As morbid as it may sound has anyone ever gotten married in a cemetary or know someone that has? To make a long story short my fiance proposed to me in front of the mausoleum at the local cemetery. It's a really pretty peaceful place and I'm just wondering if I would have to pay a fee or something if I was to be married there. Any comments welcome! Thanks!
2006-10-22 15:10:54 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In the Victorian era, cemetaries were considered to be very romantic places to take your sweetheart on a walk through or have a picnic.
Just ignore everyone who insists that you must be gothic or morbid, and I don't think that it is disrespectful to the dead. And if any of their souls would happen to be hanging around, I would think that they'd welcome a marriage celebration. They would probably appreciate the change of pace from the sad funerals...
That said, I would arrange a meeting with whoever is in charge of the cemetary. They would definately be able to answer all of your questions. Some cemetaries would let you, I'm sure, but others would probably not.
That is something that I would like to do (even though I wasn't proposed to in one, the idea is just appealing to me).
Good luck, and congratulations on your engagement!
2006-10-22 18:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, people have gotten married everywhere else that you can think of, from parachuting to scuba diving. I've never heard of anyone getting hitched at a cemetery, but someone probably has.
The problem that I see would be getting the permission of the cemetary owners to have the ceremony there. Some might feel that it's disrespectful to the dead, especially if there are going to be quite a few people attending. And your minister may object, too, if he thinks it's an inappropriate location for a wedding.
But if that's what you have your heart set on, it never hurts to ask and find out. There may not be any problems at all. Mazel tov!
2006-10-22 15:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand that it is probably very georgeous there, lots of cemetaries are.....however, I think it's highly disrespectful to both the people buried their and the institution of marriage.
The people buried their, along with their families deserve respect and peace, throwing a party which is what a wedding is, is highly unappropriate.
Also, getting married is a joyous occasion, the graveyard thing is going to completely void that out, Why would you do something to make such a joyous occasion such a sad one?
To be perfecly honest and well blunt, I would probably come over and smack you if I were burying my loved one at the same time you were getting married there....keep in mind you can't prevent a funeral happening at the same time as your wedding! Do keep this in mind as it could be very upsetting to family of the deceased there.
Congrats on getting married, but please disregard the graveyard idea!
2006-10-23 09:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Check at the office of the cemetary. They can tell you if they have any fees or restriction . We have a historical cemetary here that people do all kinds of things in. they have a beautifull chapel and lake. people take walks in the cemetary, they have horticulteral tours there becuase they have so many different plants, they give tours and tell stories about the people buried there. I am sure you wont be the 1st couple wanting to have a special event there.
2006-10-22 15:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by grapelady911 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it would be strange. However, I recently learned that people from New Orleans often visit the cemetarys as a normal thing, as we here in Texas would visit the ballpark. So maybe it's a cultural issue, and to tell the absolute truth, it's your wedding. You should be happy and do what you want. As far as costs, I cant tell you.
2006-10-23 04:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no never met or been to one im sure you would have to pay a fee even it was allowed then only thing is the families of the deceased might have a problem with it...i dont seem like kind of a odd location why not an equally peaceful park or botanical garden?
2006-10-22 17:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pretty freaky unless you do it on Halloween. I would think it would be a bit disrespectful though- for the other families who have their loved ones there. Could it be possible to do it on the outskirts of it? I wouldnt do it, I just think it would be to hard because why on earth would you want to make your happiest day in the world be at a place where it is so sad?
2006-10-22 15:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say that if you were a Goth couple and/or you were having a Halloween theme, it wouldn't come across as odd at all. Otherwise it possibly could to some folks, and disrespectful in others' minds.
Contact them to get all the details you need and decide from there.
2006-10-22 15:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it may ought to be a form of secret, center of the night issues in view it somewhat is seen public nudity... which you're able to be arrested for and categorised a intercourse criminal. you do no longer want that do you? additionally, stable luck finding a choose or minister with an open adequate ideas to marry a bare couple... plus you need to have 2 of your individual witnesses who do no longer ideas seeing the two one in all you bare. to each and each their own... only be respectful adequate to no longer stand on someones grave for the ceremony.
2016-12-08 19:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get married anywhere you want, but what is the fixation with a cemetery? You would have to get permission to have a wedding there first. Lots of possibilities I guess.
2006-10-22 15:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋