It is so hard to get a straight answer from her. Things were great for a few months but now she's shied away these past 2 or 3 months. She assures me she loves me but she has a hard time with showing her emotions. It's not that I don't believe her, and I obviously want to, too, but I am not naive, either. So I plan to put it out there, real cut and dry and this is what I came up with.
Got a few suggestions, changed it up a bit and have:
You are more than I have ever dreamed about finding in a woman. I need to know that you feel the same towards me. Am I everything you want or do you just need more?
Pretty straight forward isn't it? I swear I am contemplating asking for a simple yes or no. Good? Any more suggestions?
2006-10-22 18:53:39 · 5 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she has 'shied away' from you the past couple of months, that's a very deep question for someone who's backing off. However, you seem to want a 'commitment' and that's what you should come forward with and some 'expectations' in the commitment. Seems either you're gonna drive her farther away though. You might just ask her to tell you why she's backed off some because it has caused you to doubt her love and try to reign her in tightly. Ease into it by not being so cut and dry.
Good luck doll!
2006-10-22 19:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, that is a seriously loaded question and very intense.
Starting the way you have puts a heap of pressure on her and that isn't a yes or no question Do you really want a yes or no. That question wont necessarily get her talking but possibly retreat more. Rarely is anyone everything you ever want. Being straight forward is good but this is sounding really needy and intense.
2006-10-22 19:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by soxy190 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by parisien 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Am I everything you want or do you just need more"
Maybe you could put it less like an ultimatum and more like a doorway for discussion...such as "Are your needs being met in this relationship" or "What can I do to better fulfill your needs as a friend and partner?" Perhaps not in such formal terms, but something in a way that allows her to communicate what she is feeling rather than demanding she answer yes or no to a question which, in essence, sounds as if you are asking her if you are good enough for her.
Hope that helps and good luck with your relationship!
2006-10-22 19:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by McComasMama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are proposing. Tone it down just a little.
2006-10-22 18:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋