So I've noticed this guy I think is cute at my grad school in one of my classes who works in the library. We both seem to be there everyday but have never talked. We cross paths like once a day at least so I tried to be friendly and say hi and smile when I'd come into the library or have a goodnight as I left being sure to smile and make a bit of lingering eye contact. My question is its hard to read his face, he'll respond and kindof follow me with a stare but doesnt always make a facial expression. Once I said hi and he gave a slow nod and then almost sorta 'remembered' to smile just after. Yesterday I went up to him at the counter and tried to strike up a convo about class. He was kinda shifty eyed and then tried to pull in a co worker into the conversation. I've seen him interact with other people before and he seems somewhat at ease. Based on our minimal convo and my little attempts to be friendly, what should I do next? Any signals to watch for to tell if he likes me?
2006-10-22 18:58:42 · 9 answers · asked by Stephanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't wait. it would be pointless because he does not like you like that and probably thinks you're a bit creepy, not that you are just saying. overall, it is in your best interest to stop while you are ahead so that you don't end up being heartbroken later on and then lamenting over the obvious signs of his dislike for you which is ten times worse when your already in the hole. it's like your playing scrabble and you put down a simple 3 letter word only to realize after that you could have made a kickass 5 letter word.
2006-10-22 19:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Flabbergasted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be discouraged by what happened when you tried starting a conversation with him. Take it from me, I use to be a really shy guy with girls I liked. If I was in a classroom, I could speak to any girl I wasn't attracted to. But the moment the girl with the golden glow showed up, I became a mess. I would never look in her direction. I was shifty eyed and If I spoke to her one on one I felt she could look through my eyes and see how I truely felt about her. I know that's a good thing but since she was the girl I really wanted, I couldn't live with myself if she knew I liked her and she didn't feel the same. So I chose to love her from a distance and she would never know. That was kind of stupid of me because she would clearly show me that she liked me. Similar to how you show your interest to Sir. Doesn'ttalkalot. But I guess I needed more convincing before I put my heart on the line and she understood that. So she stopped trying to get my attention, found the perfect opportunity to talk to me with out any of our peers around. Told me exactly how she felt about me and then I came clean and told her everything. That first kiss was magical and I'll never ever forget it. But her family move from the country and I lost my love at the tender age of 15. She now lives in Mexico and we have both moved on since then. My advice to you: Take a chance, you got nothing to lose and a lot of love to gain.
2006-10-22 20:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by Big Milt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what interests him. Also you will want to find out if he is seeing anyone. Once you find all that information out, if you dont know much about his interest do some research so you can approach him at some point with a comment about whatever it is he's interested in. He may think you totally the opposite of his type. Let him know you're willing to go the extra mile for him.
2006-10-22 19:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by ~MandiNic~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea hes into you...he sees his othe female pals as non threatening like between the adult adult males... despite if he's a lil intimidated or shy around u as a results of fact he see's u as a female and one he's attracted to none the fewer... all u could desire to do is the subsequent time ur in passing.. touch his arm and depart it there a sprint longer than regularly occurring smile and shop eye touch so he knows that u are conscious that u r touching him... which will supply him the arrogance to bypass forward to asking u out.. :)
2016-12-08 19:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by daies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any time a man invites another into a conversation that's the first sign of no interest . but you can keep pushing only to receive a red light.
2006-10-22 19:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by passionate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he has a girlfriend... ever think of that? He probably doesn't wanna be talking to you because he feels guilty.. first find out if he is single somehow.
2006-10-22 19:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by travis R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not used to talking to strangers. Try talking to him everyday get him used to you. Watch him and see if he stares at you secretly. See if he gets nervous around you.
2006-10-22 19:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by O'dette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach him and say "Hey, what's goin on? Hows that class goin?"
Make sure you don't go out of your way to talk to him, you will seem desperate.
2006-10-22 19:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
w8 for a sign that is obvious to you....when a guy likes you....he will throw the signal out there.
2006-10-22 19:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by jen4802051709 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋