my friend had an abortion 6 months ago.
her mom forced her into it,
dragged her into the clinic.
ever since,
all my friend does is cry.
she drinks excessively,
cuts herself,
wants to kill herself,
runs around drunk asking about her aborted son.
her mom just sits there,
tell her to stop crying,
that she has nothing to cry about.
she is pretending nothing has happened.
she knows what my friend is doing to herself,
yet does nothing.
is this considered neglect?
i want to help my friend,
and if that means calling CPS,
i will.
i just want to be sure before i call that it is neglect or at least mental and/or emotional abuse
2006-10-22 19:45:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
she is 17 years old,
the cutting and drinking is new
2006-10-22 19:55:43 · update #1
I'm going to have to agree with prettyhate, there is no way the clinic would have performed the abortion at the mother's force. Also, CPS isn't going to be very helpful, however, you might want to take your friend to see a counselor. They should have a free mental health clinic in your area. Be there for her, let her know you love her. And most importantly, don't ever forget that there are two sides to every story. I am SO SORRY for your friend AND her mother.
2006-10-23 12:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by yumyum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fIRST i AM SORRY FOR YOUR FRIEND AND HOW MUCH SHE IS SUFFERING. I do think her mother is abusing her emotionally by her comments. She should be able to see that her daughter is depressed and needs help. She is reaching out for help by cutting herself, thinking about suicide, and drinking all the time. This is DEFINATELY the key. If she doesn't get some help things will keep getting worse. Her mother says there is nothing wrong so she is probably not going to take her for treatment. That is where you come in. CPS can see that she gets the right treatment. It's considered neglect when a parent refuses to get medical attention for their child for physical or emotional abuse. I definately think you should call someone before your freind REALLY does hurt herself. I think you are an awesome friend for caring so much..I honor you.and encourage you to do the right thing.
2006-10-22 19:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by chilover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is old enough to get pregnant and drink then this is not neglect. It could be considered emotional abuse, but then if this was the relationship before the abortion it is the 'norm' for this family.
Easiest thing to do is take your friend to a mental health clinic, or a hospital and tell them what is happening. You also need to specify the age of your friend. CPS covers children, not adults.
2006-10-22 19:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tempest88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out how the law work where you live and if it work in your state that at 17 the mother is still the one must take care of her then you call cps and tell them what is going on in the home. First she is leting her daughter drink, and is cutting and is not taking her to a dr. to make sure she is okay. And for a doctor to do a abortion at 6 mos is crazy. so you all so need to find out everything before you go and make waves. And if she is your friend and you have seen her this way why have you not toke her to a doctor? if you that worried
2006-10-22 20:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call CPS. I have been through "The System" when I was young and can tell you the people in the places they put you are likely to care about her situation about as much as her mother seems to care. In any case she has less than 1 yr. before she is 18 so she wouldn't be in state custody for long. However she does need to see someone about counseling and I would be with her as often as you can - esp. considering the suicidal thoughts. Give her the care and support she needs, from what I hear you are the only one that can provide it.
2006-10-22 22:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all be there for her through everything. It seems like you are already doing a good job of that. And it does look like neglect, no abuse. she needs help. MAybe you could talk to her mom. Go see wats up with her. and if she doesn't come around then call cps. or maybe your mom can talk some sense into her.
2006-10-22 19:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by mickey_ds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my g- this is terrible. I would call CPS. I believe in my HEART that she has rights. I'm wondering if she may or may not need to go with you. Call as many people to research this important question. If anything, a new law could be formed if it is not already in place. Go for it!!!
2006-10-22 19:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is 17 and almost an adult so CPS may not be of much help. But as you are such a good friend, I suggest that you tell any one who will help. Priest, Teacher, Dr, counsellor, whoevrer will listen. Keep being a good friend, hang in there and watch her as much as possible. good Luck
2006-10-22 21:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by Karen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, and no one should be able to force abortion on anyone, the mother was wrong in doing that. But tell your friend that its not her fault and she can pray to God for forgiveness. He knows her heart. But what happened happened, and we cant change the past.
Yes her mom is in the wrong. im sure if you called on her she could be charged for something or other...
2006-10-22 20:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by Elley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off, you are a good friend. Do you have a school counselor or psychologist at your school? I would talk to them first. If you are worried about your friends safety and do not have the resources at school then yes call CPS. She needs to get help ASAP!! e-mail me if you want more help
2006-10-22 20:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋