im so embarrased by my wife...we get invited to dinner by some great friends of ours....and after she volunteers to wash dishes...by herself...well when the party is over we get to the car and it looks like we've just shopped at costco....shes stealing food from our friends...do i say anything or invite the friends over to retreive their bounty
2006-10-22 14:41:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Why would she do such a thing? You need to find out from her. Is she having fears of you two dying of starvation? You need to tell her that this is embarrasing. If she wants something tasty just go to Costco together and have her pick out the tastiest stuff.
No, don't return food to your friends, that would be too funny and too embarrassing. She might be having a mental disorder this is why she does it. If it is a desease, she can't help it. She needs to go to doctor and get treatment.
My cousin had a simiral issue when she was young. She embarrased the heck out of her parents. But she was treated and now she is totally fine.
2006-10-22 15:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a serious problem on your hands. Stealing of this sort is called kleptomania, and it means you steal things you don't need. I'm presuming that your own cupboards are well stocked and she's not doing this because there isn't anything to eat at home.
There are two things you must do. The first is to refuse to let her do dishes by herself. If she volunteers to help with the dishes, leap up and say, "Great. I'll help too." And stay in the kitchen with her so she can't steal things.
The second is check with your doctor about a therapist, because this kind of theft can be symptomatic of some severe mental problems.
You don't have to embarrass her in front of her friends by inviting them over to retrieve their bounty, just make sure your wife has no opportunity to stash it away, and you can solve that part of the problem.
Good luck to you!
2006-10-22 17:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs professional help. Some people steal things from others just because they get pleasure from the thrill of stealing and because most of the times they steal cheap items, the owners never take any action even though they know what is going on. Your friends probably will never say anything but they will stop inviting you to their place if things get out of hands and your wife start stealing more expensive items which may happen when she starts gaining more confidence or stealing foods gets boring.
Also she is probably ding this because she is looking for your attention. Are you around enough? Do you "listen" to her and "see" her when she needs you? This type of behavior is probably a cry for help.
2006-10-22 14:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by smarties 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell you wife to quit doing that or you will call her out on it prior to leaving the friends house. Before you walk out you could say...I'm sorry my wife took some food from you - have her open her purse and take out the food. That will stop the invites and her stealing. Hopefully she would be too embarrassed and won't do it. You could also go solo to your friends house - or don't let her near the kitchen. Also, I would take her to a therapist to find out why she does this???
2016-05-21 23:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the car around and go back, you wait in the car while your wife takes the food back in. If she won't do it then you take it in and apologize for your wife.
You may want to explain to them she has a problem stealing food and you are going to get her medical help. Also explain that to your knowledge she doesn't steal anything else only food from friends.
Depending on how good of friends they are ask for their understand and tell them you don't want her problem to destroy your friendship. Tell them you will keep them advised of what her Dr. tells you.If that approach doesn't work for you then your options are so limited you can only ignore the problem or eat the food.
Depending on her attitude it may be time to find a good lawyer because it is getting close to divorce time.
2006-10-22 15:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her and find out why she's doing that. Stealing can be an addiction. Look at what happen to Winona Rider. Maybe she needs some help and if you really love her help her get some. On the other hand maybe there were too much food left and probably were gonna go to waste and she just took some. Talk to her. I wish you luck
2006-10-22 14:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by vee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is left overs they might have told her to take some home. But if it was from the refrig. or cupboard then . She may just be looking for a reaction from you and you need to have the guts to tell her yourself. Stand up to her! It isn't right. Don't you buy food for your house that both of you like? Or is she just hungry because there isn't any food at home? She may just have an addiction and if so she needs professional help. You need to talk about things. Be her friend and ask her about this and try to help her.
2006-10-22 14:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she might be suffering from OCD in some form or another. I have family members who are just like that and they have other symptoms of OCD and the food stealing is a side-symptom.
2006-10-22 14:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by professionalfemale01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, embarrassing at the very least. I wonder if the homeowners notice such a large quantity gone??
I agree, sounds like OCD. I would ask her, and see what the reason is for this, then decide if she needs professional intervention....
2006-10-22 14:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it just left overs, or food from the cabinet or what? If it was the left overs from dinner, well not that big a deal, But if she's taking stuff from the pantry, I'd tell her if it ever happens again, I'm gonna blow the whistle on her!
2006-10-22 14:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋