It was instant attraction when I first met him on our first date. That was 4 months ago. Whenever we're together we can't keep our hands off each other but we didn't get intimate until just about 3 weeks ago. The issue is the guy is basicly unavailable and still a mystery to me after all these months and I'm suspecting that he is a player ( of course he denies it but he calls with a private number and I still don't know where he lives) his excuse is that he is busy with work. ( according to him he is in management)
I've been trying to date other people to try and forget about him because constant waiting sucks...but everytime I'm with someone else, he is always there on my mind...and everytime when I tell him that I'm going out he seem to be afraid of loosing me and shows up right away. I don't know if he is testing me, or if I should wait for him. I know it's hard for me to move on becuase I can't forget him but at the same time it's agonizing to be waiting for him. What am I to do?
2006-10-22 18:05:55 · 10 answers · asked by Ms.Owl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girlfriend i think that you should definitely leave beause he is playing you like a fiddle.Probably not with another woman but he is playing with your emotions for sure.If the guy was really serious about you he would try to have some time for you in his day.Think about it veryone has 24hours a day are you telling me that he can't find 2hours or even 1/2hour to havea chat with you.The next thing is he doesn't want you to know where he lives get that in your head.He has something to hide or he is ashamed about something you should look deeper into that.The way you think about youcan't move on is because you are still thinking about the past times that you guys had that were really good times. Let a memory remain a memory and not your purpose for wanting to be with someone.Don't put yourheart on the line for memories and let go if you think that new good memories aren't being made.I personally think that you should ask him what is his motive towards you and then you should try to move on from there because baby that doesn't sound to promising to me.
2006-10-22 18:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are, but from what I read, this guy is married or living with someone. Think about it, you dont know his home number, you dont know is address and he is busy all the time. After 4 months of dating, this is definately fishy. Plus he is paranoid about you dating other people (hmm people who cheat are often paranoid their partner is cheating, i guess we project our personalities onto others)
don't waste any more time on him, he is using you as his toy on the side, when he is bored. It has only been 4 months, you havent invested too much of your time into it yet. Ask yourself this, why are you waiting around for him to decide what is going to happen to this relationship. Grab the reins and decide yourself that this is not the kind of relationship you want and will not put up with it any longer. If you like this guy so much, imagine how much you will like a guy that gives you his full time and attention.
2006-10-23 01:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by spacecat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you do is make a decision that you're important and should be treated a certain way all the time.
He doesn't care about you.....if he did you would be happy and you wouldn't be on YA asking this question.
You are the only one who can make you happy. You are the only one to give you back your self-respect.
Not being able to keep your hands off each other means nothing...animals in heat are like that.
2006-10-23 01:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have ANY self-respect left, get as far away from him as fast as you possibly can! He is playing you for an ABSOLUTE FOOL and you are LETTING HIM DO IT. If this is how you want to live, fine, but if on the other hand you might just want to have a REAL LIFE with a REAL PARTNER in it, then you already KNOW what you have to do. He will of course PLAY YOU AS LONG AS YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE PLAYED, but only because there is SEX INVOLVED. Take my word for it, the minute you shut off the "sex tap" he will vanish forever, because then there will be NO REASON WHATSOEVER for him to come sniffing around again. So, YOU DECIDE if you are willing to be his OCCASIONAL SEXUAL PLAYTHING and that is what you are willing to settle for in this sad "pseudo-relationship", or you want to get your SELF-RESPECT and your SELF-WORTH back and move on with your life and the hope and the REAL POSSIBILITY of meeting someone who will treat you like a COMPLETE HUMAN BEING instead of as a PIECE OF MEAT!
2006-10-23 01:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being an obsessive easily manipulated person for one, and either move on or quit crying and learn to accept the situation
2006-10-23 01:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are to make yourself worthy of getting a respectable guy instead of a dirtbag. "unavailable" and "a mystery". Stop setting yourself up to get abused.
2006-10-23 01:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you're not really leaving yourself a lot of choices...hey, do your thing, and if he likes you, he'll come to you. if not, that's great too, because you'll have a few other guys you're talking to also.
2006-10-23 01:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Nick C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him if he is married-or going through a divorce!
2006-10-23 01:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
GO GIRL...RUN...FAST
TOO MUCH INUENDO ON HIS PART...
HE IS PLAYING YOU ..AND IS EITHER IN A RELATIONSHIP OR HIDING SOMETHING MORE
GET THEM JAPANESE SPEED BOOTS ON AND KEEP ON TRUCKING
2006-10-23 01:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Blondie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dunno i'm in the same situation (though in a slightly different way)
dam it... it's so hard to move on when your in love
dam it!!!
-good luck though
2006-10-23 01:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋