I went on one date with this girl. I was really really busy and didn't call her for a week and a half after our first date. When we talked she said that she didn't think that this was going anywhere and wanted to be friends. She then asked me what I thought. I told her I really didn't know her to make a decision and would be willing to be friends. She then said she would like to get together next week and to give her a call. Is she playing games? Why would she say she didn't think this was going anywhere and then ask me to call next week to hang out?
2006-10-22 20:03:03 · 12 answers · asked by X 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear dear, she's not playing games - you've been, unknowingly it seems, messing with her mind. How do you go on a date and not call after a week and a half. And don't say you've been busy, please, because we've all been there. It is common courtesy to call her. When you didn't, she felt rejected. When you then did, of course she'd figured you weren't interested and said you could be friends. BUT - and this is a big but, you are a lucky chap because this girl clearly quite fancies you and would like to give you another chance.
Let me spell this out - she'd like to see if it goes anywhere, but is rightfully so only prepared to meet you half way. Sounds like a wholesome, healthy girl to me. If you like her, see her again, and YOU decide if you like her, and SHE will decide if she likes you. Either way, be a gentleman and call her. If you're rude again, you can wave bye-bye permanently to anything with her - including friendship, methinks.
2006-10-22 20:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) The "I'm so beautiful so I'm better than everyone else, and can treat everyone else like crap" game. Having physical beauty doesn't give a woman a license to be arrogant, stuck-up and conceited. Having self cofidence is one thing, but acting like this is quite another. It shows a real lack of class and respect for other people. 2) Telling white lies and exxagerations to make themselves look more desireable. E.g.: faking that you're going out on dates, or exxagerating about all these swarms of men that suppossedly want you, etc. Not only is this dishonest, but a woman who does this really sends a message that something is wrong with her because if she were desirable she wouldn't have to play this game. 3) Dropping hints but never saying what you want. Sure, it might take more courage to come right out and say what you want, but it'll almost certainly save a lot of headaches in the long run. That way the guy and the girl don't have to play charades and 20 questions all the time. 4) Nagging. Too much nagging is a really great way to make your man resent spending time with you. Over time, he'll eventually view you as a behavior policewoman rather than your lover. 5) The "He has to make the first move" game. We live in the 21st century, and feminists have been complaining for decades about breaking down gender barriers. Women aren't property arrangements where the best swordfighter gets to take her home anymore. What's wrong with calling him first, or talking to him first instead of spending weeks wondering if he likes you, asking other people how to get him to notice you, and riding on this psychological merry-go-round? 6) The "I have to make him jealous to get him to like me" game. Going around and flirting with other men makes you look slutty, not wholesome. Again, a woman who does something like that sends the message that she's compensating for other shortcomings. Hey, don't get mad. You asked :)
2016-05-22 00:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like YOU might be playing games. Why did you wait a week and a half to call her? She probably has second thoughts about dating you if she perceives you to be too busy or apathetic towards her. Take her out again and see where it goes. Take the initiative!
2006-10-22 20:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt call her for a week and a half after your first date??
gosh..she might be think that your the one whos playing on her...
make yourself a priority time..
no one wanna be left uncertain like that.
she actually still wants you, but you gotta be a man with some integrity for her to work things out. she might just being confuse for 'your game' which made her chose of being friends with you instead of a relationship...
2006-10-22 20:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by funneh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you can go on one date with someone and decide that you just want to be friends. but if she really does just want to be friends then you should go along with that. this maybe a little decieving but you can test if she really wants to be friends by noticing if she upholds friendship responsibilities like calling back, asking you to hang out with her as much as you ask her to hang out with and stuff like that. if she doesn't return your calls she may be playing games
2006-10-22 20:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women play games with men, that's rule # 1. Rule #2 is you have to fool them at their game.
2006-10-22 20:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by bloodsanctum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be unsure of what she wants or maybe shes skeptikal about pursuing something with you, if she keeps leadimg you on then leave her alone cause shes not worth your time.
2006-10-22 20:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is just bored and can't find anyone else to bum around with.
2006-10-22 20:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just want some company of yours
2006-10-22 20:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by pearl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants to judge you
2006-10-22 20:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by rajan naidu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋