I was a Christian, until this July- I lost all my faith then. I started being a Chrsitian, because I was going through a hard time, and I looked on God for help, and things got much better. I loved God. But then, this year, my dad got so mad @ me while he was abusing me (my parents have a really bad anger-management problem), he almost kicked me out of my house. (he didn't tho) And the next month came, with more abuse, and self-hatered, and one night, I thought "why doesn't God help me? WHY DOES GOD LET ME GO THROUGH ALL THIS, WHILE OTHER KIDS DON'T? Does God even love me? Why? Am I not good enough for him? And if I am, and he does lvove me, why does he let me suffer like this?" And since most of my friends are super-good chirstians, the ppl @ my parent's church are mean, I can't tell anyone this, or ask these questions... So if you're a Christian, and you're reading this, please tell me why, and why I should start believeing in God again. Thanks
2006-10-22 20:50:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
BECAUSE THERE IS NO GOD.
2006-10-22 20:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by mike 2 · 1⤊ 8⤋
How does one 'start being' a Christian?
Did your 'so-called' Christian parents abuse you before you 'started being' a Christian? Have they read Colos.3:21? Maybe they are like the prodigal son that went far from God. Where is the love of God in their lives? It's not your fault they can't love you like they should. They lack love for God, or at least need to get in touch with Him again. It seems the cares of this life have crowded in and choked the love out.
As far as God not loving you, I wondered this same thing once. I won't say why, it's too long a story, but I will say this: We can't know why things happen the way they do immediately and sometimes we may never know. What we must do is trust in God. Who ever said life was easy. Jesus certainly didn't. Look what he went through for you and me and the whole world.
God loves you, or else he wouldn't have sent Jesus into the world to suffer the things he didn't deserve. You see, Jesus can relate to what you are going through because he was also abused without cause. You should call on him knowing that he can relate to your sufferings. Jesus didn't save us so we can escape the world and it's miseries. He saved us so we can give God the glory for bringing us through it. Not to mention the many other reasons.
God bless.
2006-10-22 21:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by epopsitsirhcitna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we're not God we don't always know why He let cruel things happen. But I believe firmly there IS as greater meaning behind everything that happens to us, either bad or good. I can only assure you that God have not deserted you. He never ever will. You ask why He has chosen you to suffer these abusing from your dad. Just remember He had also chosen Jesus to suffer the ultimate punishment being crusified and we all know He loved Jesus. So, hang on there, dear child, God have not forsake you. In his time He will show you the Plan He has for you. And believe me, after what you're going through now, you will be a much better person one day. I think of you and I'll pray for you. Good luck.
2006-10-22 21:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian who was abused as a child I can honestly say I feel your pain and understand the things you are saying. Let me remind you that Jesus came to this world and suffered for us. He was almost beat to death and then had spikes run through His body and finally spent three days in Hell to pay for everyones sins. Including the ones your parents are commiting. He loves you very much and I know it seems that He is far away when these things are happening to you, but He's not. He's right there beside you. He's got a plan for you and for some reason it involves this abuse. I know that sounds harsh, but maybe you will end up running a shelter for abused children or being a psychologist/couselor. I know that for me the abuse I suffered gave me a perspective into alot of peoples lives that I wouldn't have had otherwise and I've been able to use that to help them through their hard times. This may sound strange, but if I could go back in time and change what happened to me... I wouldn't, because it made me the person I am today... a loving wife, mother and friend to many who have suffered.
When things get rough lean on Him. Sing a song that reminds you of how much He loves you. Ask Him to make Himself known in your life. Pray for your parents that they will see the pain they are causing you and do something about it.
2006-10-22 21:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by neverland_mom 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would first like to say, Becoming christian is not a magic pill that means you have no problems. God will try you, You will be tempted, you will endure hardship. Next, God cares about you and will not allow you to go through more than you can handle. Your Parents are wrong for abusing and I will talk about that later but, You need not base your religion on whether or not things are going well or not but on what he's done for you. He woke you up, he bore breathe into you.No religion claims that all problems will be gone, You will always have problems regardless of whether your Christian or not!!!! But because you have Jesus he makes live more barable and more worth living and he is a friend!!! He understands, you can talk to him when you feel lonely, You can praise him when your happy. He gives you comfort in despair.
God allows us to go through thing so we can help other people out when we get ourselves out. God doesn't want you to be abused and it is a big shame that you are. But God sometimes allows us to go through certain situations so that We may help others through it one day. So once you find the help you need, you can then help other girls who are abused an you will be a strength to them. As for being abused you need to get help tell a gudiance counselor, a friend, or the police. This abuse must end!!!!!
I hope I encouraged you!!!!!
Be Strong
I pray for you and contact with any question: tiger_9885@yahoo.com
God Bless You
2006-10-22 20:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by tiger_9885 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 01:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by liebermann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are going through this. And sorry you have to hear some of the uncompassionate answers from some people on this site. I don't think you are being a whiner. Everyone goes through trials. Miriam had a good answer in that it might make you stronger later or more able to relate to other people with similar problems. It's true, but hearing that never makes us feel any better about our situation.
If you are doing nothing to set him off, then he needs to get help. (Does your mom have an anger management prob too. You said "parents".) I have parents that would yell at eachother for days over a small stupid issue. They just could not let it go or let the other person "win." When I tried to reason with them, it never worked. I ended up just screaming at them to shut up. But they had lots more energy than me. They are not Christians.
If he is part of your church, you might need to ask the pastor to intervene. I agree you might need to call in the law if it gets physical. And when you speak with your parents, try your darndest to be calm and reasonable as you can. If you start screaming at them, too, or be condescending or insulting ... well yknow. You need to be the loving adult. ("I love and respect you dad, but you are scaring me.") Dads/men need to feel respected(even if they don't deserve it)
In the meantime keep praying for strength and patience to get you through the tough times and don't let the bad times and cynical people turn your heart into a brick.
2006-10-22 21:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by ciaobella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The trial of your faith worketh patience. God has promised you He will never leave you, nor forsake you... yet you forsake Him? I count it a privilege when trials come my way, because God has told me He will not put me through anything He knows I cannot handle. So the harder it is, the more I lean on Christ because I know He will help me through, and the more honor I give to Him.
I also came from an abusive home, and I have lived through it... I am past it now. I am only stronger because of my past, and I want to help others get through it. God knows what you can handle, and He wants you to stay faithful and trust Him. You can't just give up on God, He WILL NOT give up on you. Think about this: " For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate me from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord." -- that is a promise.
Read the story of Job in the Bible. He had absolutely every horrible thing happen to him, yet his faith in God didn't waiver. Then God blessed him with double the things he owned before.. read it for yourself if you really want an answer as to whether you should believe God again. What do you have to lose?
2006-10-22 21:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry that all of this is going on ,but you are still saved once saved always saved, he will forgive you and very quickly,it not God, people are always so quick to blame God for the bad.but you see the devil does not want you to serve God and he is doing every thing possible to make you do just what you did,if you've noticed it's probably gotten worse that's when you know you are saved, the devil is dead after you, pray,don't let him have the upper hand, he does this to all that are saved if someone that is saved tell you they don't have problems then they are probably not saved.
Sometime God will let you go threw something to make you stronger and to make you change something in your life,are you old enough to be on your own, if so maybe he's wanting you to make a big change, and then too like me my family knows I'm saved and id never been saved til 4 yr ago and my children, my brothers ,sister watch me, and my husband , it like we are there incentive to do the same , so you have to hang tough, not only for you but for all the eyes that are on you not wanting you to fail,but looking to make sure you don't,my children ask me all the time did you go to church today, it like they are afraid I'll go back to my old ways, but im not ,even when the devil works very hard to try and make me, but Ive had to learn patients,and faith,
sometime you want something to happen right now, but God got a different time in mind, and during those times is when my faith has gotten stronger,and I had to learn something about myself.....I pray you ask for forgiveness, and he is still right there just waiting to hear you ask. you'll feel a lot better in many ,many ways.
God Bless you .I'll be praying for you
2006-10-22 21:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by purpleaura1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Feel the love! You have been given a lot of good advice, please read it and pray about what God would have you do. Most of all don't lose faith. Remember that the devil hates you... especially if you have come to Jesus, and he will try everything in the book to try to get you to drop your faith, but Jesus is greater! Lean on Him, call on Him get to know Him as your best friend and the devil will find no place in you to bug you.
Read the Bible, especially the new testament. Try to read a little every day and underline the important verses. God bless!
2006-10-22 22:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by skypiercer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone, all of us go through great periods of testing and questioning. The Christian life is not easy because it is a training time until you mature in Christ. Most ministries come out of failure. Christians have awful things happen in their lives and when they get victory that victory becomes their greatest life message. Why would God allow a young believer to be raped? Maybe she will be the one called to deal with rape victims 20 years down the road. It sounds terrible but when we look at the overview it makes perfect sense. We just can't see the end when we are in the process. Whatever God is putting you through learn how to rise above it in Jesus Christ until you learn that He is always faithful in every situation and you know no matter what you go through He will never leave you or forsake you. Put yourself in His hands and just rest in Him. While you do that He will give you great peace in your heart and while you are resting He will develop in your the very character qualities of Christ that you will need to be of use to Him when He needs you.
2006-10-22 21:02:43 · answer #11 · answered by oldguy63 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋