Women generally hate my guts (women please answer)?

Question

Ok, this is what I would like to know about the female psyche. I do not and will not make a pass at a woman. I have never hit on women in my life, I find it beneath me to do such things. However, whenever I go to a bar with friends I always will get bad looks from women. I'm not staring or being loud and obnoxious. I will talk to my friends and everyonce and a while look around, if I see a girl looking in my direction I will quickly look away. Last weekend was the last straw. I went to a bar and there were only two seats left at the bar for me and a friend. I take the seat, and the girl sitting in the bar stool next to me gives me this ugly look. I looked at her and said, "listen lady I don't know you, I don't want to know you. This happens to be the last seat left at the bar and I would like to sit and drink with my friend here." Her response was an even worse look and she got up and left. So tell me women, what it is it about a man you do not know that can make you hate him

Answer 1

Oh my. I have not been in the singles/dating scene for so long. I'll have to think way back, but I'll give it a try.

Women do have passes made at them, and they do get hit on. And usually this happens in bars. And I remember being very sick of it. And yet - I continued to go to bars. Looking back it was stupid of me. I sort of wanted to be hit on - but only by the perfect guy - and I resented anybody else even trying. Gosh that sounds so horribly shallow - but I think that's where I was back then. (Please know that I've grown up quite a bit.) Also - I think I tended to "clump" men into a group. I didn't see them as potential individuals, because I hadn't really known many men as individuals at that point in my life.

Honestly - I think it's the bar scene that's possibly a big part of your problem. Probably if you get out of the environment where making passes and hitting on women is somewhat of the understood norm, you won't experience that anymore. Go to ballgames or book clubs - or anyplace that's less of a "meat market" - and I'll bet your experience will be different. And you didn't say if you were trying to meet a woman - but if you are - then try your hand at theatre. If you don't want to act - do the tech or some backstage work. A lot of male actors are gay - so the actresses are always looking for straight men who hang out at theatres. So if you're not a homophobe - and you're looking for some female company - give it a try!

As for why the women hate your guts - I think you can sum it up to the women's immaturity and inexperience with men.

Hope that helps!

Answer 2

Women are generally more intuitive and sensitive. That's just how we are wired. Maybe you seem a bit more defensive and less friendly than most other men do to them. You also say it is "beneath" you to make a pass at a woman. Let's face it - the majority of people out clubbing are looking to relax, have a good time, and maybe meet someone. Even though you are not being loud or obnoxious, you may still strike them as defensive, or you think you are better than they are. Now defensive men who think they are better than we are usually aren't the type of guys we are looking for. We'd rather get rid of them, and certainly avoid them at all costs. Those are the types our parents warned us about. Now ask yourself honestly, if your daughter met someone who acted the way you do, with your outlook and attitude, would you want her to bring him home to dinner? Certain things just throw up red flags for us. Maybe if you had responded to the woman at the bar by asking her "Excuse me, is anyone sitting here?" instead of what you said, you might have gotten a smile, and maybe your night would have ended differently. Not that you are looking for a date - but at least you wouldn't have gotten a dirty look.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Sometimes we wear facial expressions that we are not even aware of (i.e. a look of concentration while working). You may carry an expression/s that women are reacting to negatively. You can test it out the next time you go to the bar or ask one the opinion of a friend. Have some fun with it!

Answer 5

Is it possible that you were miss-interpreting her look?
Or is it possible that your attitude towards making a pass at women and trying to "win" them is leaking out and making your posture/body language broadcast "you're beneath me" to the women that you meet?
We generally can tell when a guy doesn't care and some of us feel that we're better than that. If you quickly look away from someone, it can make us feel like you're either untrustworthy, or making quick judgements without getting to know the women.

Answer 6

Hmmmm I dont know maybe you are being too sensitive. Maybe you just think they are giving you an ugly look when they're not.

I can't understand why women would treat you that way ALL the time. Sometimes when ladies are out w/ their girlfriends they don't want to be bothered by men and seem to think that all men are hitting on them.

Answer 7

Girls are very odd creatures. Many girls will get mad at men if they don't give them enough attention. So the reason that women might be mean to you is because they expect you to hit on them, and when you don't, they take it as an insult. They are all very spoiled in this way. The solution, if you care, is to just be a little more friendly and flirtatious.

Answer 8

well sweetie at a bar when people are drinking they think their sh** doesnt stink...they think they are the talk of the bar and when someone like yourself show's no interest in them they don't know how to take it...I was a bartender for 3 n half years I've seen it more than once....don't worry about what other people think of you, just be who you are and don't sweat the small stuff

Answer 9

maybe ur too sensitive bout other's attention on u, a look can mean different things esp if ur hanging out where most pple are lil tipsy n sober. just don't mind them, enjoy the nyt n don't let others action ruin ur nyt. if i got stared, i really don't care, if guys give me a second look, it feels good, so don't be annoyed.
also, post ur pic here, u'll get better answers

Answer 10

Maybe you are mistaking there looks. Just because a person looks at you a certain way doesn't mean she hates your guts. Did you ever try talking to them to find out?