i dated this girl in highschool who was a real good friend for a long time i thought at the time it may have been dumb for us to start dating but anyways, we dated all the way up to the end of summer of grad 12 and whenever we went anywhere she would flirt with any guy who showed any intrest in her. She cheated on me once that i knew of and again that i didn't find about untill way later. anyways we broke up because she went to school. and in the summer we got back together, we go to the same school now and things are so much differant she always make sure i know she is with me and me only. but i bring up the past sometimes and make her cry cause i wont let it go. should i forgive her , im so in love with this girl and she has changed so much, every day she tries to make up for her past but i wont let her. we are 20 now and i think one day she might be the girl for me. but should i just completly let the past go if she has complely changed .
2006-10-22 16:49:18 · 9 answers · asked by bob j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey man you just need to relax and enjoy how wonderfull love can really be but if you think she cheating again i whould be carefull. Alot of guys end up missing up by letting their feelings get the best of them during this time.
2006-10-22 16:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't forgive her, I think you should let her go....because you'll both end up getting hurt......I mean I think that if someone cheats on you once, they can do it over and over again....but it doesn't apply to everyone cause some people, trully change....but it's hard to tell who really changed and who didn't....If you think you can trust her again and forgive her, then stay with her, otherwise just let her go, sometimes it's just better to leave the past where it is, in the past....Good Luck
2006-10-22 17:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
non of us are perfect .. and she had done something in the past when she was much younger and was still searching for who she is and what/who she wanted to be with ... obviously she has learned that she really loves only you even though she has tried other people in the past ... so let the past go .. and stop making this girl cry ... she already has the burden of remembering when she hurt you .. and is making up for it every day .. so take the love that she is giving because its true ... and if u kep hurting her she may eventually leave ... i am sure that there are things that u are also not proud of that u have done in the past .. so forgive and forget ..
2006-10-22 17:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is risky stuff. Your feelings for her are like a ring in your nose, pullin' you this way and that. The problem is that you'll be forever questioning her every move, because deep down you can't trust her. It ain't the stuff for a long term successful relationship, and you know it. If that's not what you're looking for, then hang on for the ride and try to enjoy it. Otherwise, move on, 'cause this ain't going anywhere.
2006-10-22 16:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to make this work you have to let go of the past. wipe the slate clean start all over. but if you cant then your relationship is in jepordy. i too was cheated on and couldnt ever look him in the eye again. not they way i could when i trusted him 100 per cent. the real question is do you completley trust her.if you dont then you probable never will again.
2006-10-22 16:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by bubby4211 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course!!! If you love her and she loves you and has completly changed then forgive and forget. The past may have been bad but if you forgive, the future can be awesome.tell her how much you love her and live each day as it's your last
2006-10-22 16:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by shan_997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting out as friends is good. Trust would be a big thing with me. But, if you two are honest with each other about how you really feel, then only time will tell. Her going to school and changing is a part of life--she is growing and finding out about herself. Ask yourself this: Can you imagine your life with her?
2006-10-22 16:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gonna forgive than you have to do a little forgetting if you are to move on.... catch amnesia for a while and get to know the person she is today.
2006-10-22 16:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by No 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUND LIKE YOU JUST NEED TO LET GO OF THE PAST
OTHER WISE YOU WILL END OF HURTING YOURSELF AND
HER. IF YOU CANT FORGIVE HER, THEN MAY YOU NEED
TO LET HER GO. BECAUSE IF YOU CANT COMPLETELY
TRUST HER EVEN WHEN SHE TRY TO PROVE OVER AND
OVER AGAIN HOW SHE HAD CHANGE. THEN YOU NEED
TO MOVE ON.
2006-10-22 16:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋