My girlfriend is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. I love her so much but she has one huge flaw. Shes flirtatious. All she does is flirt, hug, and talk to other guys, it kills me to see her like this and i talk to her about it and she says its her personality and she shouldnt have to change. Shes amazing and i dont want to lose her but shes killing me.
PS All of you people who find it funny to post sarcasm, dont. im not in the mood.
2006-10-22 13:34:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she isn't willing to change this behavior then you need to move on unless you try hard to change your thinking.
Accept her for the way that she is, and trust her. Increase your self-esteem and hopefully you will be able to overcome this situation.
2006-10-22 13:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with flirting. As long as she's not invloved with someone, and even then it can be healthy in the right doses. I dated a girl who was ETREMELY flirtatious. I didn't like it either, but in reality, she was just a super nice person. It just stood out more when she was SUPER nice to oter guys. It seems no girls like these kind of girls. And really it's probably a jealousy thing. What person doesn't want the opposite sex to like them? Some people are just better at it than others, that's no reason to think that those people have a problem.
2006-10-22 13:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by mrmanseven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy comes from insecurity. This girl picked you. She will either want to be with you or she won't. If she doesn't, that's her loss, but it seems she does. The best thing you can do for yourself is gain some self esteem and realize that these guys are no threat to you. Also, and this is alittle tip from an older woman. Alot of girls get off twisting a guy by his, well you know. If you act like it bothers you, she'll keep on doing it. If you act like its not something worth your time, she'll eventually stop.
2006-10-22 13:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think this is funny but maybe instead of asking her to change you might want to ask her to tone it down a little but maybe you are just thinking too much .....you should allow her some freedom cuz if you love her don't put her on a tight leash if you know what i mean .However, if you find that you can't stand her behavior than well maybe she is not a good match for you and you should end the relationship it hurts but when you find that better match you will see that it was worth it lol........good luck
2006-10-22 13:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because its her personality doesn't mean its a positive thing that shouldnt be changed. Explain to her that what she might see as being nice, a guy might see it as much more.
I would consider that very disrespect full if it was me in your place. She might be amazing, you might love her, but that doesn't mean she is the right one for you.
2006-10-22 13:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by zuff101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might just be her way. If she loves you as much as you love her then you have to trust her and know that she means nothing by it. If it gets out of control, hopefully you have communication and understanding with her and have every right to confront her with this issue and ask her to stop, if she loves you....she will, good luck
2006-10-22 13:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by bonbon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her and tell her that it is really hurting you and that for your relationship that she should tone it down. because eventually it will affect your relationship and the feelings that you have for her. Its not really about change its about respecting your wishes and being considerate and making a small sacrifice that will not hurt her one bit. I understand perfectly try to get her to understand too. Good Luck!
2006-10-22 13:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Reesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your girlfriend does not realize how much flirting she is doing and how often. It doesn't seem like she is ready to change, and she probably enjoys the attentiion she receives.
So i guess it would be up to you to learn how to tolerate her constant flirting.
2006-10-22 13:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a taste of her own medicine. seriously, it'll work make her uncomfortable by doing the same things she does with other guys and when she comes upto you just explain to her that thats the same way you feel when she flirts with other people
2006-10-22 13:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she says its her personality and you don't like it, isn't that enough to let her go? you hate sarcasm but i hate when people say they meet the perfect "one" with a little flaw.
2006-10-22 13:40:22 · answer #10 · answered by a good dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋