They restrict me and I can't stay out past 10:00p with my own vehicle too. I go to College and am a strong boy that doesn't like to party and drink or do drugs (I occasionally drink at home socially) and don't make trouble. If I was to disobey my parents, they would kick me to the curb, and once I'm out , I'm not allowed to ever come back. I can't even hang out with my friends after work (at the workplace) without my parents controlling my life. It seems when I find some clean and harmless fun, they "destroy" it and blame me for drinking and partying. Can you tell me what's going on? I can't even have a GF without them restricting me and making me look like a baby in front of her, I mean I'm old enough to enlist in the Army for cryin out loud...Anybody have advice? I make only minimum wage and live in a non-opportunity town and also have no nice relatives
I don't ever drive while I drink, even if its a little and when my parents offer me some alcohol, I refuse, I have good friends too
2006-10-22 17:46:48 · 14 answers · asked by S--slick 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this happen to u because they love u so much n they care ur future..maybe they wan u have agood rest cos if u go out wit ur frens maybe u have not enough sleep?and y do u think they r controlling u?if u got one lovely kid n u love n care alot ur kid sure u wan a good future 4 ur kid rite n the same thing ur parents wan for u..wat do u get from go out with fren n talk wit them nothing u just wasting ur time n money..if anything happen to u this society will blame ur parents..u r lucky to have tis kind of loving and caring parent..some of chind dun have parents n they neve get love n care...u should thank them not blame their love.. u can make fren wit ur parent n they can be ur true fren..always with u.. enjoy ur life with them..parents the only person who love n care about u..anything happens to u they the one wil be with u not ur frens..take care n may god bless u...
2006-10-22 18:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by priya s 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are in a bit of a bind, I have to give you credit for following the straight and narrow as a young man, you may want to have a chat with your parents and tell them, I know they care an awful lot about you and maybe because you have been so responsible they are afraid the world is going to corrupt you, but you have to make them understand that you appreciate all of their hard work and support but on certain nights like Friday or Saturday you will stay out a little longer and that you are responsible and will not make foolish decisions. If you are afraid to then study hard and see if you can get a scholarship to another collage, so you can start to spread your wings. in a good way of course. I am also a parent and I am pretty strict myself, so I do understand their concerns. Good Luck....
2006-10-22 18:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i kinda feel you in some way but the only difference is that I have a more later curfew which is 2:30am and its only on the wks cuz during the wk i cannot go out and im old enough to drink alcohol which i dont cuz i dont like it, im drugz-free and definitely dont like partying at the clubs, yeahi trip on my parents for being so strict and treating me as i was 12 yrs old, I hate it because i see my friends doing whatever they want and going out, and coming home whatever time they want and sleeping in other friends house which i have never been able to do so, and if i ever miss a day and dont come home damn i dont even wanna think about it, foreals......In my case thats why i cant wait til i finish college which i got 1 more yr to go and then im gonna b outta here and be able to do whatever i want.
2006-10-22 18:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you have already heard, if you sleep under their roof and put your feet under their table, you gotta follow their rules.
if you want freedom you have to take the responsibilities of paying rent, utilities, insurance, Dr. bills, food, gas, clothes, personal items, laundry, and any surprises that life may throw your way. I suggest you finish school and get a decent job. so you can make it own your own comfortably.
or you can join the army, but guess what? they will be telling you what to do more than mom and dad! you sound like you have common sense, tough it out and get done with school. when you can afford to make it on your own without any help from your parents, then you are truly free.
2006-10-22 19:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by snowcrablegs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should have a lengthy , sober discussion with them in an effort to read their minds and hearts as to what makes them to be so protective of you.
We all try to listen to only our sides of story at time, and the problems can easily be identified by listening to the other party with patience.
Again, their views might be 100% wrong as it appears, but they should have a feeling that you are mature, reasonable and responsible member of the community. This can be done by spending more time with 'them' and listening to how they spend their day, or participating to some extent in the activities they have.
It will give them a feeling that you can handle things at your own as time will pass and they'll let you operate at your own. Rebellion is likely to hurt them and it isnt an advised way of handling things.
Good Luck
2006-10-22 17:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by AnsweringMachine 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you go to college why don't you get a dorm??? Once you are away....they will start accepting the fact that you are an adult & making decisions for yourself. The kicker is that you are really going to have to want this & do it, otherwise you are not going to change them while at home. Sounds like they have some type of hold over you that you are not telling us to have this type of control over you. I would say DORM, DORM, DORM. My daughter just went this Sept. & she is loving every minute of it & she lives in a dorm. Why wait???
2006-10-22 18:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parent, they are protecting you from kidnappers, drugs dealers, prositution, rapist, pornography, mom and dad want to see you do good in college get a degree. I want to say, you can pick your friends,but you cannot pick your family. The days will come were you,ll bites were you cannot reachs. The old saying a mother can take care of 100 kids, but a 100 kids cannot take care of one mother.
2006-10-22 18:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortuantely, you have to "bite the bullet" so to speak. while you're parents are still providing your room and board, you should obey their rules. if you want to be an adult, then you should begin to act like one and get your own place. get together with some firends and rent somewhere... it can't be any more expensive than so. cali, so you have little pity from me.
2006-10-22 18:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by CEE24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are telling you something. It's to get your own life or let them run it. Move out.
2006-10-22 17:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mike F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah move out or deal with it because as long as ur under there roof ya kinda got to go by there rules
2006-10-22 18:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋