I am 24 years old and my boyfriend is 30. We have been in a semi-long distance relationship for the past two years. Yesterday he said, and I quote, "I don't know why I don't love you." He said that he sees loving me as a lifestyle choice and he is not sure if he is ready to go down that road. However, he did not say that he wants to break up. I feel like my needs are not being met. And yet, I love him and the thought of him not being in my life is terrifying. Any advice?
2006-10-22 17:57:01 · 7 answers · asked by Ryan M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u can still have him as a friend, but if ur needs arent being met i'd suggest finding someone who can satisfy ur needs. if he refuses to just be ur friend then hes obsessive and get rid of him no matter how hard it may be b/c that could end up being a parasite-host type relationship where he "feeds" off of u and gves little or nothing back. No one should be in that position.
2006-10-22 18:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by The Evil Drummer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have an honest and frank discussion with him, tell him exactly how you feel and what you need. Otherwise he might not know he is hurting your feelings, however it does sound that he might not be into the relationship as much perhaps the long distance is a problem talk to him about it come to a mutual decision. You dont want to be with someone that doesnt love you as much as you love them !
2006-10-23 00:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, you cannot really be "in love" with someone who does not love you in return. "Unrequited love" is actually an oxymoron, because if the feeling isn't mutual then it is really a crush on or an obsession for him that you are experiencing. That being said, you just have to decide what you are willing to settle for in your life, and for how long.
2006-10-23 01:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE is a verb not feeling the feeling is the fruit of the love ............
so tell him try to love u ......
or may be u don't or u can't undrestand him...
so try to undrestand him more sacrifice more deny his bad temper and manners and so on..afterwards if u see the previous condition is going on like before so become decissive and break it up cause unballanced relationship with cause lots of mental trouble for u ....
2006-10-23 01:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by esii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just looking for a relationship of convenience not love. Which is pretty standard these days. People settle for what they can get instead of what they want. After all, isn't it better to be with someone you don't love than with noone at all?
Isn't it ...
2006-10-23 01:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by kharmageddon74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(response to backinrow)
Actually thats your definition of love. Bro, love can be alot of things- It could be letting her love someone else, to watching her be happy. It shouldnt be singled down to just your definition
2006-10-23 01:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being with someone who doesn't love you is agony compared to being alone. you deserve better.
2006-10-23 01:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by medellia1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋