How does a Christian go about entering into a relationship biblically?

Question

If I were to be in a relationship with a girl, since I am a guy, is there any advice you can give me by using the word of God more so than your own words. I mean help on what to do and not to do will be taken but please use scripture to back up your answer if you possibly can. Thank you for whatever you help you can give.

Answer 1

I Corinthians 6:15-20 "Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore, glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's."

Chapter 7 also talks about proper relationships.

Here's what you need to do:
1. PRAY
- Ask the Lord if this woman is right for you
- Don't rush into anything you don't have a peace from God about.
2. Talk to your Pastor, or your parents, or any Godly couple for advice.
3. Ask yourself what your motives are in pursuing a relationship with this woman.
4. If you have a peace about this woman, build your relationship through God. With Him, nothing goes wrong.

Pray for her, there's nothing better you can do than that. If she is not the one, then God will somehow close the door. Just pray and trust God.

Answer 2

Well, if you look at the scriptures, you will see that people didn't "date" in Biblical times. There were arranged marriages.

What I would suggest is keeping your relationship Christ centered. How to know if you are doing something wrong? What ever you are doing...if Jesus was standing in the room with you, would you do it?

You will have to set boundaries...and then stick to them. Try not to be alone with this girl, that will be a tremendous help. When you go out, go out as a group.

I know that these suggestions may seem old fashioned but I know all about male and female hormones...and sometimes, if we are not careful...they can get the best of us.

In His Service...

Answer 3

Pray about it. Pray for the Lord to send you the woman that is right for you (Ephesians 2:21-22) and when you think you have met her, pray and ask if you're right. When you do find her, make sure you 2 have similiar beliefs as it is not good to be unevenly yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14), not to mention that being with someone who has different beliefs could compromise your relationship with our Lord ( Proverbs 13:20).
Good luck and God bless!

Answer 4

the spirit of God is very strong. Our flesh is very weak. Even the great men who followed God wholeheartedly failed. It is very difficult to reamin totally sinless in a relationship. All you have to do is think it and you will be fighting yourself for along time. Don't take it too hard you are only human and you are supposed to have desires. Just make sure it is a girl you are liking.

Answer 5

You're going to get a different answer for your question from everybody you ask. There is no one way to be in a Christian relationship. Stop trying to follow some sort of relationship guidebook and do what you and your partner feel is right.

Answer 6

authentic Christian love is about looking for & needing the authentic pastimes of others in determination to ones personal's pastimes. casual sex has NO lengthy time period advantages to both oneself or (better importantly) to the different party, no matter if that be heterosexual or gay. that's going to in hardship-free words convey about lengthy time period damage, discomfort & regrets which will properly be perplexing to leave behind. hence, that's not conceivable to coach Christian love even as rejecting Biblical moral criteria of sexual relationships in hardship-free words interior of marriage.

Answer 7

I wish I could answer you in private, because you are...., nevermind, I won't humiliate you in PUBLIC!!!!

If you are a real Christian, you would KNOW that Yahoo Answers is NOT Christ-centered. This is a 'game' place. You should be asking your Pastor, or ANYBODY else.

Answer 8

a good piece of adivce... "know thy self" You shoudl know when you are being tempted to do something you don't think you should be doing. Knwo what those things are in advance and think abotu them, because in the moment, you won't be thinking with all of your reasoning and logicaly copacity.

Answer 9

No sex until your married. No feeling all up on eachother. Respect her with kindness. Be a gentleman and NEVER do anything to hurt her. Never get jealous or try not too.......and other stuff...

Answer 10

Read James 1:1-27...
1 James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, to the twelve tribes which are scattered abroad, greeting.
2 My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations;
3 Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.
4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.
5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
6 But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
7 For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.
8 A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.
9 Let the brother of low degree rejoice in that he is exalted:
10 But the rich, in that he is made low: because as the flower of the grass he shall pass away.
11 For the sun is no sooner risen with a burning heat, but it withereth the grass, and the flower thereof falleth, and the grace of the fashion of it perisheth: so also shall the rich man fade away in his ways.
12 Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.
13 Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man:
14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
16 Do not err, my beloved brethren.
17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
18 Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures.
19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
21 Wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls.
22 But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.
23 For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass:
24 For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was.
25 But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.
26 If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain.
27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.