arguement about loving him and him loving me the most till we sleep in seperate rooms some times. What's wrong with us? I love him more than my soul can handle.
2006-10-22 14:41:43 · 20 answers · asked by lovesweet_cookies 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Immaturity?
2006-10-22 14:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by sleepless in NC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pride - you're both proud people who want to win or be the one that's "right" - and you both value this over your so-called "love" for each other. Honestly, this may be the most ridiculous cause for fighting between couples that I've ever heard. Unless of course, if in the course of your argument of proving who loves the other the most (and really, who cares?), that other issues come out ("i love you more because i don't come rushing to my ex whenever she calls like you do" and other issues of insecurity, jealousy, etc) and that's what intensifies your argument. The others are right - you both have to work on your maturity. Married life brings its own set of challenges that are way bigger and more serious than figuring out who loves the most. Grow up, the both of you, before you get married, and definitely before you start having kids of your own who will only suffer from your neuroses.
2006-10-22 21:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by flingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no therapist, but I'd say you each have issues with loss or feelings of abandonment that haven't been addressed. You are also both feeling insecure. You really need to ask each other why you're feeling this way. Also, is this some kind of control measure you are each applying to the other to make the other feel guilty. Again, ask yourselves and each other why. I would reccommend that you visit with a professional counselor who can help you work through your challenges. You may discover healthier ways to demonstrate how much you love each other. Best of luck.
2006-10-22 21:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by JLH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious, you guys need to get this worked out BEFORE you're married. Seriously, talk to someone to find out why it can possibly upset you that the other person "loves you more". There will be plenty of actual things to argue about after the wedding. There is some insecurity brewing in someone within that argument, and if it comes out there, it will come out in more relationship-destructive ways later. Telling your significant other you love them should instill security and confidence- not breed an argument. Get help. If you don't now, you'll have to later.
2006-10-22 21:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Holly N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned that you can never measure the amount of love between you and your soulmate, its best just to understand that you love each other equally, which is with everything you are...
You know how your love "feels". You can't describe it...trying to leads to frustration. Accept that you will never be able to verbalize who loves the other "more". Imagine that he feels the exact same way you do when you think about your love for him. So next time your "love tiffs" happen, just explain it like I did. Unless you like fighting...then this whole response is just fun and games for you... :)
2006-10-22 21:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just throw in some sarcasm and agree with him a few times... Who loves the other person more is NOT a good reason to NOT sleep with each other. Just feed his ego once in a while- he will be fine.
So if he says "i love you more" be like, You show me how much you love me every day and I love you for that! Want a glass of water?"
Ok so that may have been a corny response, but my cardinal rule is you may NOT go to bed angry and you may NOT sleep in another room.
Just a rule me and my fiance follow. Even if we are angry with one another, it never goes in the bedroom.
2006-10-22 22:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look at your situation from the perspective of your question. How does love on either side lead you to argue and sleep in different rooms. What would happen if you said, "It looks like you are right; I would rather sleep with you than win these arguments."?
2006-10-22 21:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have to tell each other to the point of fighting about love. This is not love this is insecurity, if you need Constant reassurance then you are in deep trouble
2006-10-23 00:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently you both love each other more than words could ever say, but there's a serious issue here you shouldn't argue about that , let the little things go b/c if you don't he won't be your fiancee much longer do you understand what i'm sayin'?
2006-10-22 21:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by lyndi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the answer above. You're both IMMATURE. Just accept each other's love and stop making it some kind of competition or measuring stick.
2006-10-22 21:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by Rainfog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋