how do u deal with your own loneliness?

Question

what do u do with the pain, the lethargy, the sheer full brunt of the loneliness coming at u like a tsunami of despair?
what can anyone do?
i just shamble along like a zombie. work, go home. catch a movie. come to yahoo here to ask and answer questions. ponder on the loneliness. i have many regrets too by the way.

Answer 1

You are focusing way too much onto yourself. Your focus needs to be externally focused. You need to open up.

Always look at your mental motivation for doing things. If your motivation is negative, change it, if it is positive *be proud of it*. If your mental motivation is positive than you have nothing to fear in any situation. Smile, be open, be positive. You are not being phony because this all rests on the absolute pure confidence you get from knowing your intent is positive.

Also, here is some basic Buddhist mental training:

Remove anger from your life
Cultivate love
Stabilize your mind
Conceal your accomplishments
Praise others accomplishments
Reveal your own shortcomings
Do not reveal others shortcomings (unless with compassion)
Recognize all people as spiritual teachers
Take no pleasure in negative actions
Remove procrastination and laziness from your life
Speak peacefully and truthfully
Smile
Give freely
Abandon envy

Answer 2

Oh I use to wonder the same thing. Then I began to pray and God answered my question in a huge way and He reconnected me with past friend's and we have stayed friend's ever since. Here is what I like to do so not be so lonlely.....
1) Watch TV
2) walk the dog
3) Get to know my neighbor's
4) attend church
5) Read a book or magazine
6) Joined the local Audubon group (birding)
7) Get a new hobby Or activity
8) And Yes I did come to Yahoo answer's to ask and answer question to help over come border. But to play a more possitive role instead of a negative one.
9) Watch a movie
10) Write letter's to friend's and families

Answer 3

God Bless You. Everyone has been through this at some point in their life. Can I suggest to you to watch some television ministries? John Hagee, TD Jakes are wonderful Pastors. There is also a song that I would like you to listen to....it is called "I Understand" the artist is Smokey Norful. May God Bless and Keep you. Love yourself, have confidence in yourself and get to know yourself. All things will be revealed.

Answer 4

Hi There,

Tonight I am feeling Just about the same thing. I find that when I am feeling this way. I Pray to God and I Just talk to Him. I tell Him everything. then I have a Good cry while I am talking to Him. and then I feel His love and I don't feel alone anymore.

Do you have any Friends you can chat with? If you need anyone to talk to e-mail me ok. I hope you feel better soon. Just remember one thing this Is very Important YOU are NOT alone. Never Jesus Is right with you ok. Take Care

Answer 5

I love being a wife, mother ,sister, aunt and of course daughter I never had that problem. I suggest you find a friend a good close friend. Maybe a female if that's your taste.Hopefully you'll have a lot in common. Thank God for you knowing that you have this problem and seeking answers. May God keep you through this until you get it resolved.

Answer 6

If you are lonely and don't like it then find someone to share your life. If you are not too selfish, it's not hard to find like minded individuals. It's ok to ponder but there comes a time when you have to combine theory and practice. Good luck.

Answer 7

Listen,...I called myself 'lonely', but then I rememebered--I am NEVER alone,

I had a place by myself , and I seemed very alone,--when I look back now, that was the time I became the closest to God.
I would take back all that' being alone', all over again, to be alone with God.

Answer 8

I don't feel alone. I guess I'm just one of those people that doesn't need to be in a relationship to be happy. I'd advice you to either try harder to find someone to be with or else evaluate your life and appreciate what you have.

Answer 9

I used to feel like that before I answered the call of Jesus on my life. Now, even though I'm not married and I live alone I have the comforting presence of God in my life. That's one of the promises Jesus made to us before He went up to Heaven.

John 14:16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, 17 even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be in you. 18 "I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.

26 But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you. 27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.

Why don't you find a good Christian church to attend and listen to the gospel message and ask Jesus to come into your heart? Then you will have God with you always and you will have a new life with eternal purpose to it that will give meaning to your days.

"But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ--by grace you have been saved-- and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. Ephesians 2:4-10

Answer 10

i felt the same way but you know what i learned was that being lonely is the best feeling...because that gets u thinking what life is all about....that why are we all here....who is our true companion....and so on......

u think u're lonely but no one is ever alone god is always with us...but we just dont realize that.....

when you feel lonely....pray to god to help u build on ur relationship with God....because when we have a relationship with him then you wont feel alone