Please help me!, I feel it is a right time to go for HIV test, but am so much scared, I had many girlfriends!!

Question

IAm 27years old, I feel it is the time to get married and live the family life. For the coming 2years, I should be married and at least have one kid.

But, I feel too much scared, I suppose it comes positive?? will all my dreams be shut down? will be able to have a baby if found positive??. What will be the reaction from my friends? family and other relatives?.Really these are the questions daily ringing in my head.

These questions acted as a break for me to go for a test. Should I mary before testing? how about the kid if found positive? how about its mom?.Just a bit cough make me feel,ooooooooh! the symptoms have already started!!!Lots and lots of questions burning my brain.

Please help me, where and how to start?, I HAVE NEVER SEXED WITHOUT A CONDOM

Answer 1

get tested get tested now.............. how on earth can you think about finding a wife and NOT knowing if you are positive........ if you are positive you would be killing her and killing the child you claim to want. Is that what kind of man you want to be? the kind who kills a woman and a child becouse he was scared?
GET TESTED

GET TESTED

Answer 2

if you have always worn a condom stop freaking out. just go get the test, it is no thing. a prick in the arm from a needle and the results come back. it is nothing to stress over, I have had many tests and unlike you I have had unprotected sex, I have yet to stress about it. as for the positive stuff, would you rather not know and spread it or know and be able to protect your partner? Could you hava a baby, probably with invetro but that I am not 100% on. I think you are tweaking over nothing, I am sure you are going to come out clean, just go do it and you will see it is nothing, as for symptoms, there are no Symptoms of HIV, only AIDS, and even that there are no sympotms, you just get really sick as it kills your immume system and everyother desease out there gets you. so you sound healthy and you had not been regularly putting yourself at risk (no unprotected sex) so don't stress, go get it done, call it a day. It isn't a thing ;)

Answer 3

Yes. I was in many high risk situation in my life before I met my last wife. That was 20 years ago and I was working in a hospital at that that time. She was a virgin and after a 2 year courtship we decided to marry. The lab did the required blood tests and I ask that I be tested at that time. The risky behavior had stopped 4 years prior but I learned that the HIV virus can lay dormant as long as 15 years. The doctor who read the report and give me the results told me "I have some good news and some bad news" The pounding of my heart filled the room. "The bad news is, if you're planning to have kids, your lady should get a shot for mumps" " Oh, and that's also the good news" :>)

Answer 4

It would be nerve racking for anyone. Just do it as the other person said. Once you know, all these questions and fears will stop. You are probably fine, you never went without a condom. Talk to the people at the test place about your concerns. Sounds like you are better off knowing. Then you can move on with your life.

Answer 5

You shouldn't be the only one that should be scared of an HIV test. Your future wide to be should be afraid of the prospect of you having the disease. For that matter, anyone you ever slept with should fear the disease as well. AIDS awareness my friend!

Now is where I really get terse with you. You are one of the many reasons why AIDS is prevalent. How irresponsible can you be? Now go get that HIV test. Pray that you test negative. If you do, thank God right now and learn to lead a monogamous life. Do you understand?

Answer 6

When I met my hunny buns we both went in to get tested for every single std you can think about. It is better to play it safe than to infect them cuz then u will reallly not have that future with that person you think might be it. Be honest from the start, if you are really worried about it go on your own but dont be stupid and not get one done b4 you go unprotected with your partner. Anyone who is having sex (be it with one person or multiple) should get tested every 6 months to one year. Why you may ask. Cause it takes atleast 6 months for any bad disease to show up....well its really 3 but you dont want to seem like a freak every 3 months you know? SO regarless of if you want to get married and go steady or you want to hoe around, you should get tested cause most diseases are preventable if caught at an early stage. Play it smart buddy not stupid go get your self tested. If you have anything its not the end of the world because there are dating sites for hiv ppl n stuff. I dont know of any cause I dont have it but I saw a commercial on T.V. So good luck and take care!

Answer 7

hi, well first calm down and take a deep breath.now just clear your mind and dont let this stress you out ill try to answer all of your questions ok. ok well first of all im glad you feel its time to settle down and have a family but it is important to take a HIV test before you start to settle down (getting married). what if it comes out positive? what if it comes out negative? YOU WILL NEVER KNOW UNLESS YOU GO GET TESTED. if you keep waiting then the more its going to stress you out and get you worried. If it comes out positive the sooner youll be able to control it and address the problem but if it becomes negative then youll have a great relief knowing you dont have HIV. now your next question was if itll shut down all your dreams and the answer is no if you dont let it your future is in your hands if you turn out to be positive you have the chance to let it ruin your life n be miserable or make it give you more strength to go towards your goals and accomplish your dreams. it doesnt have to be the end of the world you just cant let it overcome you just be strong and go for friends and relatives for comfort and support. also yes you can have a baby if positive but the baby may come out positive too and also the mother and i know you wouldnt want to give that to your loved ones (wife and child) so i would consider to adopt but if you are then ask your doctore he'll help you out but if your not then nothing to worry about. Well the reaction of your friends, family, and other relatives, wont be so bad they are not going to hate you, or get away from you, or be mad instead if they really love you which i bet you they do theyll love you more, appreciate you more, support you and be there for you, they wont treat you indiffrent your still a normal person. and if they have a bad reaction then F. them because they are not real friends and dont really love you and as you know some friends are fake but your family are ALWAYS going to be there for you. Now i think you should take a test before getting married it only takes a couple minutes to take it and you wouldnt want to start a marriage without being honest to your wife you have to let her know before but for you can know if you are or not dont beat yourself up wondering if you are because that can cause a problem in your marriage and life if you stress about it so take it before is what i suggest. well the kid might be under treatments if found positive but you can prevent that by finding out if you have HIV and the mom too she should get tested too for yall both can be safe. oh and if you get sick dont exaggerate and think its symptoms. so make time and go get tested it only takes a couple of minutes and this can make you live in peace with yourself, and be happy, and stress free, and safe around your loved ones. if you turn out to be dont let it put you down let it make you stronger ok its not the end of the world and if you dont have HIV then youll be happy and i wish you the best with your future, n future marriage. i hoped i helped you and answered all your questions if you have further questions just email me

Answer 8

u should go for the test b4 yr marriage to b a responible man! If u r tested postive then it the end of yr dreams u hv to face the price for it yrslf. If u r lucky enough u will enjoy yr dreams but bear in mind this kind of luck dun come twice! Learn to treasure yrslf n yr partner b faithful!

1st u go see a doctor any clinic they r able to do this kind of test just tat if u do in it a clinic u hv to wait a few days for the result, if u go to a hospital u may b able to get the result within a few hour! U r alrdy 27yrs old u shld b abe to face the outcome!Everyone noe tat watever things u did u hv to pay a price for it....so gd luck to u.

Answer 9

u knew exactly what u were doing...why so many and not one? why cant 1 woman be loved? everyone should be responsible for their actions...if u r positive then yea, no girl will want u and forget about ever having a child...if u r positive its best to let the girl your with let go so at least she can have a normal life without catching anything from u and u ruining her life...sorry man

Answer 10

dude, better to know. just go get the test. it's super fast. then at least you will know the answer, whatever it is; think of the relief of that and stop stressing over something you don't know; it's natural to be a little scared, but don't be unrealistic--you don't know if you have it or not, go take the test.