How do you know when you are ready to have sex.?

Question

I am 19 years old and still a virgin. I have a boyfriend officially for a month now and he told me he would wait for me until I was ready. I have an idea that I am, but how do you know if you are completely ready. And also, how do you know that his intentions are the right ones?

Answer 1

i think that the best way to tell is this : ask yourself if you really and truly trust this guy...dont go back and forth about what if this and what if that...trust your first true gut feeling...you'll know if you trust him, just go with your stomach feeling... ALSO think about this: if this guy slept with you, and NEVER EVER spoke to you again...what would you do? would you be so devastated that you'd cry all day and night?? if so, i'd wait...its very hard to deal with a relationship once you have had sex....theres more to worry about and you also need to know if hes been tested for std'd and dont take his word MAKE him go somewhere with you b/c the worst thing that could happen is you sleep with him and you find out you have a disease...its JUST. NOT. WORTH. IT! you might feel dumb asking him and even dumber going with him but its YOUR LIFE and you deserve to SEE THE RESULTS yourself...its not that you dont trust him, tell him your just playing it safe and take it from there..i mean if hes a good,k trustworthy guy, he'll do it.... good luck and be safe...your life depends on it

Answer 2

If you have to ask advice from ppl on line then i dont think you are ready to go all the way i mean how are we to know how ur body or mind works only you can know if you are ready. Most guys say things like that to make the girl feel good and special but if you make them wait too long then they will be gone and i am speaking from experience sweetie i was with a guy for 2 months and he said the same thing to me and after 2 months he said if i wasnt given it up then he would go somewhere else .

Answer 3

you probably need more time than a month in any case

the longer you wait the better you get to know the guy and the more you can confirm his intentions --- he cares for you more than the sex the longer it is --- if he is after the sex alone he will move on

marriage is not overrated just a commitment that does not need a piece of paper to be lasting -- its the people and how they feel that make marriage last

you can never be sure if you are completely ready even in marriage --- trust your feelings and your instincts and don't get anxious

Answer 4

You know you are ready when you feel completely comfortable with the person and you are in LOVE...The only way you would be able to tell whether his intentions are the right ones by asking him outright...Don't have sex because you feel the need to, have sex when you feel that you have a special bond with the person. Or you can simply wait until you are married...

Answer 5

Girl when you get to know him good enough and you feel comfortabel around him don't rush just because you think he wants to have sex if you feel it's worthed to have sex with him that you really love him and that you may stay a long time together than it's o.k just think about really good p.s us protection hahah btw my friend just lost her virginity and she's 20 so you can take your time remember this does not mean you have to wait till 20 but at least think about you can also talk to him if your confused maybe he will tell you what he thinks aboout remember always to be open with each other in bad or in good honesty is 1 of the most important thing in a relationship :) Good luck gurl

Answer 6

I'd wait a little longer if you have only been with this guy for a month because whether you want to hear this or not his intentions are probably to get you to lose your virginity to him. But I would so wait till you meet the right guy because your going to remember him for the rest of your life. So be very careful and use protection if you decide to have sex.

Answer 7

are his intention good? are you taking anti pregnancy precauitons besides a condom? a month is not long enough you need to know the person well its more than sex involved you are connececting yourself with sex the sex aint all that for a girl for the first time and you are connecting your self through sex theres more to it than just copulation -the act once you do it and your a virgin and you loose your hiemen-cherry thers no putting it back iwouldnt get to anxious if it aint the right guy you will go through life never enjoying a wonder ful sex life there is more too it you need to make sure you reaaly are in love if you check usually it takes a girl 1 year before the wild thing happens

Answer 8

You know your ready when you dont have a doubt in your mind and it feels perfectly right. You will know what it feels like, its the same way with being in love, bu make sure that your completely ready so that you wont have any regrets. Also you will know if his intentions are good if he doesnt always try to have sex with you every chance that you get to be alone with eachother.

Answer 9

First of all I want to commend you on still being virgin. You cannot ask people how you know if you are ready to have sex. People have sex for different reasons and you have to find your reason. His intention may be good or bad but you should wait.

Answer 10

Age is Not the marker for when someone is ready.

Please don't lower your standards. The Bible says that sex before marriage is Fornication and wrong. A sin. God created sex for Marriage. You open yourself up to disease, lost respect, the chance he could be using you and having an unexpected child, hurting your parents and all sorts of things.

Society says it's OK...........but it isn't. Don't give in to peer pressure or pressure by him..........even if you feel a lot of passion. Guy's can get tired of a girl very quick and they lie so easy. SURE they are interested while the relationship is giving them what they want and they Seem closer then, but you Never know! Just watch what happens on Maury's show...........how many can't stand eachother and once they were passionate. I could say a lot more, but please listen and heed advice. You won't be sorry for doing whats right.