Hi guys being in a relationship with a nice man for the past 2 years. We do talk about the future together but not sure what he really wants. We both have a child from a previous marriage and we trully love each other. however sometimes he seems more ready to move forward and seems he is going to pop the question But other times it feels like he takes steps backwards. he becomes a little distant more quiet I see less of him. So dont know where we are going with all this. He says he loves me, he calls me every single day and see him at least 3 times a week. But I feel uncertain about the way he acts sometimes. any comments or ideas send them my way need help here.
2006-10-22 20:47:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try talking to him about your relationship. Ask him where he sees himself in a few years; get to know him better and on a more serious level and maybe he will trust you with his feelings, although a lot of men don't really feel comfortable talking about their innermost feelings, get to know him in a more personal way.
2006-10-22 20:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by ricks.girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being serious about a girl involves wanting to be with her as much as possible. The fact that your guy is pulling away seems like a red flag. I don't know why you just won't ask him why he does that? Hopefully it's not you and he's just dealing with something else. But if that were the case why doesn't he just come out and tell you to avoid a misunderstanding. He may just be happy with the relationship you guys share and doesn't want to give in to marriage because it didn't work the first time. Although that wouldn't be an excuse for being less talkative and distant. Hate to say it but maybe he's having second thoughts or another woman's involved. In any case, come clean and talk to him about the way you perceive the relationship. If there's nothing wrong then I'm sure he'll be quick to prove his love for you.
2006-10-23 04:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by Big Milt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are talking about, the one step forward, one step back stalemate. it's because he's unsure of the commitment. although he believes "popping the question" would eventually lead to a much stronger relationship, the idea of being married and the extremem commitment issues that arrive with such a decision come into his mind. just give him time, commitment issues is a very big deal with us males.
2006-10-23 03:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is a big tool in relationship and pressure is the breaker. let him know that if he feels pressured on everything you talked about, just tell him that it would be fine if his thinking twice so that you'll know what are his reasons. asking for some prompt answer can make him more distant to you and your relationship.
2006-10-23 03:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by King RNM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you. i think he feels a little insecure or even remembers what happened "last time" and is afraid it will happen again. try telling your hopes and fears and asking him his. be gentle and very patient and understanding and you might be able to open him up enough to find out whats going on. just remember to let him know its not a weakness to tell you personal things. i wish you all the best for the future.
2006-10-23 03:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember this, his life doesn't only consist of you.
His reaction could be the result of problems, whether financial, investment, work, buddies, kid and a whole load of other issues people face.
There is only one way to tell, trust yourself and him. Not what other people from who-knows-where tell you on yahoo.
2006-10-23 03:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either you take his word or let him go i would not ask this question i would let go because of a lack of trust if i tough i had to ask a question like this i am sorry but that is how i fell i can not tell you how to live your life but i tried to help
2006-10-23 04:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by edward b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who knows how he feels is him.
Decide what you want, and then go talk to him.
2006-10-23 03:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without warning....dump him. If he is really serious, he will chase you, but don't give in until you get what you want. If he can't deliver, move on.
2006-10-23 03:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by maggiebridget09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One morning, grab him by his balls, give little twist and whisper in his ear, " Well big-boy, what gives and who have you been seeing?".
2006-10-23 03:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋