I am a single mom who had a child at a relatively young. Since then I have always been in serious long relationships (ranging from 2-3 years each). Now I am 30 and single. I feel like I never developed the skills to be alone emotionally. How long will it take for me to stop feeling this way? I don't want to get into another relationship right now because I feel I need to go through this to be stronger.
2006-10-22 16:51:00 · 7 answers · asked by JustAsking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree, try to get to know yourself and do for you right now esp since you stated that you had a child relatively young
But don't miss out on a great opportunity
Hey, Dating is great and Fun and you do not have to make a long term commitment either
I am sure that you are a good mother and have done tons for your child now it is time to give back to yourself everyone deserves a break, and motherhood is not easy. Do girlie things you are still young, go to the spa, get your nails and hair done, visit a different state and their famous landmarks, go to a concert with friends, something so that you won't be 60 having TONS of regrets and trust me time goes by that fast. Lift your head up and make tomorrow a new day!!!
Hope this helps!!!!!
2006-10-22 17:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel. Being 30 is scary enough; but to be 30 AND not be in an serious, committed, intimate relationship can be very depressing. However, as long as you keep focusing on your condition and considering the position a disadvantage you will be sad about it. Being alone or not in a relationship can be one of the best things about living right now depending on how you look at it. Use this time to focus completely on you and your wants and needs. Indulge in somthing new. Begin some projects you've been wanting to do. Spend your time and love on YOU and your kids. I waited my entire life (expecting) my soulmate to be here with me. We have been together for two years now and, though times have improved, things have not always been a bed of roses. I find myself now enjoying quiet car rides alone and I've made my bedroom my sanctuary and a safe haven to run to when the world around me is chaotic.
All of our hearts are connected to something; it hurts a lot when we are connected to someone or to the "want to have someone" and that someone is not there. We oftentimes try to fill the void within with someone else, when that may not be what is truly missing. The sadness will truly end when you follow the string attached to your heart and the thing unseen in the dark to find the thing to which you are chained, confront it and realize that you are really free to breathe easy and be happy just by BEING who you are.
2006-10-23 00:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by Empress Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm . . . I don't think it requires any "emotional" skills to be alone. All you have to do is keep your time occupied to avoid being bored (hint: the Internet is full of information about how to do things and it also offers many forms of entertainment). Friends help too, because you can go places with them and goof off. You will stop feeling the way you feel when you realize that being alone is just like being with someone, except you need to look for people to talk to and you have more time to do things on your own. I think you will feel like dating again very soon. Good night!
2006-10-23 00:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found(I was single for 5 years on purpose)that being independent starts with little steps such as buying small personal items like a microwave,candles,home tools-hammer,wrenches and screwdrivers are good ways to start.Make the decision to fix your home up a little bit at a time to your taste.Things like that are a good way to start!Build a bookshelf,and pick the books you like to build yourself a library.
2006-10-22 23:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in your case, you have a problem with being alone, and accepting that. First you've got to love yourself. You need to grasp the fact that in the beginning it was you and at the end it will be you. What ever happens inbetween happens. But you will never be emotionlly ok in any relationship until u learn to love yourself and put yourself first at all times.
2006-10-22 23:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by mizz_toree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fill the need with a relationship with Christ. i know it sounds corny or cheesy, but the girls i've talked to in the same position have done this, and that "need" that you are lacking, will become filled. believe me :-)
wellll...now you can see it :-) email me!!! hehehehe
2006-10-22 23:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by Blazzzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you ask about how long, you can't put a time limit on it. i'm diffrent,your diffrent
add me to your 360 we'll chat
2006-10-22 23:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋