Should you give a second chance to your significant other after he cheated on you with your bestfriend?

Answer 1

I don't think I could. I think I could be a little more forgiving if it was a stranger but someone that we both know, someone that I trusted, I don't think I would be able to get over it which would simply hinder the relationship further. I'd have to drop them both.

Best Wishes and I am hoping you aren't asking this question because it's something you are dealing with.

Answer 2

Depends entirely on the person, how forgiving they are, how much they loved the other person and if you could ever trust your spouse around your friends again. ME....HELL NO! Cheating to me is the ultimate reason for divorce or breaking up. I could never trust them again and won't live with anyone wondering all the time what they are up to. You need to get a new significant other AND a best friend. What kind of a "best" friend would do that to you? You need to get a backbone and stand up to both of them.

Answer 3

I actually enjoy watching my significant other make love with other people. However, my relationship with my girlfriend is a little extream. I am her slave and she can do whatever she wishes.

As to your question if a man can cheat once and know you will take him back then he will definetly cheat again. I would lose him and your "bestfriend" if I were you. Unless you enjoy an unfaithful partner like I do.

Answer 4

It all depends on the relatinship you had with this person before they cheated. If it was very serious and long term, then perhaps. If it was new (under a year) then I would say no. And I would ditch the so called "best friend" ......." with friends like that who needs enemys!"

p.s. If you choose to give them another chance, tell them they need to prove they are clean by getting checked for STD's. How are you suppose to get intimate with someone if they could make you sick?

Answer 5

gee is this before or after you think about murdering them ... If he cheats now is it going to be someone else 6 months from now.. go and talk to a counselor.. get your head on straight and firm before you make your decision. Sounds like his problems are hurting you and your marriage... Is this going to be the rest of your life... think about it .. cheater once .. cheater twice... but your friend.. thats really bad... kickem to the curb... really like trash day... stand up and get out with all you have ... and take all your stuff and get out ... move out while hes at work.. and just hang in a new place where you can heal .. You have a lot of re modeling to do . talk to a therapist. mean while.... I will be there in 15 with a shovel.

Answer 6

EVERY answer given here is very helpful.

All I can say is this happened about 15 years ago to my sis: They had been married w/ 2 kids for already 8 yrs; She was never happier; Then he cheated with the neighbor; She kicked him to the curb, actually he moved out for about three weeks; He came pleading to get her back, it took several months and a lot of convincing (on HIS part); She finally took him back; I do know now that their marriage is stronger than ever, going on 15 yrs!

I know that this is only one story and one with a happy ending. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I don't think you should. In my honest oppinion you shouldn't because if he is willing to do that to you with your best friend, then I think he isn't the kind of quallity that you need to be looking for. He isn't for you if he's doing that with your best friend behind your back. However I'm not going to judge your dection because I don't know everything & it just wouldn't be right.

But as I said before the choice is yours if he doesn't want to respect you enough to stay with you then he can "fry". For all I care. Have a good day.

Answer 8

Intimate relationships are a very complex arrangement. 2nd chance? Forgive and forgive......share your thoughts, your hurt over and over till you get it out of your system. Seek active listenning, sympathy and empathy as well as affirmation from your partner. If he/she cannot meet that expectation, counseling til he/she does. If you want to throw out the intimacy, do so at your own peril.

Answer 9

if he's satisfying enough that you'd consider an open relationship then go right ahead and give him a chance. if not, dump him. otherwise, you might as well hand him over a doggie collar and a leash and let him take you for a walk.

Answer 10

No. Forgive them both,but don't give him he second chance. He might take you for granted and do it again. Eventhough your hurting inside kill them with kindness they will feel so bad, but in the end you will feel good.