I'm getting married early December. I have my family's side of the guest list, and I THINK I have my fiance's side. His mom gave me a list of names and addresses, and although I've asked her if she's forgotten anyone and she's said no, she forgot her mother-in-law (who is really close with my fiance). I don't know his family that well, and I'm afraid I'll forget someone. If I do, and they approach us after the wedding (like at a Christmas party or something), how do I explain that it wasn't intentional? I don't want to blame my future mother-in-law by saying "Well I guess she just forgot to give us your name", but I don't want to seem like we just didn'tw ant to include them.
2006-10-22 19:13:41 · 9 answers · asked by Bachman-ette 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just ask your fiance to sit down and let you know who she "unintentially" left off. Then approach your future mil and ask her for their addresses. If she "doesnt have them" I'm sure her mil will. You might even ask another member of his family to help, maybe someone from his dad's side of the family would be more help
2006-10-23 04:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your fiance call an aunt or uncle now and get a proper list. Your future MIL is obviously unreliable talk to other people in the family. You have a partial list call them and ask. This is the sort of faux pas you want to prevent, not apologize for later.
2006-10-22 19:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's tricky...... I am getting married next year and thankfully we have decided that we will ony invite close friends and family and people from both sides that we have met as a couple. I think the best thing to do is to stop worrying about what other people might think and do what you think is best. It is your day after all. If you want to invite her, invite her!!!!! If you are worried about what people might say afterward, they would be rude to say anything afterward. With the amount of money weddings cost these days, it is unfair of people to even expect to be invited to a wedding, especially if you don't even know them. Relax and do what is best for you.
2006-10-22 19:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by cyber chick 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you talked to your future husband if she was left off the list or just forgotten, I assume he has some level of involvement. It may be nothing, but if you can not approach him about this, there are other issues here.
2006-10-22 19:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dee Dee Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is NO such thing as "accidentally" in this case. You and your mom double check your list, and make sure your fiance goes over their list with his mom.
2006-10-23 01:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hun you've got enough to stress about without adding this to the list. Relax! Worry about it if it happens, not before.
2006-10-22 19:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Say you wanted a small wedding.
2006-10-23 01:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just apologize and say there must have been a mix up and then invite them to dinner....
2006-10-22 19:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
BLAME it on the printers or the PROFESSIONALS you HIRED.IT WORKS EVERY TIME.
2006-10-22 19:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋