Ever since my nephew had teeth, he's been biting my daughter (there the same age). Some people would tell me it's because he couldn't talk for a long time so that was his way of getting his frustrations out? I don't know...he stopped for about 8 months now and just bit my daugther tonight so bad it broke the skin on 2 fingers. I was LIVID!!! I was so mad I couldn't even speak. The thing that made me the maddest was my nephew said it was bcuz my daugther pinched him (which I find very hard to believe) but even so, even if she did, he should've been given a time out instead of being consoled by his dad!! I'm so mad I want to talk to my sister about it, but I know she felt really really bad :( What should I do, if anything?
2006-10-22 15:46:02 · 9 answers · asked by prettyinpink 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I could totally see having my daughter bite him back if it was her brother but it's my nephew so there's no way I could have her do that, and I've also been telling her that no matter what someone does you can't bite them, so I feel its a little hypocitical to say "Ok, bite this one time??" But I have heard people this has worked for :(
2006-10-22 15:52:03 · update #1
Don't have her bite back! I can't believe so many suggest injuring a child to teach a lesson! Biting him back will only reinforce the message that biting is okay. "If they can bite me, I can bite them.”
The best thing you can do to stop this is use a natural consequence, i.e., if he bites your daughter, she will not want to play with him. The next time he bites her, rush to your daughter and empathize. “Ouch! That hurt you! You must be so (upset, mad, hurt, angry). Let’s get some ice to put on your bite.” Shut your nephew out. He will not like being ignored. Also, have your daughter tell him “Don’t bite me! I will not play with you if you are going to bite me!” It is a very powerful message when coming from another child. You can also be overly dramatic when your nephew goes near your daughter. Move her away from him and say “I’m worried you might bite! You can play when you’re ready to be gentle. Speak with your sister about doing the same. It will work best if you are both consistent.
I would also empathize with him after a biting incident. "You must have felt very (angry, mad, hurt, frustrated) when you bit "Emma." What can you do next time instead?" He will learn to express his feeling rather than bite. Hope this helps!
2006-10-23 10:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a fan of the bite back policy because this does normally work although it seems harsh. However since this is your nephew that will probably just cause problems between you and your sister. You have to talk to her. If they don't punish their son he won't stop.
2006-10-24 05:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can speak from experience i have a five year old and the biting stage was horrible but i did the only thing i could think of and that was to bite him back and ask him if it felt good and if he liked being bit and he never bit me or anyone else because i told him every time you bite someone im going to bite you twice as hard and he stopped
2006-10-22 16:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not have her bite him back because on one hand you are telling her that this is bad, and then asking her to do it - very mixed message.
You cannot control a child that is not yours. So you need to tell the parents that they will have to be kept apart until this habit stops. Your child is your first priority, and her safety is job one. Children age 3 still need constant supervision when they play.
2006-10-22 15:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately talk to your sister about this, and his dad!!!!! If they let him get away with it with your daughter, he's going to be doing it to other kids in school. I would tell your sister that you won't bring your daughter around him anymore if they won't do anything about his biting habit. It's her health and welfare you have to watch out for. You are her protector. Good luck!!
2006-10-22 16:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite him back. I did it when my oldest started biting, and she never bit anyone again. You have to make it hurt, but not as to leave a bruise or anything. Just so he feels that what he is doing is causing pain.
2006-10-22 15:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A Dr told me this and i thought she was nuts at first ..but my son would not stop at all.. she told me to bite him back and hard make it hurt and .. I got sick of him biting and i just and up and did it one day and he have not bite sent.. You do it dont let your little girl see you do it coz it will make her think its ok for her to do it
2006-10-22 16:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by nightsky1331 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would .. bite him back and show him hey it hurts and maybe that would work..
2006-10-22 16:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by sparkles20_72745 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
BITE THE LITTLE ASSHOLE BACK
2006-10-22 16:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by eazyb 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋