ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half . sometimes he says things without thinking about them, he compares me to other girls and he talks about other girls like i am one of his guy friends. i dont understand why he would do that he says that he loves me all the time and that he couldnt live without me but could this be a lie is he trying to get me to break up with him.. i dont understand im a pretty girl and i dont trip unless its a constant problem and this one is constant is it me or is it him should i lay off or shoule he learn to shut up. i havent come to him with this yet i want different points of view first.
2006-10-22 13:44:37 · 14 answers · asked by n2ffn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i asked guy only b/c they might kno whats going on better than girls
2006-10-22 13:53:53 · update #1
Print this question off and give it to him, if you don't want to talk to him about it. You stated your concern quite clearly. It doesn't sound like he's deliberately trying to put you down, more that he's very comfortable with you, and just isn't thinking before he speaks. Let him know it bothers you. don't freak out on him, just talk. If the problem continues, you may need to consider other options.
2006-10-22 13:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him whats up. If he is always comparing and you think its mean then ask him why he does it. If he really loves you and cant live without you then he will relize he shouldnt be doing those things or he is probably going to lose you. Guys dont usually liked to be talked to and told what to do by other girls but if he loves you like you say he does then he will listen. Hop the advice helps and Good Luck!
2006-10-22 20:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by Matt A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the part where he treats you like his guy friend. That means he is your friend and he trusts you. He is open about the other females and how he reacts to them. So tells you that...that is good...that means he trust you. Now that is good. Men are naturally inclined (as you women are too) to appreciate Gods must beautiful creation-women. So let him appreciate them and see his point of view. Now the comparing part that you don't like. My advice--punch him (a friendly punch but that he can feel it) and tell him you don't like to be compared with others...that you are unique and the best. That you are the best and to compare you to anyone else is an offense...let him know you are "Numero Uno" and that you won't tolerate that from his best friend. If he doesn't respond to that, dump him.
2006-10-22 20:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by latin-solomon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not mean he loves you less --- it could be a sign of how he much he thinks you trust him --- that he can look at other ladies and not be interested in them except to compare with you.
you did not say if the comparison was good or bad --- does he look at them and say "gee i wish you looked like that" -- or "gee she has some nice features but not as good as you"
best thing in any relationship is to talk to him let him know how you feel --- he may be shocked that you think this way -- find out how he views it
2006-10-22 20:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to both guys and girls. If he loves you so much why would he even compare you to anyone else? Since it really bothers you (and it would me) talk to him. He might be doing it without thinking but again if he loves you he will learn to bite his tongue.
2006-10-22 20:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by Professor Bradley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look guys just to do that, that's perfectly normal if your in a relationship and your very confident of yourself than you shouldn't worry girl, because remember in this world if we can't trust our mates than who could we trust, he just treats you like 1 of the guys because your cool and he really trust you, now would you rather know what is in his mind then not know, look there is nothing wrong with looking if he is still going to end up with you by the end of the day, so just relax many gys do this, sometimes guy do this to give hints and sometimes to just admire, like if he says oh that girl has a big booty then damn that girl has a big booty just relax if he is with you and not with her it's for a reason, or maybe he is trying to hint out something to you like a 3some, either way girl your still number 1 with him.
2006-10-22 20:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by zkull_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u considered that the reason he talks about other girls with u is that he trusts u and treats u like a friend and that hes confident in yer relationship and thinks u r to. and he thinks he can talk to u about anything hmmmmmm i wonder if that could be it or he could just be a insensitive prick . who knows
2006-10-22 20:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Vinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um.... tell him that you dont like it when he compares you to other girls. and maybe he doesnt realize the way he talks to you. besides take it as a compliment that he thinks of u as a friend AND a gf. not just one or the other. if u tell him and he still does it THEN dump him
2006-10-22 20:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by shortsagitarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is doing is very inconsiderate and disrespectful. If you have a problem with this, talk to him and tell him you will not tolerate it. If he really loves you then i am sure you can work it out just fine.
2006-10-22 20:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by erature 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you should talk with him and say don't compare you to other girls thats disrespect you are not his guy friend
2006-10-22 21:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋