First off, I'm not one to just walk up to a girl and start up a conversation. I'm usually quiet and reserved. When I have tried not to be myself, things just go all wrong. I feel like I have a ton to offer. In the past, I have had plenty of girls hit on me and have even dated a couple, but we have nothing in common. The only one I have fallen in love with ended up breaking my heart by cheating on me, then ending it. I treated her the best I could; I gave my all to her. But anyway, what should I do to attract the right person? It seems a crap shoot whether it'll happen. Thank you for any advice; I appreciate it.
2006-10-22 16:35:50 · 13 answers · asked by sg88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to add this: I'm friendly as far as when people approach me. It's just meeting the right one. For the person that asked, I'm 18 years old. Thx!
2006-10-22 16:46:57 · update #1
Think about what is important to you, and what is important for you to find in others. Then think about the things you enjoy that express what is important to you and for you to find in others. For example, if an intelligent, focused, maybe even reserved individual is one you respect, then try places like libraries, parks/trails/nature, museums, theater events, book stores, coffee shops, etc. I realize that I am hugely over-generalizing, but you could give it a try. When you spot someone who looks promising, just strike up a conversation that pertains to the situation, i.e. books, coffee, weather/beauty of nature, performance, exhibit, etc.
If someone came up to me while I was sipping coffee in the park and started knowledgeably discussing the Jane Austen novel I was reading with me, I do believe I'd fall in love instantly.
2006-10-22 16:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Leta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but, given the fact that ALL of your other questions - about 14 - are about girlfriends, I am guessing that you are under 25. No one else will tell you this so it is up to me. You are much too preoccupied with your girlfriend status, to the point that even though you won't notice it, you will scare off the babes as you try to gain more and more control over their day, night, etc. This is not the way to go.
Apparently you had a g.f. recently who broke up with you and then you thought she was giving signals that maybe she wanted to come back. I suggest that the "signals" were things you wanted to see but that were not there. You need to give this whole subject a rest. It may be like kicking heroin as you see it, but you must successfully exist without a g.f. for at least six months and preferably a year. In meantime get on with the projects, classes, education, etc. that you need to do.
Stop looking and she will come. Then stop this worry stuff. Be a real person and it will all fall into place. That is it. Guaranteed if you are honest with yourself about who and what you are and what your motives are. Now break the habit. Good luck.
2006-10-22 16:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really believe internet dating is the wave of the future. I met a lot of cool guys on yahoo personals and match.com. I can't say I had any really horrible experiences, just a couple of guys that I didn't click with. Overall, I had a lot of fun, and after a year, met my current boyfriend, who sounds a lot like you. He is a real catch, very sweet, smart and handsome, but had a hard time meeting women because he is terribly shy. Getting to know each other over a few emails really helped loosen him up for our first real-life date. I would say to give it a try and be a little patient.
Good Luck!
2006-10-22 16:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that how you see yourself - quiet, introvert, intelligent, super genius etc - isn't neccessarily how people see YOU. Of course you might be all that, but the output is that people just see a quiet person. It's kind of hard to explain... but people like to feel liked and if you just say "hello" and keep on walkin'....you're not going to see much action... and you might be missing out on miss quiet and reserved in the process...because she might be making the same mistake you are. Don't try to be someone you aren't, but do try to smile at people, and talk to people...show a little friendliness...you might be surprised.
2006-10-22 16:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, get out. It's not gonna happen instantly. Go to parties you get invited to; volunteer somewhere and make new friends. Find something you like to do and you'll meet some interesting people who like you for what you are. When you get it, live in it well. Have a good head about you and you should be fine.
2006-10-22 16:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by Gremlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, be yourself. Try to go places where people are interested in the same things you are; if you like reading, spend some time at the library. If you like movies, hang out at the video store. If you like to exercise, go to the gym. When the time is right, everything will align perfectly and you won't even have to go out of your comfort zone.
2006-10-22 16:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm there with you. I just had a real bad experience. I question the ability to find a person who I am compatible with as well. Good luck to you.
2006-10-22 16:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by shugabam! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o gosh i hate when ppl cheat. but yeah be urslef and if u end up messing up then the person shouldnt mind they should like u for who u r. and yeah u have to go through bad times or you;ll end up being a push over. im sry but every1 has to go through bad times
2006-10-22 16:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by Groovy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bummer. I have the perfect advice for you, but it depends on how old you are. A lot of what you said is different for a kid compared to an older man.
2006-10-22 16:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋