I have a mature relationship, we r in our early thirties. The thing is, I find myself wanting my guy more and more. Right now, we only spend weekends together although we talk on the phone every night. We have so much fun together, we r the perfect couple. He feels the same for me and he has told me that he want's to spend the rest of his life with me. But, why does he only see me on weekends and keep himself emotionally distant from me? I want to take this as far as it will go and he keeps setting these wall barriers between us. How can I get more out of him without addressing the issue with him? I don't want to push, give ultimatiums or make things awkard.
2006-10-22 14:37:55 · 10 answers · asked by precious girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just give him time. It sounds like he likes to take things slow. He has probably had bad experiences in previous relationships, which is causing him to put up barriers. It might take time to earn his trust, you'll never know he might me worth the wait.
2006-10-22 14:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a mature relationship, like you said, then you NEED to talk about it. Address the issue. Maybe don't push or give ultimatums, but surely two grown, mature people can talk about it.
Think of what your end goal is: is it a person you live with and are with every day? Because if it is, you to make sure he's with you on that same path, and then get started walking!
2006-10-22 21:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by lilgoat4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are all about communication. You need to sit him down and address the issue. If you don't ask, you won't find the answer you are looking for. Time is precious and there's no sense wasting it if you aren't on the same page. A little push never hurt and plus, it will let him know what you want!
2006-10-22 21:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should address the issue. Doing so is not being pushy,you don't have to give ultimatiums,you need to know where your going.
2006-10-22 21:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by teddybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's involved with somebody else as well. You seem like a convenience to him. You most definitely are NOT the perfect couple.
2006-10-22 21:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you being played...OR you have found a guy with a commitment phobia...OR maybe he just isn't in as much of a rush as you are...Like we tell these little teenagers..Go slow, RELAX, It'll all werk out.
2006-10-22 21:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a classic closet case to me!
2006-10-23 00:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not serious loose the guy
2006-10-22 21:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by halicon2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it. He's married.
2006-10-22 21:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Susie Q 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont know
2006-10-22 21:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋