I struggle and feel I will never be happy. The man I married seems very self-centered at times and all we do is argue. My daughter is depressed (and I think I am too) and our family life is so unhappy, yet we have every reason to be happy in many ways. I wish my husband would agree to go to church or something because life seems to have no meaning and I often think that if we had some kind of religious or spiritual core we would be happier. My husband is an atheist and I have a hard time believing specific dogma. I am a Unitarian at heart but I still struggle with life's meaning and how to function in day-to-day life when life just seems so hard.
2006-10-22 20:28:33 · 28 answers · asked by outtahere 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The saying "Life was not meant to be easy" is true. The person who seems to have everything will still have ups and downs in their life. Know it is all a learning experience.
Your daughter will pick up the negativity if that is what is always around. We can not force others to do what we want and trying to do so will only cause division.
Sit and quiet the mind and look within. To change our outer world we must change our inner world only we can do this ourselves.
I hope it works out for you all. Smile and know deep within it will get better, help is always around us if we seek it.
May Peace & Happiness come to you always.
2006-10-22 22:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by *JC* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe Jesus is God?
There is a stereotype that women often times try to change men. I have experienced it myself. I left a wonderful relationship because of this. You cannot change any man, if he's really a man.
I've heard it said that the reason many cultures all over the worls have had planned marriages for their children is because the parents know the children better than the children know themselves.
Maybe he seems selfish because of your desire for him to be something he is not. I don't know.
You say you have every reason to be happy. Why is that? Are these reasons related to material things? Don't you know that material things can never buy you happiness. I know it's a cliche', but it's true.
You should stop seeking happiness and start seeking blessedness. Try reading Mathew 5 and 6.
You say life seams to have no meaning. I Don't fully understand the teachings of universalism, but I surely don't understand how someone who believes Jesus is God, Lord, and Saviour could think life has no meaning.
Why would your husband want to go to church if he's an athiest? The best you'll ever get is him doing it for you to please you. What do you expect him to find in a church when apparently whatever religion your church teachescan't even bring YOU meaning and happiness in life. Obviously from what you've said, I don't see any reason to believe he'll change until YOU change.
I used to think life was meaningless and that we evolved from slime that came from a bing bang where nothing existed before (?).
Now I follow Jesus Christ, the saviour of the world. He really is God in the flesh.
Why don't you \ask God in prayer sincerely:
"God, who is Jesus?"
2006-10-22 20:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by epopsitsirhcitna 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We each have our path to follow.. you always have the option of determining which path you will take.. is what free will is all about.. Since you chose that path (even tho it has many bumps along the way) you are learning a lesson of life.. You now have another choice and pathway to venture upon.. This one is to determine if you will remain caught in the negativity of your journey or, allow yourself to look at life just a little differently and learn how to accept things as they are. As you are finding out, arguing has not solved the problems you face. If you recognize that as a futile and none rewarding venture, then only you can bring about the changes you desire for your life.
Religion or non-religion is not the evident problem.. how you are handling it is! You can agree to disagree; you can accept he will not change his mind; perhaps gaining some peace of mind would go a long way to making a much more pleasant relationship. When the emotions enter into discussions, it remains a lost cause. Try finding things you both enjoy. Sharing those aspects of life will make it much more enjoyable for both.. if there are any kids involved, they will feel much relieved by such a concession (on both sides). Try living life as you wish it would be.
2006-10-22 20:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did you marry this man if you're so unhappy with him, ask yourself that question at least once a day. If you find yourself not knowing the answer that maybe saying something. If your family life is so unhappy and your daughter is so depressed maybe being with this man is not the best thing for you. And life is hard, think about it if life was easy what would be the point in living? Lets see, you're born, you live an easy life, and you die. There is no thrill, and there is no point to live life to the fullest. If life was easy there would never be a challenge, God may have intended for you to marry this man to give you a day-to-day challenge that you have to face. This way life isn't easy but if you do God's will to the end life will get better, and easier, and when you die you go to heaven where you no longer have to worry about life being hard, because it will no longer be hard.
2006-10-22 20:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Go to church, and participate. Leave him alone and concentrate on you. Take your daughter too. You will meet really great people and have lots of groups and people who will support you. Don't let him keep you away, as more women than men go to church. Go during the week as well, you will eventually be so happy and glad that you did. There are youth groups, and also if she is a single adult, there are singles groups. After you husband sees how you have changed and happy you are, maybe he will change his mind and come too. God bless you. Pray and put this in the hands of the Lord. Also in church you will have so much good vibes, and it will help you so much.
2006-10-22 20:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by shardf 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seek to find not just "God" but his son Jesus... there are many so-called ways to God, but the only true way is the way He Himself has revealed, Jesus said, "I am the way the truth and the life; no one comes unto the Father except through me." (John 14:6) When you truly find God, He will help you and your family in ways you cannot even imagine now... Jesus is a friend that sticks closer than a brother. And He will help you through the hard times until you find some good times. If you will read the book of John for starters that will help get you on the right track. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you. (Matthew 6:33) God bless!
2006-10-22 20:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by skypiercer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
many reasons why life has to be hard:
- because the hardships of life make us better persons (depends on how we deal with these problems)
- because it's God's way of testing us spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and perhaps even physically... perhaps to prepare us for even tougher trials in the future, or to prepare our souls for His Kingdom
- because the challenges serve as spice in our life. without challenges, life would just be a bore. challenges are there for us to vanquish them.
based on your situation, you will never be happy unless you convert your outlook on these ordeals into positive challenges. if your daughter is depressed, try to talk to her and ask her what she really wants. maybe she needs to vent out her frustrations.
if your husband wouldn't agree to go to church, fine. arguing with him might make things worse. does he go to any bowling game or baseball game? coax him into tagging you along so that you can have a better glimpse of his version of enjoyment. then try working from there.
yes it's true... it's pretty hard to keep a family intact if there's no religion at its core. but don't lose hope. be patient with them. try solving your own depression first. work your way outward to generate a positive aura. then try attending to each of your family members' issues. you could try quoting some passages from the Bible which could help resolve their own personal problems.
2006-10-22 20:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ricky the Kid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u should stop thinkin tat ur the only person who is unhappy..life is a journey with ups n down and we hav 2 learn from this only..try to know more bout ur man..talk to him..tel him what problem u n ur daughter facing..not a single creature in this planet who dont love his /her offspring...stop argue with him ask him what exactely he want to say/do. it will take some time but slowely it will help u to figure out the hidden things,and that will help u to take decission..always keep in mind u hav one daughter...and that is enough to make a mother happy.
2006-10-22 23:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Islam is the way of unity... There is no God but God and Muhammad is the Messenger of God.
A believer in God should not be married to a non-believer. You may want to consider separation.
Life does have a meaning and when someone does not believe in God, they become a strong negative force in your life. Don't think you can change him for a second when you yourself are drowning, too. A drowning person can not save another drowning person. God is the only one who can save you or him.
God IS one. Pray to the One God for direction and strength. Be ready to make changes that you may not like, but believe they will lead you to happiness, purpose, peace and victory forever. I pray God will Bless you, guide you and give your family strength and a vision of His light and glory that will inculcate faith into all of your hearts.
peace
2006-10-22 20:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mustafa 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
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2016-10-16 07:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋