So a day after the first date and he didn't call, does that mean he is not that into me?

Question

So, the date went alright, there were few pauses here and there. But i had fun. The only thing it was bothering me was that he kept asking me if i am bored or is he boring? I thought hmm.. did i give him an impression that i feel bored?
The date went bad at the end when he decided to join his friends cus they spoke in another language. I felt so left out when they were talking and walking in a park. Eventually i started to walk on my own. He came up and asked me what's wrong and why i didn't walk with him. But i felt very bad at that point and i told him everything was alright.

At the end of the day, he decided to drive his female friend (married) home after he dropped me off. I told him to call me and he said ok. But he haven't called me yet even after one day....and i am losing hopes.....

Answer 1

It's only been one day, no need to worry. You put the ball in his court when you told him to call you. Usually after a date, especially the first date people like to give the person a day or two before calling so they won't seem desperate. I'm sure you will here from him soon, be patient and I'm sure he'll call. If not, his loss.

Best Wishes!!!

Answer 2

The date sounded good except for the ending of the date. One day does not mean that he is not into you. You need to be patient .I usually wait at least 3 days and then call in time to arrange something for the weekend. As that is the time when most people can go out on dates. If he hasnt called you after about a week , dont be afraid to call him back. Also he was probably as nervous as you were on the date and that is why he kept asking you if you were bored , he was just trying to see if you were having a good time and if you like him also.

Answer 3

ONE DAY? Come on, give the fellow a chance. Maybe he's busy all the time! I'd give it about a week or two if I were you. If that is too long, you can always call him after a few days. I will give you this though, the date did go pretty bad from what you say about him meeting his friend and walking around. Maybe he hadn't seen him in a long time though. Next time something like that happens, you could mention afterward that you felt left out because they spoke a language you did not understand. Good night!

Answer 4

Well, from the way you're putting it it sounded like a bad date. I don't mean that any of you are boring and stuff. It's just that you might not have the right chemistry. Don't get too flustered by that. It's definitely more fun when you're out with some one who's got more things in common with you and you guys just hit it off and can't stop yakking the entire evening and all.

I'm not sure if you'd want to consider making the first move, but my advise? Don't pin all your hopes on just one person. Go out, mix around and have fun. You'll find some one. Good luck!

Answer 5

If a guy dates a girl, the etiquette is that you two are the main focus of the evening or day. I think he is a creep to join his friends and alienate you as they speak another language. I feel he isn't getting the kind of connection he had hoped to get by going out with you. It would not have hurt him to talk some more, maybe hold your hand as a gesture of being together. I think both of you are a little shy and that can lead to difficulty in communicating.

Answer 6

Hmmm it could be partly cultural differences.

Part of it sounds like he is pretty inexperianced with dating. He was probably scared the whole time about you not having fun and right now thinks he blew it with you. I doubt that he doesn't like you. Sorry the first date didn't go well.

Guys also have a thing where they usually wait 1-3 days or something before they call after the first date. Just wait and if he doesn't call you, give him a call. Don't be afraid.

Answer 7

Ok, I think it's very rude what he did.....when someone is with you and you start speakin another language, a language the other person doesn't speak, is very rude....how do you know they were not talking about you?? If he didn't call you, don't call him......guys are like that sometimes......they don't like to show interest too soon......but you dont have to go after him either, you told him to call you, and if he didn't that's his loss, not yours, always think that way.....and if he kept asking you if you were bored, that means he thinks he is boring, he doesn't think much of himself!! Trust me don't call him, when he comes to his senses he will call you, a girl should never go after a guy....and that is something I'm starting to understand!! Good Luck

Answer 8

well id give it 3 days anyway, 1 day isnt that long cos he mite not want to seem too keen.
anyway talking to his friends in another language is pretty rude when he was meant to be on a date with you (but some guys are totally clueless so he mightnt even think thats rude or anything), so if he doesnt call then i really wouldnt let it bother you..its his loss

Answer 9

Wow, that was pretty rude, don't you think?
He's a bum for talking to his friends in ANOTHER languange? jeeez ... gurl, I think you deserve better than that don't you think?
But in case you're wondering why he hasn't called you back, it's been only a day ... so if you do like him (which I am not sure why you still do), then just be patient. Most guys ... wait like a couple days before they call again, so just be patient. If he doesn't call again, I suggest you find another date and start from there ok?
Good luck!

Answer 10

He's not a gentleman. I thought it was a boring date. How could he drive the female friend home after you? It was after all a date. If he doesn't call, move on.