the key to every relationship, and you 2 are failing from the start.
If you want to make this work, try pulling back when the argument rises. Try to step back, and talk cool when things start to get rough. It's always a mess when two people are just yelling at each other, trying to proove their points.
Just listen to him yelling for a while. Shut up, and walk away.
Write a letter, and hand it to him to communicate, if you must.
Be calm, and act as an adult!
2006-10-23 05:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two can't communicate and he doesn't open up and talk things over, he won't do it if you live together either.
I think you two need to take a break and grow up a little more. I know you love him, but it takes two to make a relationship, and he isn't doing his share. You are in for a lot of heartache if he doesn't appreciate you and respond to your feelings.
Don't settle for less than what you need!
2006-10-23 06:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wen u love some one and u have a fight with him always
its common ntn wrong all believe u can express ur anger n happiness to whom u like the most
and if fights are for genuien reasons then dont worry each couple has the same story
so just relax but if its a bit serius fight then u both need to sort it out
2006-10-23 06:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take some time out to decide what you really want, what is making you unhappy now will only get worse if you live with him , especially the lack of talking thing through. He sounds like he just wants someone to look after him and do al the running around. do you really want to be his second mother?
if make hurt to have to sit and think about your relationship with him but it could be the best thing in the long run.
the saying of 'someone is better than no one' is not really true.
good luck!!
2006-10-23 05:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make him understand. It is best to take time for both of u. both of u will understand what to do after a span of time. first of all make u eligible to carry the responsibility of u 2 and definately he has to get the ability to take care of u (financially and non-financially).
2006-10-23 05:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by akareem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to relax and let the little things be, not everyone will do everything the way you htink is right so try hav an open mind about little things
2006-10-23 05:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by Rusty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get release from ur ego!! speak openly!!
2006-10-23 05:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by amsu06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋