This is long, but I really need HELP?!!??

Question

I met a guy in church, not long ago and I gave him my email, but then he asked for my number cause he didn't have email...a few days he called me, and we talked, he called me almost everyday, once he came to my place, but the first thing he did was turn on the tv, then I asked him and he said it was cause he was nervous? after that he said if I wanted to go see a movie, so we went.we saw the movie and then he brought me back home, I told him to call me and he didn't say anything I think a day passed and I text messaged him, and I asked him what happened, then the next day he called, and he talked like nothing happened.My problem is that I can't say things to someone, everytime I kept sending him text messages, once when we were talking he told me that he got a girl pregnant and she ABORTED, he said she was crazy,then I was shocked, I don't remember how this came up, but he said he likes to have sex frequently, then I told him I'm saving myself for marriage!! My question is not over....

Then he said that no one can make me do things I don't wanna do, then he said I was saying that cause I never had it....after that I drifted apart from him, I just wasn't expecting that.....we are so different, he likes to party a lot, he's barely home, but he works mon-fri, so I guess he can have fun...I'm 23 and he's 22...one day he told me he was doing me a favor? then he said it was a joke? was it really? I sent him messages saying that I thought he was different and that he was probably looking for a model or something, and that I have something they don't have, a nice heart and good feelings....after that once he called me and asked me what's wrong with me? that he didn't do anything to me....but he kept calling me, do you think he liked me or not? I mean I screwed up, I sent him so many text messages, and that was my mistake...I called him yesterday, but I hung up, I don't have the guts to talk to him...what should I do, I really miss him!!!

Well, after I told him that I wanted to marry a virgin, he kept calling me still......but after, I went on a date with someone, and he called in the middle of the date, and I practically hung up on him, but a few days after he called again........

Once he gave me the email of his bro, cause he wanted me to send him my pic....and after I totally screwed up.......i decided to contact his bro....but he won't help me....his bro saw my pic and he said he wanted to be more than just friends with me, when I told him I wanted to be his friend........and he told me that his bro (the guy I like), once told him that I was a nice girl and that he didn't want to play with my feelings......you think he only told me that cause it's his bro?? or could it be true?? Please help!!!

well I think he is trouble....he's still experimenting, he's 22, and now is the time to experiment, right? .... I told him I was boring, and he said he was gonna change that......I haven't spoken to him in a long time now, and I really miss him!!!!

Answer 1

To me, it sounds like he's not interested in you at all, well maybe he wants to fool around with you, but that's it.
As much as you miss him, and as difficult as it may be, the best advice I can give you is to stay away from him.
It sounds like he's playing games with you, and he'll likely only cause you hurt for as long as you allow him in your life. His priorities seem to involve partying and sleeping around- and little else.

Answer 2

From your previous questions and this one, it sounds like you're obsessed with this guy, sending him a whole bunch of text messages, etc. , when it doesn't appear that he feels the same about you. I don't see in your questions where he says he feels anything for you, except for the fact that you're 'missing out' on sex. If you get with him, he'll expect sex eventually. He's not worth it! Stick to your morals and stay a virgin until you're married. You'll be glad you did, and good for you that you are doing so! Just wait. God will show you to your knight in shining armour when the time is right. Just pray about it. And in the meantime, do something constructive and try to forget about this guy. And remember, God answers our prayers. It may not be in the way we expect, or in our timeframe, but, in His time, and in His way, it will happen.

Answer 3

Honey it sounds to me he just wants to be the first. Guys like that keep score on how many they have had. Stay away from this guy. He needs to grow up and learn some respect. You are making the right decision. When the time comes that you are ready to have sex it will come as a natural feeling and it will just happen. It shouldnt be planned. It's very good you are waiting for marriage. SMART GIRL. It's better that way.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like he is not the right man for you. I mean he is sexually active and open about it and you are not. Also you met in church and I am pretty sure that all churches adamantly stand against abortion so the fact that 1 he brought it up and 2 he felt no shame in not fighting for his son or daughter is appalling! You also mentioned he received your number because he had no e-mail but after he could text message you. the guy seems shady at best find a new one they are out there don't worry you seem like a good girl! have some faith in yourself not many save their selves for marriage! GOD BLESS and good luck!

Answer 5

Wow, I know that was hard to spill your guts about something so personal, let me tell you I was a virgin when I met my husband and he had experience and because I was a Virgin he tried to pressure me a lot and even wanted us to move in with each other, after he kept pushing and pushing the issue I finally gave in, IT WAS MY BIGGEST REGRET, I lost respect for myself and felt like I had to marry him, we got married for the wrong reasons, we have now been married for 16 years, but we have had a lot of hard times, things are much better now, but that one incident really effected my feelings for myself. My gut tells me this guy is BAD news, you will definately meet a guy that God had for you and don't give it up for NOTHING, stay strong GIRL, this is something you should never regret. And next time you talk with him, say you know what how dare you go to church with the hope of making girls loose their virginity, you are a looser and I am glad I got wind of your real intentions.

Answer 6

Girl you crazy to miss this man hooo, if you feel in your heart that you want to save yourself for marraige then you should, any man that can do the things this man is doing imagine if you guys get more deep then whaht u will put up with all his ****, leave and never LOOK BACK he ain't worth it so do your self a favour and LEAVE.

Answer 7

I think you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders... and this guy, from what you describe, isn't for you. Too many bad feelings and communication so early on is not a good sign. If you are saving yourself for your husband, (very good for you, by the way) don't you want the same from a man?

Answer 8

just move on hes not worth ur time there r millions beond millions of people in this world so forget about him hes a jurk u can find better trust me u will no when u will fine some 1 u love so just forget and fine some 1 new its not hard

Answer 9

Do yourself a giant favor, RUN AWAY. Go find a nice guy from church. Maybe someone a friend knows.

Answer 10

leave him, he obviously has no interest in you, and if he brought up sex that easy, out of the blue, he only wants you for that, adnas soon as you sleep with him he will be gone, or he gave up since you told him you wanted to stay a virgin