My crush asked me out [eventuallyy!!!]......and i am so thrilled.......we love each other and we wanna just have sum fun...like go out on a date and all....but my mum is DEAD strict.....she doesnt even let me go for a walk if i dont have a good enough reason....i have tried talking about this with her, but its really not working...........so basically, can u ppl pleaseee help me think of a GOOD excuse which i can fool her with?????? because i just wanna have sum fun in life....and its not like everyday that a guy asks you out.....and that too the school hunk.......so pls help me out guys...i really love him and i dont want to lose him ....so can ne1 also gimme ideas on how NOT to lose a guy??????????....thankyou... :-)
2006-10-22 18:31:00 · 14 answers · asked by *Vixen* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um....just one more thing.....i absolutely cannot let my parents know about this, because they HATE his guy .....i really don't know why, BUT THEY HATTEEE HIM...that sucks!!....and i can't go to his house either, because if his mum cums to know, she'll probably tell my mum ....we are very close family friends too... :(
2006-10-22 18:35:28 · update #1
STOP STOP STOP If you tell one lie you will have to tell another one to cover of the first one. Honesty goes along way, and once trust is broken it's hard to regain.
You seem to be head oer heels for this guy you have not even gone out with. So does he feel the same way. And if he loves you then he would not want you to lie to be with him. You need to talk with your mother more and find out why she doesn't want to let you solo, maybe the guy's parent can talk to her
But don't start a relationship out on a lie
2006-10-22 18:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by seriouslady4sure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How not to lose an honorable guy is by refusing to trick your mom, asking her about going out, and if she doesn't let you, be honest with him about the reason. Then he might have the sense to see that you are a good daughter and would therefore make a good girlfriend, mother, and so on. And if he doesn't, well, good thing your mom didn't want you with him.
I read your update. If your parents don't like the guy but his mom is friends with your mom, it seems there's something wrong with him or with his mom. Either way, stay away. However, if you have to do something, maybe ask your mom why she doesn't like him but is friends with his mom.
2006-10-23 01:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you possibly love someone you have never even gone out with? You are obviously too young to date.
So do not lie to your parents and don't sneak out. You will be found out and your parents will not trust you.
See if your parents will let you invite him over to just hang out when they are home. Let them get to know him. If he treats your parents with respect, maybe in time they will let you go to a movie with him with a group of kids.
If that doesn't work, wait till you are old enough to date. You have plenty of time to have fun in life.
2006-10-23 02:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say how old you are? and by what you are saying I am assuming your parents have not given you permission to start dating, that is for a reason believe it or not, their job is to protect you. I don't like that you want to LIE to them to have fun, because guess what if they find out and they probably will they will loose trust in you. It is not worth it, mabe tell them that you want them to meet this guy from school because you two would like to go to the movies or something, it is MUCH better to do things the right way........... you won't regret it.
2006-10-23 01:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a big difference between and crush and love. I"m pretty sure you don't know the difference. As for the excuse, just go say you're going to go to the movies with a female friend, tell that female friend so she knows the deal, and just go out with the gu already. Is it that hard to think of something like this?
2006-10-23 01:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by Omar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just have fun and be yourself, It sounds cliche but it'll work if not with this guy definitely a better guy. As for your mum, you could always sneak out of the house, or tell her you're staying at a friends house. You could always tell her its a friends birthday or some function. Sorry don't have a hell of alot coming to me. Good luck with it though, and have fun.
2006-10-23 01:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have another serious talk with your mom with statistics of the number of young people having sex. Then tell her that you are more likely to do it young because many kids have sex at a young age in order to get back at their mother and that you don't want to do that, you want to be honest with her. Just hit her with truth and psychology.
Make sure to tell her that you are going out in a group and tell her with whom. If you are honest with her upfront, then she will trust you.
2006-10-23 01:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mother to come with you on the date. If that guy really cares about you, he'll go along until you graduate from high school.
Don't fool your mother because your mother is not stupid. When she finds out what you did, it will backfire you.
2006-10-23 01:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hunny
from the sounds of it and by the look of ur avatar ur asian. so am i.
i've lived through that whole my parents will kill me if im with a guy they dont like. i understand that. i also understand (finally) that all their protection is done out of love....
we as their children dont always realize this but it is true.
and we need to learn to respect them. for as long as u depend on them for food housing and all that crap, we should be willing to submit.
i know this isnt what you wanted to hear but im being honest with you.
much love,
from me to you
2006-10-23 01:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him over a few times while your parents are there. Maybe when they get to know him they will change there minds.
2006-10-23 01:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋