All my husband does when he is home is play his damn Xbox. I might add that he plays Xbox Live so he is paying attention to other people and talking to them. It really pisses me off because he spends no time with me or his daughter. Plus I get no conversation from him. Take today for instance. It is Sunday and he played his Xbox for 9 hours with about a 30 minute break inbetween. Im tired of it and I just want to throw it out and then stomp it to death. How can I get him to want to go out and do things or atleast pay attention to us? It makes me feel inferior and lonely. I also might add that I try to get him to get off of it all of the time by asking him to spend time with us but he says its boring. Well its boring for me to have to watch a video game for 9 straight hours too! Thanks for your suggestions in advance.
2006-10-22 22:05:23 · 14 answers · asked by BJTD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK So hubby and I had this same issue about 2 years ago. Only I don't have 1 kid I have 4! So here is what I did,
1. Bought a sexy lingerie piece
2. bought a dancing video
3. can you see where this is going?
after the kids went to bed I donned the lingerie and was like oh sorry honey I need to excercise, after a few min of watching he was no longer interested in the xbox!
For the kids I would wait till he got up to go to the bathroom or get a drink or something and then i would be like tag daddy and they would and say your it daddy. Hubby would almost always chase them around for a few min, I also had them hide and say daddy come find me!
It is a slow change so don't expect a huge difference all at once
2006-10-23 00:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by athomemommy_4 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is addicted. Talk very seriously with him (which you have I'm sure so many times). Tell him to prioritize. It's because you consider the relationship worth it and you care for him, you want time with him. If his x-box seems better than you and he can't work on breaking the habit, dump him (when he wakes up from this gaming addiction, he will regret it), or find something that interests you so much (making you happy) and get on with it. If you are going to do the latter, stay happy in what you do, let it show in you and pay less attention to him as much as possible. Feel an inner self worth. You are definitely worth it. You not taking notice of him should make him come after you sometime (I hope!).
2006-10-22 22:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by happykat 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
it is what you do: next time he options up the controller, in basic terms quietly %. a bag, and flow. convey sufficient stuff to work out you by ability of an afternoon or 2, some money and however else you'll need. go away a be conscious declaring that you're lengthy previous until eventually he grows up and starts off being a husband back. Make a psychological recognize what time you left, and how lengthy it even takes him to be conscious that you're lengthy previous and make contact with you to ensure out what the hell handed off. do no longer tell him that you're leaving ... in basic terms flow. once he calls you to ensure out what the hell handed off, tell him that you've tried speaking about it and all of the different belongings you've tried that are transforming into you nowhere ... yet when you consider that he maintains to make the alternative to %. the game over his spouse, you're literally making a call to be lengthy previous until eventually he options it is extra important. tell him that you'll come residing house at the same time as he's thrown it in the trash. it truly is the alternative he now has to make. You tried assembly him in the middle. that did not paintings. He persisted to be selfish, so it is the position issues stand. this is you, or the game. this is make or damage time. adult males like this want the perfect take-heed call (being, the chance of dropping their spouse) before they comprehend the toll it takes on relationships at the same time as they try this. He thinks this is 'no longer that undesirable' and in basic terms blowing off steam, at the same time as this is no longer. he's heading off the duty of being a husband. They use the video games as an damage out from something, yet he can't do this and assume to shop a spouse. Be prepared for however determination he makes - and that i obviously desire he makes the right one. P.S. shop mom and are available out of it. this isn't THEIR business enterprise. it is the guy that you picked, and if he ought to be growed up by technique of an outstanding woman, then improve him up, yet do it on your human being. Inviting mom and dad into your marital issues received't help something. it is YOUR subject to sparkling up.
2016-12-05 03:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Send your kids to grandma's house.
2. Light some candles around the bedroom, bathroom, etc.
3. Take a shower.
4. Walk out naked, grab a drink.
5. Make sure he is looking.
6. When you get him in the bedroom talk with him intamatly about family and no x-box.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 00:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by ~p♥kes~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break it! Smash it! Toss it out the freaking window.. When he asks why tell him you were bored... and tell him if he brings another one into the house the same thing will happen. Then sit him down and tell him everything you've been feeling have suggestions ready to fix the problem that started before XBOX came into your house.. Be firm, Be tough, be a bitc* if you have to...
2006-10-22 22:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like an addict. If he's willing to ignore his family for a fantasy world than he needs to be shocked back to reality. You should throw the xbox out. He'll be pissed but it will force him to look at why the game is so important to him.
If he doesn't have addiction/compulsive behaviour then he's just hiding from the things he doesn't want to face. That would be you and his child.
Good luck.
2006-10-22 22:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Cain 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Video games are an addiction. Treat it as one. Make him put you and daughter first. Or just lock it up on weekends. Which ever works lol. If that don't work don't let him stop you from enjoying life with your daughter. Get up and out soon he'll look for ya.
2006-10-22 22:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dann R 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sorry to have to say this but i was like that. because my wife had stopped paying me attention in the bedroom and id lost interest in her.
So before its too late get your daughter to your mums, have a night on your own together and spice it up a little that should take his mind off the x box. then when you are lying there talk to him find out why he prefers to be on there rather than spending time with you and your daughter. i went on it to relieve stress
2006-10-22 22:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by woody 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Explain that he's not being a husband or a father while he takes care of himself. Be insistent as he's not displaying normal or healthy behaviour!
Try alternate days with X box/ without X box and work on reducing his hours until it's a past-time that doesn't have such a negative impact on your family life.
2006-10-22 22:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Pawn it and tell him if he ever wants to see your "box" again, he should give up the Xbox. No, but for real, find a hobby, find something, anything to do. Become so engulfed in catering to yourself and daughter that he realizes he misses you. Until he sees it as a problem, it won't change. Meanwhile, enjoy life honey.
2006-10-22 22:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋