A girl says am the dad of her child but i dont think so?

Question

i am 20 and I was going out with a girl who i slept with on the 28th Aug 2006 when i got back from a trip 12 days later she say she was pregnant.. we went doctors two days later he said she was 5.5 weeks pregnant then she said she went back and the doctor said she was 3.5 weeks but I broke up with her.. now she is calling me and saying am getting my face filled in.. and her new boyfriend said he will come and get me if i don't pay for a pram and cloths baby ain't due until may 12th..

I think she slept with someone 3 weeks or so before me and i have a job and a car and think she is after using me ill be getting a DNA but am not too clued up on this and need some advice what can she do before DNA could it be mine or not am so confused and feel so depressed with all that's gone on..

THANKS FOR YOUR HELP

she has a first scan on the 27thOCT 2006 i think this is moving too fast hope its not mine i cant stand the girl anymore she rings me up and says am getting jumped then he tells me am getting jumped and there now threatening my new girlfriend who has done nothing

Answer 1

First of all... do not give her anything until after the baby is born and a DNA test say's it's yours. The law does not require you to support the baby until it is born. Although if it is proven that you are the daddy you may have to pay for the half of the doctor and hospital fees. But do not give her anything until you get a court order to do so! The money isn't refundable and you probably won't get credit for giving it to her.
If you had sex with her on the 28th of August her due date would be around June 4th.
Even if she was telling the truth about the doctor saying she was 3.5 weeks pregnant it still would not be your baby.
You said 12 days after you had sex with her, she told you she was pregnant,two days later she goes to the doctor and he says she's 5.5 weeks and then later she says 3.5 weeks 12 + 2 = 14 = 2 weeks.... 3.5 weeks would be close to 25 days so you are probably correct in saying she slept with someone else 3 weeks before sleeping with you!

Answer 2

When the dr. said 5 1/2 weeks, was he going by the date of her last period, or did he du an ultrasound? If he did an ultrasound, then the 5 1/2 weeks is probably right.

The due date you gave, May 12, sounds too early if you slept with her on the 28th. I think it should be about two weeks later, but that's just an estimate.

My best advice would be to go to the dr. with her again, and see what the dr. is telling her, that way, you can be sure she's not changing the facts around to make the dates right for you to be the father. Does that make sense?

When she is around 20 weeks along, the dr. will want to do an ultrasound, to check things and maybe find out the gender. Go with her to this one. The dr. will say how many weeks along for sure, and tell her the due date again (sometimes they change it after an ultrasound). Ask him or her around what date the baby was conceived, and if it was way before you slept with her, then there's your answer right there.

After the baby is born, definately have a DNA test done. If you are no longer together with this girl, you do not want to give her money to raise a child that isn't yours.

Also, if you do buy anything for the baby before it is born, and before the paternity test results come back, be sure to keep the receipt. That way, if the baby is not yours, you can either return the item, or get your money back from her.

Just make sure not to do anything to put a lot of extra strain on the relationship with her. If it does end up being your baby, no matter how little you want to do with this girl, she is going to be in your life for many years.

Good luck, and, if it is your baby after all, congratulations.

Answer 3

If you went to the doctor's office 14 days after the last time you slept with her, she would only be two weeks along if the baby was yours. If she's 3 1/2 weeks, or 5 1/2 along, sounds like someone else's. Then again, doctors can always be wrong especially when approximating. A blood test can better give a guestimate as to when the baby was actually concieved...but I honestly don't think pinpointing an EXACT date is even possible. Then again, I'm only 20, too, and definitely not an Obstetrician/Gynecologist. I'm not a lawyer, either, but I'm pretty sure you're not financially responsible for the baby at all until a DNA test can be done. In fact, I'm 99.9% sure of this. Until a DNA test determines whether or not you're the father of the baby, it's your word against hers. I do know this, though: Paternity tests are pretty expensive, my dad just had one for my 14 year old little brother when this kid called saying his mom always said my dad was his father. Upwards of like, $500. They took a cotton swab and swabbed the inside of both of their cheeks, so it was painless, I don't see why this couldn't be done at birth. So my advice would be to start saving your pennies, just in case. If she's due May 12th, it's cutting it pretty close. Get a restraining order against the new boyfriend if he causes any trouble.

Answer 4

If your husband had desired a courting together with his daughter, he could have made it occur. He appears like a competent man. Don't blame the opposite girl totally. Yeah, she should not have saved his baby clear of him, however that is why courts exist. A mom are not able to simply take off and deprive the organic father of his rights. There was once authorized recourse for him, however he did not wish it. If he desires to be a father now, then he'll have a fiscal duty located upon him. The courtroom would possibly not supply this lady's mom $1500 per thirty days except your husband earns a satisfactory deal of cash. If he does have that so much, then you'll must alter your tradition and, sure, probably promote your condo to downsize. I comprehend it's demanding to have a brand new and high-priced price, particularly while you do not get something out of it, however recall your self fortunate, I bet, that your husband did not must pay baby help for the primary 13 years. Not having to elevate and furnish for his possess baby allowed him to end up the triumphant guy he's at present. Now he is on the factor in his profession wherein he can have the funds for to support his possess baby. Unless he is disappointed approximately the problem, I could drop it. You married a person with a beyond and this obstacle is unavoidable now.

Answer 5

Good thing that you are pushing a DNA test!! I would tell her and her new boyfriend that you are NOT going to pay for anything until you find if the baby is your or not. Tell them that if the little pumpkin (I dont like calling an unborn baby "it") is yours you will help pay for things he/she needs. There isnt anything she can do before the baby is born to find out if the baby is yours not. I hate to say it but for the next 7 months your going to have to deal with her being in your face about supporting this child. The good news for you is, since you were never married she CAN NOT put your name on the birth certificate with out the peternity test. As far as her boyfriend saying he'll come and get you, if you really fear that he will the best thing to do is get a restraining order on him. All I ask is if this child id yours that you step up to plate and support your baby in anyway that you can!

Answer 6

By the sound of things, more then likely u r not the father. Maybe she dosen't know who is, so shes just trying to pin it on u. I wouldn't worry about it until the baby is born & u can have a DNA test performed. Tell them if it turns out that the baby is yours(more then likely not) then u will take responsibility for it & help with the expenses. But until that time they need to leave you alone & not harass you. Having a DNA test done ASAP after the baby is born is your best bet, unless you can find out who she slept with before you. Then tell her that she needs to be harassing the real father & not you. Good luck & take care

Answer 7

Don't listen to the moron who answered first. Do NOT marry this girl even if you are the father of the child, unless you love her, which I suspect, from the tone of your letter, that you do not. Otherwise you will make all of your lives, including the childs, miserable.

You must admit the possibility of being the father, step up and take some responsibility. An amniocentesis is dangerous for the child and no matter what your issues, the child should not be put at risk because you and she were careless.

Help her out with some expenses and keep track of what you spend with receipts. Once the child is born insist on testing then. For now, get in touch with a lawyer who can advise you what to steps to take and if the child is yours, can help you work out child support payments.

If this child is yours you MUST step up to the plate and be MAN!

Good luck! And remember, every child is a blessing!

Answer 8

Sorry to hear about your problem but without a DNA test, and an accurate length of pregnancy ( and doctors are never exact with the date of conception- she would have had to taken a pregnancy test immediately to know the exact dates). It sounds like the new boyfriend just wants someone else to blame- and you are the unlucky guy. Dont be depressed- get smart- learn a lesson from this mess- use protection.

Answer 9

You just need to find out when you can get a paternity test done. You have to be ready to step up and do the right thing if the baby is yours, bud, or you should have kept it in your pants.

Answer 10

Get a dna test and settle it for good.Call Maury Provich