i've been dating someone for almost 2 mths and in this short period and find him to be jealous and controlling. i mean i get phone calls from other guys that he knows i've been intimate with in the past and he gets so angry with me like it's my fault they call. my question is .. does he have the right to get angry or is he just being childish .. he's 38 and separated.. i think he has some major trust issues .. how do i talk to him about it without getting into a heated debate about phone calls from other men...
2006-10-22 14:11:10 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
.. i feel that we can communicate his concerns about other men phoning me instead of him giving me the silent treatment, which i've endured for the last few hrs now.. i have to leave for work in about 1/2 hr and don't want to leave with him angry.. i think i'll go upstairs and stroke his ego -which obviously he needs on a continuous basis.. men! *grunt*
2006-10-22 14:17:41 · update #1
Guys, like myself, know how other guys think and act. When it comes to our girlfriends, we dont tend to trust other guys to not cross the line and make a move towards her even though they know shes taken. Especially when the guy has experienced being cheated on before. Trust takes a while to develope, and even longer to re-develope once it has been broken. If you think you want to make a long term run at it with this guy, dont let guys be blowing up the phone. And let him see you tell a guy that you are spoken for. Little things like that can go a long way towards building trust. God bless and good luck.
2006-10-22 14:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by silentfall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY on earth would you take phone calls from other men when you have a new boyfriend. I don't blame him for being jealous.
He most likely has trust issues. I know I do.
But, geesh......get yourself off the p hone with other guys. I would be furrious. You are NOT obligated to accept calls from them. If you can't be with just one guy...break it off with this guy and start juggling men. But, this guy needs a girl who will be beyond a doubt faithful to him.
If he is what you say jealous and controlling...then why do you stay with him. You are capable of making a choice in life. Don't but the blame on him....your staying with him.
I think perhaps your not mature enough for a man who is 38
2006-10-22 21:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing you should do is to tell these other men that you are now involved with someone and they don't need to call you. I would then tell the new guy that you are taking care of the situation. I can see why he gets upset, he wants this to work and other men are calling you. Not cool.
2006-10-22 21:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it does sound childish, but it also means that he cares. Also, if you guys are exclusive, he might feel that he has a right to control you. So just try to reassure that he is "the one and only" and there is no need to get aggravated about other men calling you.
2006-10-22 21:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has no right to get angry ---- he MUST trust you
if you cant talk about it without getting into an arguement then he is not worthy of you
as well i could understand late 40's and up with the kids left home but 38 and separated mmmmm why --- is it the same reason his marriage broke up -- trust issues??
2006-10-22 21:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM!!! This relationship will only end badly, so get out NOW.
2006-10-22 22:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Axeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is only going to get worse get out now
2006-10-22 21:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by angie_d_121074 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP him and like delete all his info and block him. he sounds like a physco
2006-10-22 21:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by shortsagitarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better run now while you're safe. run run run......and don't look back
2006-10-22 21:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by nemraC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋