the reason why I fell for his bestfriend was because he went away for like 2 months.. and the only one who was there for me was his bestfriend.. then later I realized that his bestfriend loves me all this time.. and I kind of feel like I like him too.. I'm really torn between them... I love my boyfriend, he's like the dreamboy I've always dreamed of since I was young. he's always there for me... bringing me chocolates every weekend.. and all those stuffs.. but then. here comes his bestfriend who treats me the same way but in a different manner, like.. if my boyfriend is really outgoing.. he's like the silent type but he lets you feel that he loves you.. I'm really torn.. what am I suppose to do?? please do help me..
2006-10-22 14:27:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said you love your boyfriend and you like his best friend. You need to stay away from his best friend especially since you know he loves you. You feel like you like him. You don't love him. You are hurting his best friend by letting leading him on, even if you "don't mean it". You are in turn hurting your boyfriend and cheating on him by hanging around him while he was away. and thinking those thoughts. Thinking those thoughts is the same thing as cheating. Only you can make the decision. I say you stay away from the bestfriend. Never be around him alone. Tell your boyfriend. You may not have one after you tell him. He has a right to know.
2006-10-22 14:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds pretty cheesy, but make a list of things you like and dislike about both boys, compare them and really think who you want to be with. You don't have to decide right away. Another idea is to take a break. Go on vacation with some friends. Also, think about how you would feel if your boyfriend left you for your bestfriend (so if you decide to go out with the friend, wait a couple of weeks or you might ruin their friendship)
2006-10-22 14:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.dependingon how old you are you may not be to sure of what exactly love is. when were young its the appearence and alot of times its how he makes you feel, but as time goes on the appearance thing changes and your lives start to get hectic with money problems or emotional problems or whatever else comes our way and we are so ready to say i give up, what i have is old and too much work. i need something new. if we spend our whole lives giving up on the ones we know were ment to be with just cuz were bored,ull wake up someday when your old alone because you were too lazy to fight to keep love alive. when you can look at someone and glance into a realistic future with caos and ups and downs and know that this is the guy that will stick by me through hell and back, no matter how much tears you shed or grief you can handle together, then you know that anythings possible . i believe this is the key to true love and happiness. to beable to know each other at the heart not just on the surface.some people get lucky and get that perfect prince to come on his white horse, oh who we kidding here. look into your mans heart. look into your heart, and go with your intuition. we all have it. its thst little voice in your head. its there to guide you. you can prevent alot of heartache if you can think about the consequences before you always go with the heat of the moment and for god sakes have a little empathy. if the man your with now is not the one you want to be with break it off before your hearts get too involved. consider his feelings. and before you go messing around with his best friend he damn well better be worth it to be breaking up their friendship ,cuz thats what will happen. just make sure your not being selfish to the point that you are going after the guy who can give you more of what you want. just remember its a 2 way street.
2006-10-22 15:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop falling for your man's best friend, because in case no one ever told you that's shady. Not to mention that his boy probably thinks you're easy and chances are if he is willing to play his best friend out, he'll do same thing to you. Have some respect and tell his boy to get a life.
2006-10-22 14:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay with you boyfriend if he will keep you. His best friend isn't that much of a friend at all. Why would you wanna be with someone who would go behind his own friends back and mess with his girlfriend when he knows she is the most vulnerable.
2006-10-22 14:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you are in love with his best friend? Maybe just because it's "forbidden" you feel stronger towards it.
If you really are in love, then you should at least break up with him before getting with his bestr friend.
I personally think you should stop this drama and just settle down and be sane, why would you wanat to kill three people just to satfisy your cheating urges?
2006-10-22 14:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the time in your life to do the right thing. Are you strong enough to do it? Break up with your boyfriend and stop seeing him and his best friend. Never, ever, come between two friends... ever.
2006-10-22 14:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend's bestfriend is not a real best friend - he knows your going out with him - so why he's trying to pull you out of him - uhmm but this is how the world works
2006-10-22 14:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly loved your boyfriend, then you wouldn't be thinking about the friend. Break up with your bf, and leave the friend alone too.
If you try to hook up with him, you will also break up their friendship.
2006-10-22 14:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by TonerLow69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to follow ur mind.but the fact dat you love your boyfriend s best friend those mean he loves you follow your mind make sure its not infatuation okay.be good.
2006-10-22 14:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by BIGGY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋