When my ex-boyfriend first dumped me, he use to contact me a lot on msn just to say hi & then that eventually stopped. But now it seems like he only contacts me on msn when he thinks my life is going through changes. Like in September I put, “packing for Western” as my msn quote, & he said hi right away and started to ask me if I was going to Western university. Then a few days ago he contacted me again on msn. I put “applications” as my msn quote and he said hi right away and wanted to see how I was doing. He wanted to know if I was applying for graduate schools since it’s my last year of undergrad. I know this may seem like a stupid question to, but I really wanna know why he is still curious. But even more, I really wanna know why is that my ex only contacts me when he thinks something new is happening in my life? Why can’t he just contact me regularly like before to see how I am? Does he still have feelings for me?
2006-10-22 16:28:47 · 10 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, we only dated for one month, he's older & more experienced, & it was an innocent relationship, (only kissing) cuz he knew I was saving sex for marriage.
2006-10-22 16:30:31 · update #1
Your ex sounds self serving. He only wants to know the scoop but doesn't want to be there to experience it with you. I say, stop taking his calls and make him wonder. Let him know what he's missing out on.
2006-10-22 16:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Gotham*City*Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a complicated situation with a complicated answer. From a guys perspective (and I have been in this situation) he is contacting because guys like to have attention of girls. Sounds simple, but there is more.When guys get off of a relationship and they arent immediatly bombarded with hook up or relationship opportunities, they will revert back to the point where they had some attention and control. WHat he is trying to do is establish SOME sort of commucation with you so he can someday turn to you in need and hope for physicial intimacy. When you were together, he obviously wanted some freedom, now that he has his freedom, he wants u too. He wants his cake and eat it too. Now its up to you whether or not to further this potential disaster. My best advice is to limit your communication. THe sooner u do the sooner u can move on and find someone more committed. Best of luck, you sound like a very sweet person.
2006-10-22 23:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by Knick101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always quite possibel to remain good friends with an ex, even after breaking up. My mom did it, I did it. My mom has been married for 25 years, and here ex is a neighbor down the street!
YOu can always get along with an ex, and still be friends.
that is, of course, especially if you "broke up" with each other, and not literally "dumped" or "cheated on" one another.
2006-10-22 23:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by ashleythequestionasker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't make up his mind if he wants to be with you or not... Or he really cares about you as a person and simply likes to keep in touch with his friends. Don't read into everything a guy does. Sometimes it's exactly what it looks like!
2006-10-22 23:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he dont have feeling's for you, i do ,lol jk hun now first yah hes trying to stay current with yah thinking you'll come back, but dont hun if he really loved you the way you need to be loved, he would be there for yah, sounds kinda like he just wants some
2006-10-22 23:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be just curious how you are doing, yeah he may still have feelings for you, but you two are ex's for a reason.
2006-10-22 23:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he wants to let go but he cant. he has feelings but he still has his life as well and if he wanted it any other way than he'd probably tell you. just take it at face value and dont sweat it
2006-10-22 23:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by mikki n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants your love in a casual way.
2006-10-22 23:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he only wants to know what you're up to, doesn;t mean he wants you back, maybe he's trying to annoy you...it's working, huh?
2006-10-22 23:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by aclazo979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to keep open the door to "breakup sex"... good luck
2006-10-22 23:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by PushDownAndTurn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋