i know it may sound wierd, but i don't know what i should do.. boot camp?.. go into a special program?.. i'm trying to help myself.. so i can accomplish more, and get threw life, and i don't want to be a troubled teen anymore!
please help!
2006-10-22 15:52:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
i want to go in a boot camp... and it's not my friends it's me.. i can't control myself.. and ive seen counclers.. i just flip out on them and tell them to go .. themselfs im not very nice and i mean to my mom..i just have a very bad temper like my dad.. and i HATE it i want to get help.. but nothing helps me. =/
2006-10-22 16:07:32 · update #1
I know it is hard to be 14 and I do not know if this will help you but I will try. I read once that a great philosopher said that you can handle anything that happens to you in your life as long as when it happens you are moving forward as a person and learning. I read that when I was about 15 and very troubled myself. Try getting out of the problem and into the solution. 1. Find someone you can talk to, someone perhaps a little older than yourself whom you look up to and respect. Someone who is doing good things with their life and has seen adversity as well. I know you can get alot of good advice online and you like to do this, but be careful. 2. Try keeping a journal in which you put your thoughts, feelings, questions and just general observations about your life and what is going on around you.
3.. Think about your life as honestly as you can. Where do you want to be when you are 30?, 40?, 50?. I know at 14 it is hard to imagine being those ages but one day you will be there. Begin to think about your future and start to make a plan for your life. It may be only a short one at first, ( I will go to school all week ) or ( I will eat more fruits and vegetables ). I am sure you have more to think about then that but you can lengthen it and fine tune it as you go. Do you want to go to a college of any kind? There are always options of one kind or another. Start making plans to do whatever it will take to get there and don't beat yourself up if things happen, Leave yourself room for changes in plans or direction, adjust your plan but think things through. Remember to take into consideration the thoughts, feelings, ideas and needs of those closest to you and when things conflict, TALK it out. 4. Make some new friends who are going the way you want to go. A group of supportive friends. This is hard sometimes so just take care of business, lay low, and it will happen and learning to be by yourself sometimes is not a bad thing. 5. Do good things for yourself, change your hair, do your nails and toes, take a new class, learn something new, get out of your own head and do something to help someone in need. Keep going forward, no matter how hard it seems. Keep moving forward, keep learning and growing as a person.
2006-10-22 17:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by catsheba7@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what is troubling you. Don't let someone else (the army, a church) take control of your life: then YOU won't be really helped, just turned into a puppet.
What is it that causes you to do whatever it is that you want to stop doing? How can you get away from it? School? A change of location? Avoiding certain people?
It's YOUR life to control. Dont give that up.
2006-10-22 15:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mac Momma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!! Can you talk to your parents?? Or maybe a counsellor at school or a pastor at your church?? Try calling your local Boys and Girls Club. Whatever you do, just hang in there and keep trying...you will be so much happier if you can get an education, stay out of trouble and take care of yourself when you are older. Best wishes and good luck!!
2006-10-22 15:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing you have a problem is half the battle. Good for you. Now get serious and get some help.In St.James,Missouri they have a Boys Town/Girls Town that has helped young people for years.There is probably a place like this near your home.I wish you good luck because it is hard being young these days.But I can tell your a strong person so your going to be okay.
2006-10-23 01:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already are starting to change
I understand how hard being a teen is
You don't need boot camp or anything like that
If you truly wanna changethen you can do it by yourself and tell your sel that you don't need this and don't do it and If your friends are troubled stay away from them....But whatever
2006-10-22 16:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by goody2shoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to realize that you have alot to contribute to society. Use that nergy that you have to volunteer in a hospitalor nursing home or Humane society. Poeple and other teens need your help to stabilize thier lives. You are smart to ask for help. Do more excercise jog swim and do many things that will use up your energy. you will feel better about yourself. DOn't waste your time. be a turor at a library. Do everyhting to better yourself. At the end it will be you against the world. Stop having grudges. Show your real emotions and don't cover them with anger.
2006-10-22 17:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by mikegarcialazavalamcallen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something nice for someone else at least once a day without needing a "thank you". Have patience with yourself.
Part of growing up is painful, but if you already know what is right, you have made incredible progress.
Hang in there...it really does get better.
2006-10-22 16:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by dekkfm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a counselor at school or talk to your parents. If you want to get better, then you will. There are programs you can get into that can help. Ask an adult that you trust.
Also, staying away from other teenagers that are troubled will help.
2006-10-22 15:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so hard being a teenager especially in this day that we live in. You are truly on the right path if you see that you need change and you are asking for help. You need someone to really stand by you, believe in you and pray for you every day. Google "Focus on the Family" they have counselors waiting to help you, pray with you and guide you. You have to trust someone, they will truly help you as they have helped many others. I pray you find what you need. God Bless!
2006-10-22 18:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go run off and join the service, i promise u there is another way, but if u join, go air foce or navy...but u cant run away from ur troubles, it never works because ur problems are on the inside, not the outside. what troubles u? other people's actions? u need to put ur situation/problems into perspective, and then try lifting weights
2006-10-22 15:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋