Why on earth do you have kids? How did you come about the decision of having them?

Question

Simple and straight forward folks, now jump right into this question and start typing!

Well, I see the angry folk have reared their ugly heads tonight. Please limit yourself to answering the question posed. And don't give me no "it's the most beautiful thing there is", please, I am tired of such answers, I want to see some goddamned thought process, not some downright unprovoked self-defense.

I just asked a straightforward question, want straightforward answers, you immature bastard.

THANKS EVERYONE FOR YOUR ANSWERS SO FAR!! Bye, going to bed now gotta go to work tomorrow, however I'll be looking to reading you all tomorrow after that! Good evening.

Answer 1

Because we wanted to have children, simple and straight forward.

Answer 2

I'm 36 and have three daughters 3 11 and 11.I cannot remember what life was before they came along i couldn't imagine life without them.As an only child, until my first, i had never had any contact with kids (since i stopped being one...i think i stopped) and when i found out i was going to be a dad it scared the crap out of me.When she was born ,i couldn't hold her while everyone was there, i was so scared i might drop her, i just didn't know what to do.Now i throw my youngest in the air no problem( not dropped her yet!!).In a nut shell parenthood was not originally on my agenda but life has changed and I'm so glad,today we went to see barney (you know the guy, big purple dude) i watch my youngest smile and no words can describe...pure joy
Go for it, if you are thinking of starting a family,it will be the happiest,saddest greatest thing you ever do.
Everything else will pale into comparison after you have held you're own child for the first time.
Oh and then you have Christmas day...where to begin!
remember when you said,he's been he's been, x it by 1000 and you'll be close.Good luck

Answer 3

I decided to have kids right about the time I realized vaginal spermicidal strips aren't that effective. :-)

My mom suggested I have an abortion, I'm not a clinic-bomber or anything like that, but I knew I certainly couldn't live with myself if I had an abortion. So, we had the baby. (I got pregnant while I was engaged, so at least it wasn't like we got married BECAUSE of the baby)

After a year of hardships, we decided to go ahead and make the dive into parenthood again, because we wanted our kids to be close in age (they're 20 months apart). My two sisters and I were close in age, and we were friends and playmantes (and, of course, occasional enemies). My husband's siblings spanned 18 years. His older brother is 8 years older than him, he's 4 years older than his sister, she's three years older than the next brother, and he's three years older than the youngest sister. And they were NOT ever friends.

So for a while, it was just us, two kids, and no money. We're not having any more kids, and we've got more money coming in, so things are starting to even out some. :-)

But that first one, one of the best mistakes I've ever made.

Answer 4

For the same reason I pause to admire a beautiful garden, or dress up for Halloween, or go out to dinner - for the sheer joy of it! I always knew I wanted to be a mom. Seeing the world through the eyes of a child is always fun, or at the very least, interesting. I've always enjoyed a unique perspective on the mundane, like when my daughter thought Poconos meant "Poke a nose". LOL Kids are fun and full of love. There is no greater joy on earth!

Answer 5

Children make your life complete. You could never experience true happiness without the joy of having a child. Wether you give birth or just have a child in your life is not the point. It is the pride you feel when they do well and the joy you feel when you know you have taught them something valuable in life. Just watching them grow up and being with them is like heaven on earth. I have always loved kids and wanted a huge family. It took me 3 years to conceive with my first daughter. My second was a surprise and I never tried NOT to get pregnant... it was just God's will. I would recommend that all married couples have children.

Answer 6

Actually, I never wanted kids. Then, I got pregnant(unplanned), and it changed my mind. At some point after having one, was told I couldn't have anymore. My husband had cancer and chemo, our chances were less than 4%. We had already thought that, so came to an agreement that we were OK with one. Then, another surprise. We had another one.

We never came to a "decision". I think if every baby was planned, there wouldn't be that many. I was an accident, lol. My kids were both surprises. Everyone likes surprises.

Answer 7

I simply have always been drawn to kids. They are fun, I love the way their mind works and love doing kid-like stuff anyways. I was the one always running around with them and organizing games at family reunions... I ran a day care for a few years and now I have two sweet boys of my own. It's something I've looked forward to for as long as I can remember.

Answer 8

I noticed something here.
Every person answering is talking about how wonderful children are, but no one talks about adulthood. No one mentions any hardships, no deliquets,
no retardation
no deaths.
So kids are just this boat load of happy then?

I THINK NOT!

Its unsettling to see how many people are not reasonable in their views. Cant someone understand why a person would choose not to have kids?

regardless, I dont think you should have personal arguments with people who are not willing to understand and ACKNOWLEDGE your point of view. Its the "I'm right, you wrong" in disguise. Like I said before, its completely your choice.

Answer 9

It was not a decision, it was normal, we did not imagine our lives without kids. Today, my son is 9 and my daughter 7 and at night, when they go to sleep, I sit near their beds and never fail to realise that they are the best things we succeeded in making together. Being a family is the greatest of all things.

Answer 10

Honestly... I'm not sure what made me have them but I'm SO glad I did. I have 2 children and I love them SO much. I loved playing with kids before I had them but, that's the only thing I can think of that would have made me have a child. I do remember being excited about being preggy because your children love you unconditionally. =) It's a great feeling. My husband and I definitely did not plan for our first... but, then again most children aren't planned. =) Seriously though, I get teary everytime I look in their eyes... words can't express how much I care for them. Thinking of having some of your own? ;)

Answer 11

I had many fond memories of times with my grandparents and my parents. We got together almost every weekend when they lived nearby. We just enjoyed each others company and that to me was good. So I naturally grew up thinking I too would one day have kids. Even before we married, my wife made me agree to limit them to two. It was that or she was walking away.
She grew up in house with four kids and thought that was too much. Sharing a single bathroom could do that to even me!

I thought of kids as a continuation of my parents and grandparents. And when our kids began arriving I could see the admiration in the eyes of my family. My kids have warmed my heart and broken it a few times but always they seemed to piece it back together. They are now in their thirties and have kids of their own and now I am the grampa!

And I love it!!