ok..heres the deal...me and this girl met...we were STRICTALLY just friends....she is 14 and i am 18...the more we talked the more we fell fond of each other untill it reached the point to where now...we r in love... ur prolly thinking shes to young and immature!..well...a few weeks ago while she was out with her friends, another 18 y/o guy comes up and starts hitting on her...by this time ur prolly wondering how she looks or how mature she really is....but this guy was sad to find out that she was indeed 14 and not 17 or 18 like he had first instagated... she is very mature!...and a very smart girl...i honestly love everything about her...and am not going to rush into ANYTHING as i am a christian...patients is what we have and what we need...so no...we arent going to be out haveing sex...thats not right in itself to even have premarital sex...i jus love spending time with her..and her parents both really like me...so really...its not wrg at all for us to be talking....right!?!?!?!?
2006-10-22 17:01:36 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not only is she too immature, but so are you...and you'll be immature and taking it up the butt in prison if you are convicted of statutory rape...dangerous line to cross.
2006-10-22 17:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by Tom 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Its not wrong to be talking but it sounds like if your asking this question you risk the talking leading to more.
Apart from it probaly being illegal to have sex with her (even with her consent in many countries you can be prosecuted ), I`d say 14 is too young.
If you like her, wait - a year or 2 changes alot when your as young as you both are.
Ask her out if your that into her - it dosent mean you have to have sex. If you still dont trust yourself though, and you really do not want to secumb to your primal urges, then make sure you only hang out with other people around.
Aside from my friendly lecture - just to be 'going together' depends on both you and her maturity. 14 is young for an 18 year old, maybe keep friendly and when she`s 15 ask her out. Also see how her parents feel about it.
Main thing is to respect her whether you get together or not. 14 is very impressionable age !!! Her idea of love is alot more vulnerable than someone older.
2006-10-22 17:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your in love and all. Heres the deal. Back in the day King queen ect. 30 yr old kings would marry 13-16 year old girls all the time no big deal. But today someone got a wild hair and said its wrong. So you have to ask your self is it worth going to jail for and being a sex preditor for the rest of you life? And If you had a GF that was your age and you broke up and she was mad at you she cant really do any thing legally. But if this 14 yr old gets mad at you all she has to do is scream rape and it doesnt matter if she said it was ok or even if her parents said it was ok. Its against the law. Take some of these tv shows they have on now like 20/20 they lure guys in to a girls house not to even have sex with them and they get in trouble. And are considerd a sex preditor. Think about it. It could ruin the rest of your life. If you have any other questions about this feel free to Im me. jon_8ball Yahoo
2006-10-22 17:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by jon_8ball 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first love was at 14 and my boyfriend was 18. We were the talk of the church! As the years progressed of course the age difference didn't matter so much anymore. Like you though we did not have sex. That is a very wise choice. We didn't end up together in the long run but our love was very real. So I guess what I'm saying is of course you can truly be in love at such a young age. Just take it slow and don't get caught up in the heat of the moment. If this is THE ONE you'll both know it when the time is right. If not you'll be glad you waited.
2006-10-22 17:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if she was my daughter I would have a problem with her dating an 18 year old. What's going to happen when you go off to college? I tell you what will happen you will meet girls more your age and if she has been led to believe that you love her, that will devastate her. She needs to be able to mature without the distraction. If you truly cared for her you will keep her distance. She may seem mature now, but if given the right instruction and room to grow can you imagine the woman she will become? Back off and keep your emotions in check and if and when she turns 18, four years from now and you two meet again then I would say it's a more appropriate situation.
2006-10-22 17:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it just sticks to talking them there is nothing wrong with it. If you both can be patient and wait until she is like17 or 18 then I honestly think it would be ok, but be patient because you have to look at it 18 years old to a 14 year old, now the difference is kind of big but in 3 years it won't mean that much.
2006-10-22 17:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by Young Vito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since 99.9% of relationships that a 14 year old gets into do not become lifetime bonds, I would say that it is not worth exposing yourself to the legal system. You can say you won't have sex till you're blue in the face but c'mon, I was an 18-year old guy once also. That's great that her parents like you but its still flat-out illegal if anything does happen. Not that anything actually HAS to happen. All she has to do after a disagreement is make accusations and it will be your word against hers and even if you escape charges it will still make your life a living hell.
It's just not worth it. Stay at arm's length till she's 18.
2006-10-22 17:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your just talking and with other people. Dude, you
don't need to find yourself falling with some little girl. My Nephew
was at home one night and this 14 yr. old came over and sneak
in to his room (he was 17). Anyways now he's doing time because they had consensual sex with one another, also he has
to register as a sex a offender. And that's ****** up for him, but
then again he knew what he was getting himself into. So if that's
what you want 5 yrs., plus registering. Go for it, but that will be
the stupidest move you've done as Christian. Never be alone with a little girl that does not look cute. It only makes you look
like a child molester, if you chose to be with her any time from now and 17 you'll be considered a child molester. If you really
care for her then you'll date other girls until she is of age.
Or don't get involved stay celibate.
2006-10-22 17:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong at all..no worries. I once dated a 18 year old boy when i was only 14. But that didnt work out very well seeing as i wasnt all that mature as well as he wasnt either..lol..and it ended fast. But he ended up with a friend of mine not far later, and she is the same age as me, they have been together for years and years and now share a baby boy together. I think this will work out great with yous, if shes what you want in a girl and as well as you for her. And your made it clear that you are not going to rush things with her, so thats great. You have nothing to worry about and it wont be long that she will be to the age where it wont seem like too big of a age difference. I am dating a man who is five years older than i, we didnt meet till i was 17 but if i meet him when i was 14 i would still give it a try, because we are meant to be with one another. Just like if yous two are meant to be than the age is nothing....numbers dont mean a thing. I wish yous the best.
2006-10-22 17:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I was mature for my age at 14 and had lots of guys friends that were 17 and up. It was fine, so long as you are not doing anything more than talking. Take care :)
2006-10-22 17:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by Devon M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude this is just a bad bad bad bad bad idea. Even if you're not having sex, she will not be legal for four years! In the mean time, you are just asking for trouble getting involved with someone that young. You can love her, but it's just not meant to happen right now. Leave her alone, it's too much trouble to persue this.
2006-10-22 17:05:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋