2006-10-22 13:57:22 · 19 answers · asked by Lord Glyde 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the time I made love to someone "new" they wouldn't be new anymore... we'd have been together, serious and committed for a long long time.
2006-10-22 13:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well when you are single and embarking on a new relationship is very pleasant because it is new and everything but when having a relationship and embarking on a new one by giving yourself a chance of a second relationship is too disparity why?
When as a single woman I may feel becuz I am single and am seeking a man to love me for me and nothing more I may feel good about myself knowing that there is someone who cares about you and someone who truly loves me for who I am and so sex on the question will be love at first site although I maybe disquiet about it but going through that experience will be my fortune.
On the other side if I were to have a relationsip renewed as a chance for me I may feel well I want this relationship to work to ameliorate what has happened in the past and maybe the sex won't be as so hectic as I may seem to have it because I have been there.
It is all up to you to know that this is the life you lead and by embarking on the new relationship is good but is it worth the trouble after making love to the girl will she commit to you or what? It is upto your experience through life if love at first site well it maybe sweet and pleasureable to know but if not then good luck. Life in this world is all about love and because of love that there is the taste of life and your destiny.
2006-10-22 15:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Shirley l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very nervous first time - unless I wasnt expecting it - then im nervous the second time instead! Takes a whikle to get into each others groove, even if when youre having orgasms with them, it better after a few months as youve grown together and the relationship has grown, and so has the intimacy.
However, even if Ive been dating someone, and its the first time -a couple of drinks is in order just to take the edge of my nerves - I get nervous at everything. ALso personally I liek to have with dimmed lights first time, too, doesnt always work out that way, but I ckinda feel I can let myself go and the sensations feel better inthe dark, after youve seen someone for a while, occasioanlly in the dark in nice too. Was that enough information!?
2006-10-22 17:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mercy J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excitement then before the act nervous, then usually during the act, relief that it is going well, then I can settle down into it and just be with it more, but I'm still really trying to impress her so I'm not fully in the act of making love to her, I'm mostly in my own head worrying about my performance.
It gets better with a little more time, as I feel more comfortable with her then I can just be in the act and be there for her, it's less about me and the quality of my performance and how it will be judged as my insecurities are now starting to disappear. Its more about me making love to her, giving my love to her and satisfying her.
So to summarise later its about my expression of love at the beginning its about being a high quality performer. In many ways I think this is natural but as I'm single and looking forward to my next encounter I'll look to maybe make the "high quality performer sexual athlete" phase quicker because my suspicion is that the ladies (and me actually) prefer the tender expression of love phase.
Love the question, really gets me thinking about it all again. Hope this adds to the research!
2006-10-22 18:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its gonna feel real strange in all kinds of ways if you havent takent the time to get to know this person first....jumpin into bed too soon can mess up what could be a good friendship....nt to mention anything that may come after friendship. Take some time to get to know this person and you will be very comfortable when that special moment comes.
2006-10-22 20:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by dravid y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its gonna feel real strange in all kinds of ways if you havent takent the time to get to know this person first....jumpin into bed too soon can mess up what could be a good friendship....nt to mention anything that may come after friendship. Take some time to get to know this person and you will be very comfortable when that special moment comes.
2006-10-22 14:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie_6234 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's much, much easier for a girl on the first night. She doesn't have to prove her femininity in contrast to a man whose "masculinity" (or lack of it) is very visible.
The trauma of performance is much greater for him than for me, and it's only fair to give him all the encouragement and understanding he needs. I have had sex with men who are very very naive about what turns a girl on, but that's fine. You just help them. Sometimes first nights have been sexless. Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation are quite common on first nights, and I've had men weep (yes, with tears rolling) in embarrassment. But I take it with patience and try to make my partner confident and comfortable about himself. A kiss and a cuddle goes a long way.
Treat him with patience, love and gentleness and he'll want to be with you again. And the next time he'll usually perform much better 'cause he knows he won't be ridiculed.
Girls, please don't offend or insult a man who cannot perform to your expectation. You'll knock him out psychologically. Handle him gently and sweetly. He'll come around. Maybe in time he'd be the best you've had so far. And wouldn't that be nice?
2006-10-22 20:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good lord, if you where really in love in the last relationship, its really hard getting intimate with a new partner, you have to find out what they like etc. Personally I found it a bit overwhelming and hard to deal with, but after a while it got better and better and so on!
Good Luck!
2006-10-22 14:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by filmstu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never 'embarked' on anything in my life and if you say I have, lawsuits will surely follow. The very idea!
2006-10-22 14:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Barks-at-Parrots 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends upon who gorgeous she is. If she's hot, I'd feel like I better do it good or I might not get another chance. If she's not, I might just want to hurry it up. If I love her, I'd want to do it over and over for hours. If I just kind of liked her, I'd want to get in a good hour or so.
Either way, the 'new' part certainly does make it more fun.
2006-10-22 14:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Jeffrey B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋