i have this nice guy who is 21 and i am much older and he's thinking we would be a good match for ?
how do i handle this he has be very up front and sweet .
2006-10-22 15:10:31 · 18 answers · asked by erf1960 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am old enough to be his mom...
2006-10-22 15:21:43 · update #1
When I was younger (21) I worked at this place I wont mention because it seems kind of weird (the situation) however my friend introduced me to his cousin and she was 31 at the time. We decided to go out on a date and it was fantastic. We had a lot in common and great sex. However after dating her for a while I figured out it was just for the sex so we ended the relationship. So its up to you what you want to do with it but it would work out if it wasn't just for the sex. Its just hard for a big gap between ages at a younger age because a boy isn't is as mature at that age. I perceive that most women are more mature then men at that age. But at my age now looking back I don't think women really reach their maturity until mid 30s...
2006-10-22 15:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by that_super_shy_guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys only feel comfortable around older womemn and it works as well fo rthem as it does ofr oolder men and younger women at times.
You don't say how much older, but when he reaches 40 if you are sixty that could be a problem you would might want to think about. I personally know of one family in which the guys step sons are his age and he thinks the world of their mom still. She has been his only squeeze ense he was 20.
YOu neve rknow:):)
2006-10-22 15:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys at 21 are curious about older women?? I know I was.... What kind of future do you think you two would have?? Are you willing to have kids with this guy? If you're in it to just have fun, then you still need to be careful because he might fall in love. He's young and doesn't have as much life experience as you so you have to be the better person and make the decision for both of you......
2006-10-22 15:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on your feelings for this guy, do you see a future with him? if so, than give it a shot, it doesnt matter about numbers..who cares how much older you are than him, it sure doesnt matter to him. I know lots of people that have a huge gap in between them and they are very strong as a couple. So its really up to you on how you feel. Take it slow and see where it takes you, make sure anything your scared about tell him and make it clear, if you wanting kids soon or want to get married or whatever, than tell him that this is your goal in life and you want to know what he thinks. If hes wanting the same thing as you than great , but if not than at least you know what your getting yourself into.
2006-10-22 15:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who was pursued for months by this fellow, she finally started to see him they married and now they are in the process of divorce. She says she should have gone with her first instincts. They were never on the same page and never had the same goals and direction in life.
2006-10-22 15:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by russianoxford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh', you're both adults. If you don't think it'll work, then very nicely let him know that you just don't think of him that way. If you want to give it a shot, then go for it. Not sure what's so complicated about this?
2006-10-22 15:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you would have asked me this a week ago, I would have said no. But I am with someone who is younger then me, and no one has even made me happier. He helped me realize that age is just a number, and any two people who have a connection have something stronger then that.
2006-10-22 15:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good match for what? You didn't say! If it's sex, go ahead and rock his world!
2006-10-22 15:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is his materiality level that can answer alot of questions for you.. Ask yourself is he looking for a relationship or is he looking for somebody to take care of him!!!!
2006-10-22 15:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by strickly2deep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it. Age is just a number(within reason of course)
2006-10-22 15:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by Doc M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋