Ok, I know this question has been asked tons of times before, but I want my own answers. First off, I'm a guy...most of these questions I've seen are from girls. And most people will say yes because it demonstrates resistance from temptation. However, that is the case when it is one's personal choice. If, on the other hand, it is not... and this person has been trying to rid himself of it for a long time, and still cannot accomplish it. What does it say of that person? Honorable? Dishonorable? A terrible curse of pitifulness of not being able to get a girl? Or perhaps a blessing that is preventing me from getting (or rather losing) something I'll regret later? The problem is obviously me, (I'm not trying to argue otherwise, and this question doesn't involve that aspect anyway) but my question is...with this in mind, is it still ok to be a virgin? I know the answer...this is more a request for opinions. I may be risking a lot by exposing myself like this...but, let's see what you say.
2006-10-22 17:18:20 · 29 answers · asked by Eridani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dude,
im 27. thats right u heard me. i am 27.
and a virgin. 13 years shy of steve carrell's character.
and at this rate i might just get there.
am i a loser. if u say so. if other people think it.
but do i think it? if i let people get to me yes. then i am.
the point is this. its up to you to think if its ok or not. u have your own morale compass built in you.
many many guys that claim to have lost it at a young age, did it with hookers. they wont admit it was with hookers, but it was done anyway. and many many people are spreading herpes, and they dotn even know it, because that particular brand of std, may be symptomless for years.
we live in a society today that glorifies sex. at a younger and younger age. think about it this way. one day u will have a son.
and he will post the very same question on yahoo answers. but instead of 18, it will then be 15, or 14.
its got nothing to do honor buddy. its your own in built morale compass. follow your heart. and oh by the way.
i lost. i do think im a loser. and after discarding my useless compass, im going to find me an escort and bang her!
i'll risk every form of std there is, f uck it all!
2006-10-22 17:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself the following question, and consider it carefully before selecting a response.
"Am I comfortable with my being a virgin?"
If the answer is 'Yes', then yes, it is ok for you to be a virgin at 18.
If the answer isn 'No', then there are a number of ways to lose ones virginity, from dating services to adult friend finder (a website, provided you truly are 18 or over).
Be prepared to spend some money.
Be very careful, use protection, and be absolutely sure that you are doing something that YOU want to do, not something that you think that you think you SHOULD do.
I know a 27 year old male in an almost identical situation, i.e. he's a virgin, and has never passed up an opportunity to lose his virginity. His answer to the comfort question is an unqualified 'Yes', and I'm sure he'd tell you the same thing I just did.
2006-10-22 17:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by omikapsi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your "trying" to lose it...then no its not ok...you need to rework your plan. Try other approaches....
If your ok with "keeping" it...then its fine.
No one has the power to decide what is and isnt acceptible for you. All I can do is talk personally and I wasnt truly ready to lose mine when I did, I did it all for the ego part of it....basically so I could say I did it. I dont have any regrets, but I wouldnt say its a memorable "special event" for me....(im a guy by the way)
I guess in the long run its better to experience love making with someone you care about than taking anything home from a bar for a night. Believe me, when you get to college youll at some point "take one for the team" Its moment like those that make you appreciate the loves of your life ;)
2006-10-22 17:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by questionaire 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are pitiful at all. I'm a woman...but I wish I had of waited for the "right" person to come along...instead of giving it to some loser who didn't deserve it. But I say if you WANT to lose it you should find someone VERY special first...don't just give it to someone who isn't going to appreciate the signifigance of it. I commend you for being 18 and still a virgin...I wish I could have said the same thing at 18...but I lost mine at fifteen LOL... Anyway I really do think it's okay to still be a virgin...I have a friend and she is a girl and she'll be 18 years old in a few days and she's still a virgin and I am behind her 100% for wanting to wait until she is married to lose her virginity. I think keeping your virginity for someone special and for someone who is going to appreciate it is a GREAT thing. Kudos to you!!!
2006-10-22 17:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes, it is ok to be a virgin at 18 or what ever age it is. I suggest try meeting women at places that sorta matches your interest and just talk to them like you would talk to your friends. Before you know it you going to talk to the one who likes you and may be more than that who knows. Remember there are like hundreds of million of women out there. If you treat them nice with respect they will treat you nice with respect back. Don't try to be too much of a nice guy or an jerk or you will scare them off. Again just be yourself. Good luck and don't wait too long like I did which I am still a virgin at 34.
2006-10-22 17:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It comes with lots of possibilities of responsibilities and loads of emotions. I think it is fine to wait and when the time is right you will know and don't worry about what other people think, down the road you probably won't even remember these people. There is a lot of good advise given here in the response when you weed thru the garbage ones.
2006-10-22 17:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by worknlakeside 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 21 before I did it and i'm a dude........i held out for a long time, but i think that the longer u can wait the more mature u'll become, and in addition to that u won't be chipped and burnt like so many others who have done it at such a young age.
2006-10-22 17:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by hegimony1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to be a virgin at 18.
The negative feelings associated with virginity do not manifest until 22.
2006-10-23 07:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by me8md 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
society tells me to say no. have you ever seen the movie "40 yo Virgin?" hkowever, i think that it is awsome that you've saved yourself like that. personally, i think that sex skhould be saved for marige, and if more people waited to get maried, there would be less divorces and bastard children. plus, when you do have sex for the first time, you will have a joy like none other knowing that you are sharing something special with someone special, not something you can get at any side corner to the first person who walks by.
2006-10-22 17:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
nothing wrong with being a virgin at 18 ,& just because u choose 2 be a virgin @ 18 doesnt mean theres a problem with u
2006-10-22 17:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by dude 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋