There is this girl at work who is 10 years younger than me and she started hanging around me a good bit. We went out to lunch a few times and we started going to dinner some. After a few dates we hooked up (kissing only). After the relationship turned romantic she quit calling and e-mailing but she always returned my calls and was always very nice. I felt something was wrong and one night we had a pretty bad date, bad conversation and I could tell she didn't want to be there. She is only 26 and I don't think she has a lot of relationship experience. I have been married and have a kid so I thought that may have been scary to her. We work in different offices so we don't see each other a lot. I kind of quit fooling with her after that but we still talk some. This week I e-mailed her with a funny work thing and she called me a few times Friday. This weekend she texted me a few times. I don't know if she wants to be friends or if she wants to start things back up. I am really confused.help
2006-10-22 17:06:53 · 11 answers · asked by William J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems she just wanted to slow things down a bit. She is still open to maintaining a friendship with you. Leave well enough alone, keep it cordial and let her make the first move. You are both consenting adults and should be able to discuss the confusion on a rational level. If you two decide to go out again, casually ask her what she was interested in as far as pursuing a relationship with you. Can't hurt and you will at least have a clearer picture.
2006-10-22 17:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me that something scared her, i dont think it was your experince in relationship or your kid, because she knew it before and it didnt stop her, i think maybe somthing happend too fast or maybe someone said somthing to her...not sure, But if she really means a lot to you and you want to give it another shot email her asking her if she could only give you some of her time that you would love to talk to her ..wait for her to respond and than once you get to talk to her ask her what happend, and that you really care for her, but you need to know how she feels towards you. And than go from there,tell you how you feel and get her to open up to you. Try to work things out, and if things dont go the way you wanted it to , ask her if yous can still remain friends. At least you didnt lose a friend and than you can contiue in your life searching for that other girl who will complet your life knowing now your wont have any question on if she was the one or not.
2006-10-23 00:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have had sex already its going to be worse. Male ego-es are easily distorted from the facts of life and the facts of love and when you get mind boggled down it becomes you and you become it (love), as weird as it is, it only gets worse, but when your around each other the flame dies down and when your apart the flame burns hot..it's completely opposite of the flame burning when your together rather them apart and that interferes with your normal frame thought of mind when she is the only thing there.
So my advice to you is to let the flame burn hot...the hotter the better when your apart because the cooling of period will start when your together and you will know what to say!
2006-10-23 00:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude the best thing we can do is give you an uneducated guess. If you want a real answer to your question you must go to the source. She is the only one who can really tell you what is on her mind. Remember, effective communication is an important element in every successful relationship. I pray all goes well and find the answer you seek. Peace and God bless.
2006-10-23 00:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. I thought girls only pulled that stuff with me. Apparently, these confusing mind games are popular among females everywhere! It sounds as if she might want to be friends...but you can't know for sure. I'd probably bring it up with her. Ask her what she's feeling...if she thinks that things between the two of you are working out...if she is looking for friendship right now, or if she's happy with the two of you having more than that.
2006-10-23 00:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by The Rainmaker 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask her. Stop letting these mind games fool you, she may not even realize what she's doing. Just be straight forward if it turns into something, it'll be a step in communicating. if not, at least you know
2006-10-23 00:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is confused to. Your best bet, although it won't seem like that, is to make your thoughts and intentions completely clear to her (also making it seem like you're flexible), and let her respond. It'll take a lot of time and agony off your hands, I can tell you that!
2006-10-23 00:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by Hermes711 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can be friends with her and see what happens!
2006-10-23 00:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to just ask her at least you will know where you stand
2006-10-23 00:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she just wanted some..and thats it..
2006-10-23 00:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋