why do parents worry so much?

Question

my parents worry tht im anorexic bc i started losing weight. i used to be 5'6 and 120 lbs but now im down to 110 lbs.im comfortable w/the way i look now and i dont plan losing anymore weight.but they still think tht im anorexic(im not)
and they say their gonna take me to c a 'special' docture.this really makes me mad bc im not anerixic and i dont need a docture.why do parents worry so much?i love them and i told them tht i was ok but they just dont trust me

Answer 1

As parents we worry about everything, because we love you and cannot imagine losing you. Once when my son was about four I thought something was wrong with him, so I took him to a "special" doctor, and my son said right in front of the guy, "I do not know why you brought me to this guy he is crazier than I am." haha.... It made me realize that maybe I needed to chill out.

Determining whether you are anorexic is really looking at whether you are eating a healthy diet. Here is the hard part about anorexia....it is a short term solution...people starve themselves to lose weight, but tank their metabolism. It is smarter to eat lots of small meals and keep your metabolism going, so that you do not balloon up when you start to eat again....death is not really a good option either, and that is what happens if you do not eat at all.

Your partents just love you and they want to see you happy and healthy. Cut them some slack, because kids do not come with an owner's manual. We are making mistakes and learning as we go along too. The best part about going to a "special" doctor is that you now have a new friend to talk with your parents about, and they are the ones paying for it. It is really a beautiful irony.

Answer 2

It might be interesting to know your age, as from 13-20, things change very quickly. I am 55 and parents never stop worrying about you. My mom is 83 and still does. One thing to consider is that parents these days don't understand the world their chidren live in because it is changing rapidly, far far far more rapidly than ever before. So your parents love you so much they want to take you to someone they think can tell for sure because they probably didn't deal with your issues and teens and are trying to keep you healthy and safe in their way. What do you have to lose if you really think you are telling the truth by going to a dr. ? There is a huge huge generation gap now. Take this example, a teen can have a cell phone and talk to anyone anywhere any time. Only about 15 years ago, phones were connected to the wall in the kitchen where mom and dad heard everything. It was easier to overhear conversations to make sure you were safe. You haven't had a long enough time on earth realistically to know the horrors that exist out there. I know you hate to hear that but keep in mind I was an elem teacher and I know "kids". I wouldn't have wanted to hear it when I was your age either, but there is a lot to be said for experience. Look backwards and what would you advice someone 5 years younger than you to do, for example, 5th grader to 1st grader: "learn to read in 1st as it only gets harder !". I hope this helps. I'm really one your side. There are many determinations for too skinny besides what the eye says, like blood workups etc. Good luck, be patient, and keep on loving those people, your parents who have done so much for you so far.

Answer 3

Because my dear they love you and they fear for you and if you are 5'6" you should weigh between 120 - 155 lbs according to all the "charts". There are a ton of bad examples of people being far too thin to be healthy and we as parents are just afraid.

I know it's hard to understand and accept. Just go to the doctor, take the tests he orders and if you are fine he will tell them...and you can say nicely with a smile "See Mom, all that worry for nothing!" And she'll feel better and so will you and then maybe you can all talk about things a bit easier. The more you talk to your parents about what is going on with your life and in your head the more they will trust you and feel comfortable. And remember sometimes it's not you they don't trust, it's the rest of this crazy world and all the people in it that may want to hurt you.

You are so young and you will understand more when you have a child of your own....you are a precious gift that means more to us than our own life...it's hard to handle, that kind of love. It's hard to let you go and make your own mistakes and watch you get hurt (by girls or friends) when we could make it easier for you. Have some patience with your parents they are only thinking of you...best of luck.

Answer 4

Let's use our imaginations for a moment, shall we?

Long ago, your mother waited with bated breath to see if she would have two pink lines on a stick, or if the cup would turn blue, or whatever. When whatever method of testing she used showed that she was pregnant, she began to worry. What if I'm not getting enough Folic Acid? What if he's born with no nose? What if his heart doesn't develop properly? What if I can't deliver naturally and they can't get the baby out in time? What if I eat sushi and the baby develops some exotic baby disease? What if I fall down and the baby dies? For nine months, 24 hours out of every day, her body and her mind are focused on doing what needs to be done for the tiny life inside her. When you have that going on, let me assure you, it's nearly impossible to get it OFF your mind, and pregnant mothers worry about everything.

There is not, however, a break in the worrying after the baby is born. As difficult and worrisome as the pregnancy was, now the baby is OUT, and SOOOOO many things can happen outside the mother's control. What if somene drops the baby? What if he's five months old and not a hint of a tooth (MY GOSH, WHAT IF HE DOESN'T HAVE ANY TEETH AND HAS TO HAVE DENTURES IN KINDERGARTEN??!!??!!) That other baby sits up, why isn't he sitting up? According to all the books, he should be sitting up. What if he has a neurological problem? What if he's crippled?

The list goes on and on, and for some reason, for every age, it seems there are more things to worry about.

Your parents have been worrying about you since your conception, possibly even before that (what if we can't get pregnant???). They love you. Their lives are almost not even their own, because so much of every day, and so much of their energy, goes towards caring about you.

And how do you thank them for it? By insisting that they have no right to worry about you when you make what they see as a bad decision about your life or your health. By insisting that you have the right to do whatever you want with your body, that same body they spent YEARS taking care of.

You know somethin? Regardless of whatever popular childrearing experts are saying at the time, your parents, they don't have to trust you. They don't have to respect your right to damage your own body. They don't have to treat you, their CHILD, like an adult.

Now, a girl who is 5'6" and 110 is QUITE skinny. A guy should probably be even a little heavier than a healthy girl at that height. They do have some reason to worry, that's not a healthy weight for you to be. I'm aware that guys in their early or mid-teens can have a growth spurt and shoot up several inches and seem stick-thin for a while. But you need to accept that your parents' worries are proof that they care a great deal about you. Go see the doctor, get checked out, don't get offended. If the doctor says "Mr. and Mrs. James's-parents, he's not anorexic," then great.

But don't act like your parents are somehow insulting you by worrying about you. I realize it annoys you, but it's not something they can stop, and it's not something that is going to just go away.

Answer 5

Anorexia is a mental sicknesss caused by a deep desire to look as style demands.
Those who defeat the sicknes are those that put intelligence before instinct. They are the strong.

Your parent´s worry is well founded believing that you will not be able to defeat your instinct sickness, due that many people have finally died from this hard to beat mental problem.

If you are able to maintain you weight of 110 lbs. and not lose any more, you have won and can prove it to your parents.
You ally is the weight balance, keep a control and show it to your parents.

Answer 6

Well, they're just really worried for you. To tell you the truth, I'm overweight for my height, but my parents don't pester me about losing weight. You, on the other hand, are definitely underweight for your height (you probably look like some skinny rocker dude, that's okay, some people like that...), but that's not really a problem.
If you want them to stop bothering you about it, just sit down with them for like ten minutes, and explain why you're comfortable with your weight. I did that with my parents, and they accepted my explanation. Still, being under- or overweight sometimes presents health problems, but I don't think they're that serious. It's all down to eating the RIGHT kind of food.
OK, I'm rambling. Anyway, good luck with your parents if you choose to take my advice.

Answer 7

Simply put--they love you and do not want anything bad to happen to you. They have cared for your every need when you were healthy and sick....it's part of the job. Parents in their 80's still worry about their 60 year old kids.

Be patient with your parents--and keep on loving them.

Answer 8

Because they love you and if anything happened to you and they could have prevented it, then they would feel so guilty. Its not that they dont trust you, its just they know that sometimes kids have a hard time talking about things especially with their parents and they just want to be sure.

Answer 9

1)Most irrational fear - a runny nose ! 2)Dumbest safety reason - no, you cannot start soccer. I dislocated my knee when playing soccer at your age (a quote from my neighbor telling his son why he cannot start soccer this season!) 3)Baby proofing equipment - a rubber ducky used in the bath tub which monitors the temp of the water so it doesn't get too hot for the baby ! What ever happened to using your elbow, or common sense? lol

Answer 10

120 pounds for your height is too little.

Your parent's love you, they care.

Quit your complaining, go to the doctor. If you are healthy and eating right, you have nothing to worry about.

Then Thank your parents for loving you so.