my now ex-girlfriend and me split up a few months ago due to trust, but we have always remained in contact and seen each other often as friends, we've always been really close, told each other everything, and dependant on each other, which is upsettin because i didnt realise that we were so dependant on each other till now shes gone. since we split she often brought up that we should get back together because we were still deep in love, but i felt love wasnt enough as it takes time to build trust so i couldnt take her back, i feel trust is very important.
she phoned me tuesday saying that she was falling even deeper in love with me and that she misses me so much and that i felt the same, after a few tears i then decided to take her back and made plans to have a romantic break together,
she then phones me wednesday morning saying she has met someone else and that she never wants to see me again,
i dont understand any of it as i cant phone her in case she is with him and i havent...
2006-10-22 22:31:09 · 15 answers · asked by Whispering Eye 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stopped cryin since and its made me really emotional as i keep picturin her with someone else, i have no1 to talk to about it as my friends and family aint the sort to listen to me cryin/gettin upset so its just eatin me up inside and i dont no what to,
i feel im losing my confidence fast and i havent been out since,
i just feel lost
any advice, serious answers only please
thanks
and i aint normaly someone whos cries but i cant seem to stop
we were also together for 2 years
2006-10-22 22:31:57 · update #1
but known her for 3 and a half years
2006-10-22 22:35:22 · update #2
You need to accept shes not interested and walk away. She has obviously messed you around a lot and as you love her it will hurt deeply. But you need to move on fast.
All the best
2006-10-22 22:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by JOhnnydd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you.
This girl is seriously confused and to be honest I'm a bit worried about where her head is at right now. She could not know what she wants, or she could for some un-known reason be trying to ruin her life. It sounds like a stupid thing to do, but people do it all the time. She may feel that you are too good for her, or that she hasn't seen enough of the world to be settling with Mr right just yet.
You can be assured that it is probably very little to do with you. Although she may have felt that she relied on you too much and needs to be independent and her own person.
Good luck getting over her.
2006-10-23 00:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its obvious she didnt really mean what she said about loving you more and stuff as she was able to forget about you really quickly.
I know you're upset and stuff but she's not worth it! Take time to get over her - cry as much as you want - and be upset. Its only natural you will be as you spend the last few years of your life with her. But you have to realise that she's moved on and theres no hope of a reconciliation.
Keep yourself busy - why not go away on this break - either by yourself or with a mate - a change of scenery will do you the world of good.
You'll meet someone worthy of you in no time hun! xx
2006-10-22 23:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what she wants ?
Just be firm tell her that you want her and will do anything for her but there is no way that you can make her want you.
Tell her that you love her and can't bear to think of her with somebody else. Tell her she doen't have to be afraid, you love her.
Tell her that she needs to work this out, but you are not going to be available to her for very long, As you deserve to be happy to.
Tell her you will be very happy if she comes back into your life and why?
Give her the opportunity, if it doesn't work out try and recreate you life with some new exciting plans.
Good luck
2006-10-22 22:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told each each other everything, like u said above, then how is there a trust issue? Its gunna hurt, 2 years is a long time, and she did toy with your emotions and heart. Sounds like you need to find some good friends who are willing to sit and listening to you in times like these, cuz its life there are going to be many times your gunna need a should to cry on.
p.s keep in mind shes not worth it if she turned around and did that to you.
2006-10-22 22:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by shortie_49 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are going to just have to move on. She sounded confused but now it sounds like she has made her mind up & you are just going to have to accept that. I was in a relationship a while ago in which we were very dependant on each other - when we split, it was like I had lost half of myself. Now I know that I wont ever be in that situation again - a relationship isn;'t made up of two halves, but two wholes.
Good luck. I'm sure you'll find someone you deserve soon enough.
2006-10-22 22:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Cori 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heya bro, dont worry about it man. I would talk to her one last time to see if shes dead serious if she is, screw the bit**. Hang out with friends n stuff, thats always fun, do stuff you always wanted to do, Have some ice cream, but not to much lol.
But see, time.. is the best healing tool. You can stay in love with her, or you can try to fix your broken leggs.
Some of us choose to stay in love... and thats fine to... soo i just wanna tell ya bro everything you decide is fine, everythin your doing is normal.. i hope you feel better...
2006-10-22 22:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry Cry Cry!!!! Till you cant anymore! I have one word for her, heartless! I can tell you to forget about her, to go on with your life, go and social a lot. But only you can decide when you gonna do what, its gonna take time. Dude, don't phone her! Please! She is going to love it! Hearing your heartbreaking and knowing somebody cant live with out her!!!! You can!!!!! She's really a bad girl, to do that its really crazy, sounds like she really have problems! Sorry your sad, but take it easy and go on with your life, there lots of fish in the sea!
2006-10-22 23:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by confussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she wanted to get back together to split up with you, to get back at you for doing it to her.
i cant believe she done that though, thats pretty harsh, i think, i know its going to be so hard, but try and move on. keep crying, it gets it all out your system!!
I think she should give you an explination though, she has really meesed up your emotions from all this, i thik maybe you and her should arrange to get together to "clear the air" talk about the why's and anything i could have done etc's. that helps.
Good Luck xXx
2006-10-22 22:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just walk away mate. i dont know if she meant to set you up but she did. just leave her be and if she calls again if you feel up to it ask her why. then hang up on her and ignore her. you can do better than that. crying isnt a weakness its a stress relief. but dont waste your life crying over her.
2006-10-22 22:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋