can I make my ex husband stay away from the hospital while i'm there having the baby?We haven't been together for 6 months,he's very mentally abusive and I don't want him around me. Can I keep him away til I get home with the baby?
2006-10-22 14:50:13 · 24 answers · asked by leavex4good 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
I know he will have rights to the baby when it's born but he thinks he has rights to me to. He wants to controll me and no I'm not going back to him when I get out.Just having to deal with always coming to my door and stalking me.
2006-10-22 15:04:24 · update #1
Don't let him know when you go into labour, and make sure that all the hospital staff know in advance that you do not wish for him to be there. If this is not at all possible, then make sure you get a restraining order.
2006-10-22 15:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Butterscotch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hospital will do whatever it takes to make you comfortable. If it is not a comfortable situation for your ex to be in the birthing room with you, then they will not allow him to be in there. If he pitches a fit, they will make sure he is off the premesis.
There is no law that states the father must be in the birthing room at the birth of their child. It is the choice of the mother. It is something that is rather "revealing" and "compromising", and even if it is the husband (or ex in your case), if the mother isn't comfortable with him in the room, then he will be banned from the room.
I don't know about keeping him away from the hospital. He will be able to go to see the baby in the nursery, but you can make sure he isn't allowed into your room. The staff doesn't have to let everyone in to see you. If you specifically request him not enter your room, they will not allow him to. End of story.
2006-10-22 15:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU have the ability to choose who you will have in the Labor and Delivery Room, and can also choose to identify who you want to visit while you are in the hospital.
IF I were you, I'd make sure that I informed the Doctor doing the delivery, and the Hospital of any Restraining Orders/Personal Protective Orders, and any threats, or other forms of abuse that you have survived through while in the marriage, and afterwards. That way, they can be on the lookout for the ex (and if he is breaking the PPO or RO), then they can call the police/security and have him arrested and jailed for the violation.
2006-10-22 14:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you enter the hospital, inform the admissions office that you do not want him to visit or to be allowed near you. you have the right to make a list of accepted people and not accepted. also you can have on your chart that he can not call you or receive any information...if you think he will attempt to pull something to upset you, get your lawyer to file a restraining order against him and that should work for you while you in the hospital...include the hospital, your home and family's address. i know he might be able to have visitation rights, but let the court system work for you...he can have visitation with a social worker present.
2006-10-22 20:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just let the doctors (your doctor specifically) will write an order to keep him out of there. They will inform the nurses and most likely a sign will be posted on the door that says "No Visitors". We've done this before in the hospital where I work.
2006-10-22 14:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! Get him away. A verbally abusive asshole is the LAST thing you need, especially in your situation. Call the hospital ahead of time and explain to them the situation, if that doesn't work and they can't gurantee that they won't let him in, consider getting a temporary restraining order. He does have the right if it is his biological mother, but your right to feel mentally ok as you are the one in labor should override that right. Best of luck!
2006-10-22 14:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole83 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you tell him...how would he find out you are at the hospital..I would imagine that a person being in the delivery room is totally up to the mother...just tell the hospital staff or call there and make sure thats their policy..they are going to want the mother to be comofrtable..and could care less about the father I am sure.
2006-10-22 14:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maternity wards have strict security now because of this. Talk to your doctor and the ward supervisor to have him banned while your in the hospital. There are always rights for abused women, call the police if the hospital doesn't have security. Tell friends and family your wishes.
"Get home with the baby" means going back to him when you're done????? please clarify..
2006-10-22 14:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About a month ago I went to the hospital with a friend and her husband to be there while she gave birth. After they transferred her into the delivery room, they asked us for our names, to sign some waiver, then they asked my friend if she consented to us being in the room. It is your decision whether or not you want him there, just make the staff know and there is no way he will be able to stay. Don't let him ruin this special day for you.
2006-10-22 14:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rexy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. With the hipa rules in place you must inform your doctor and the admitting nurse of the situation and by law they cannot peermit your ex from coming anywhere near you or the baby.
2006-10-22 14:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Gonzo88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋