My fiancée wants to have 3-4 grooms men, i don't have 4 really close friends though, one of his friends is with a lovely girl whom i get along with great would it be silly to have her so they could be partners?
I have to closer friends that i have been friends with for years and i feel like the last year we have drifted apart, i know they are expecting to be asked but i don't want to, am i fair or do you think i need to do it out if respect?
I have been engaged for 6 months and after all this time i still feel this way about it!
2006-10-22 19:33:10 · 10 answers · asked by jasesez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Go ahead and invite his female friend as a bridesmaid, there's nothing wrong with that. Especially if you like her.
The point to bridesmaids is to have people around that comfort you, and will support you in this major life change. If you feel your closer friends won't do that, don't invite them to be that. Find people who support you. Even if it has to be sisters, or cousins.
2006-10-22 19:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by firewater_tears 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to ask anybody you don't want to. It's your day and if you're not that close with them anymore then there is no reason for you to ask them. If they expect to be asked then maybe they should put forth more effort to stay close. Even if you don't have as many bridesmaids as he has groomsmen, they can either walk down alone and have the men already up there with the groom or have a girl or 2 walk down with 2 men.
2006-10-23 06:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel free to invite the friend's gf if you get along with her. Will she be willing to help you out running errands and keeping you sane during the lead up to the wedding? Also don't forget siblings and cousins, particularly if he has a sister it's proper protocol to ask her to be in your party.
How long is it until your wedding? Is there enough time to try to reconnect with your old friends? If so, I'd say to try to do that before you make a yes or no decision on whether you want them in your wedding. If you have 6 months or more to go, delay the decision for now about them. If it's coming up fast, then don't do it.
2006-10-23 06:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one answer for this. go with who feels right. If you get along great with this friend of your soon to be hubby then ask her. Believe me asking someone to be your bridesmaid because you dont want to hurt anybodies feelings is wrong. Its your wedding and you need to feel comfortable with the people you choose.
2006-10-23 01:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by bonfireheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be silly at all. Pick whoever you want to pick. If your old friends say something about it say something about how you felt that they may to busy and didn't want to burden them with all the normal bridesmaids tasks. That normally goes over well.
2006-10-22 23:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by masterdvrsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only choose who you really want, because it is a special day and you want things to feel right and go well. Don't ask anyone because they are "expecting" it, or you feel you "must".
2006-10-23 01:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable with asking them, then don't. It's really up to you because it is your wedding... One piece of advice is to ask someone you know you can trust and rely on your wedding day... congrats and good luck!
2006-10-22 19:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if you can convince him to have just 1 groomsman & ask the other mates to help out with other things
do you have any siblings ( m or f) that you could ask to be your attendant?/
NOT silly to have his mates g/f
2006-10-22 22:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding - ask who you want to ask and that you feel comfortable asking or better yet, ask your fiance to downsize his bridal party.
2006-10-22 20:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by Moi. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you ever seen my best friends wedding????... you can ask one of his friends and if you like her ask her,,,, there is no big deal about it
2006-10-22 19:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋