My bestfriend has an affair with a lesbian. She's afraid that one day their parents will know about their relationship, as her bestfriend I know, if her parents will know about her affair wont be easy for them aside from her officemates start to talk about her and her girlfriend, having that kind of relationship is not yet accepted to our community, For a week now she's been crying and I dont know what to tell her to comfort her. I can't tell her to stop and look for a normal relationship but it seems that she loves her girlfriend so much. If you were in her situation what would you do? and If you were the bestfriend what would you do?
Thanks for your help.
2006-10-22 14:22:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jeez, she's your best friend. How about show some support? Is there anything else more appropriate for the 'best friend' to do than just that? I don't know what kind of area you live in that everyone's going to $hit a brick about a same sex relationship, but if you want to help I suggest you support her relationship with this new girl (just like you would if it were a guy) and when the tough times come, be there to stand up for her and offer your shoulder when it all gets to her.
2006-10-22 14:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a counselor. You aren't her mom and dad. You aren't in much of a position to do anything. Once a person has decided on a course of action like this, it is difficult to tell them anything.
Lesbian relationships are difficult since they are not the norm, nor what we were designed for by G-d. She has free will and can pursue this, but it is a one way ticket to heart ache.
Just be a friend. Don't condemn, and don't approve. She needs love now, not a cheerleader or a disapprover.
And pray. Prayer works.
2006-10-22 14:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her friend all you half to do is stay by her side and let her know that you love her and will be there for her.I would tell her not to let anyone judge her for the way she is cus she is still a human being not an alien and that there is nothing wrong with being gay it is who she is and what she believes in that counts not everyone else.
2006-10-22 14:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by zachsmomsh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would encourage her to just be honest with her parents. They will find out soon enough if she is going to be a lesbian. No use in hidding the truth. Good luck.
2006-10-22 14:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should assure her that it's perfectly fine to be a lesbian. Tell her to be secure in her sexuality. It doesn't matter what others think of her as long as she is happy. Maybe she should see a therapist to help her to deal with the coming out to her parents.
2006-10-22 14:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. You have to let your friend make her choice. Try not to get too involved less you get caught up in the issue. All you can do is support her. Can she seek counseling? Make that offer to her. What community are you in?
2006-10-22 14:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by fijisun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the support a best friend should. She needs to learn to except herself for who she is and what makes her happy....to hell with what other people think. Her parents would/should be embarrassed for not supporting her....and except who she is.
2006-10-22 14:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was really in love with the person i wouldnt matter to me what the people think. and for you all you need to do is be there and let her cry on your shoulder be there to comfort her and support her in whatever decision she makes
2006-10-22 14:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by angie_d_121074 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋