I have not been dating much in years, for some reason I had no interest, most of all just because I guess I have not had the confindence necessary and I know women see right through that. I am getting back in the game though, I feel much better about things, have a new outlook all that sort of stuff, and I just wonder what my best course is. I know a few women but I don't see them as my girlfriend in the future and I dont want to mislead or use women. I am not that guy, but at the same time I know I have a lot to offer it just does not show up immediately. My strong suits are my intelligence and sense of humor, I am about average looking but getting in better shape. I have never been good at this stuff but I guess after what has been going on I do not think I care about getting rejected. Any thoughts would be appreciated, and considering I am in my late 20's, answers from women in that age range would probably be the best for me...thanks!
2006-10-22 16:07:36 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is very respectful of you to think about others rather than yourself, meaning that you don't want to intend to use a woman, but you are still thinking about yourself by trying to build your confidence up. I believe you are ready to date again, but yoou should know not to let a woman tell you what to do or downgrade you. Think about yourself, but also be empathetic.
2006-10-22 16:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, there are lots of single women our age (I'm 28) wondering where the heck are all the good guys hiding!? So just go and get yourself out there. :)
Have some idea of what you're looking for, go and do the things you're interested in and keep an eye out for women with a similar interest. That gives you a natural starting point. Let your friends know you're 'getting back in the game' and surely someone will have a single friend to introduce you to. Try the online thing if you're curious, I've met some interesting people through match and yahoo personals (even craigslist)... even if nothing works out it can help the confidence factor just by getting some 'practice'.
When you do find someone you're interested in, don't be half-assed about it, if you don't show an active interest by calling, asking out, etc she will assume you are not interested and likely lose whatever interest she may have had for you.
And if you should happen to be in SE Mich, you can reach me at 734-555-HAHA ;)
2006-10-22 23:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋