is sex after marriage for christians fading away?

Question

i still believe it is both morally and religiously wrong to have sex before marriage and i intend not to have sex till i get married. i mean think about it, sleeping wiv every guy u go out with!!! but just recently, my boyfriend told me it doesn't work like that in this modern world and that he hasn't met anyone who actually thinks like that now. all i want to know is, are there people out there especially single women who think like me or is he right?

Answer 1

I admire your fine bible view on the matter, but remember god's views are perfect and are more important than the ever changing morals of this wicked world.

Even if it's a fading view that only shows how horrible the morals of this world are sinking, and how important it is you follow the guidelines set by god.

Think about it, in any sence is it right to 'fit in' to the world standards which are clearly improper and dangerous, and ignore the words and protection of your heavenly father?
You'll be risking your health and happiness as well as your relationship with god, all for short lived pleasure that you can have with someone you really love and in a way that will make you feel happy about it, and god rejoice.

It's your chouce what you do, but don't let your boyfriend pressure you into what you don't want to do or you'll regret it later, it's your choice and if he doesn't respect that you should reconsider your relationship in the first place.

Tell him how you feel about it, and set your foot down if you feel strongly enough about it. tell him it isn't worth it and you want to wait untill our married. if he still pressures you, than I don't think he really values your opinions, morals or ideas.
Don't let him get you to commit such a sin if you don't want to, or you'll surely feel sorry for it later, and it's the worst feeling you'll ever have, and its somethign you can't take away. tha pain of knowing you lost your virginity to sin will haunt you for your life if your not careful. it's not worth it! be strong!
and if you ever have second thoughts aout it just remember the physical, emotional, and spiritual protection you receive by applying his council to avoid sex before marriage, and pray for support to avoid temptations to do so. Hope I helped you to make the right decision!
and I hope you choose what you think is right.

Answer 2

Regardless of religion, it is personal choice when, where, and to whom you lose your virginity.

I think a lot of people are just really too uptight about the whole concept. I think it's ridiculous to deny yourself perfectly natural pleasure and stimulation so long as you do it safely and responsibly. I also think many others are too lax, and trash the whole "safely and responsibly" part.

I think a major leading factor to people being irresponsible about it is having so much pressure put upon them NOT to. If you tell a child not to touch any of those fresh-out-of-the-oven cookies until after dinner, what's the FIRST thing he's going to do? Have a cookie. We don't ever completely lose that rebelliousness; it's part of what makes us human.

There have been countless studies about the effects sexual activity has on the body. I remember two in particular: high school students of both sexes (18 years and no younger) were tested in one study. All students were under a controlled environment, where all were given equal time to study, as well as other factors. Those students who had sex the night before a big test performed better than those who didn't. The military also compared pilots who had to get up early the next morning for flight training. Those who had sex the night before did better, even though those who didn’t got more sleep.

Sex is not a bad thing unless it is done irresponsibly. Unfortunately, some people seem to think man-made conditions like marriage have are connected to this most primal nature, and would have others believe that if done outside of wedlock, this natural instinct is "irresponsible."

Marriage has nothing to do with it honey, but more power to you if you'd rather wait anyway.

Answer 3

It is this kind of flawed thinking that causes the most sin. Jesus says clearly, "How terrible it will be for the world because it causes people to sin! Temptations to sin are bound to happen, but how terrible it will be for that person who causes someone to sin!" (Matthew 18:7)

We are not denied sex before marriage because God is the ultimate killjoy, it is because sex brings with it an intimacy that was intended for life partners. The more often one has sex outside the marriage bond, the less intimacy you have. Eventually, it becomes an end to itself.

Intimacy can be likened to tape. When you apply tape to a poster on a wall, it will hold the poster well. But if you pull it away and then reapply it elsewhere, it cannot hold the poster as well. Do it again, and it becomes less able to stick. Eventually, the tape is useless for the purpose it was intended.

Your boyfriend isn't allowing the Bible to be his standard of conduct. As a result, he doesn't have a standard. His moral compass swings whatever way he wants, instead of pointing true. This happens to everyone who dismisses what God has said.

Jesus predicted this lack of faith. "But when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on earth?" (Luke 18:8)

Answer 4

I am a Christian and I believe that you are right in this situation. The Bible clearly states that we should not have sex outside of marriage. That has not changed simply because our world is "modern." I believe that sexual purity has been completely disregarded in our world. I mean, look at Hollywood: celebrity pregnancies are a huge deal lately and how many of them have been between a married couple? Yet, they are portrayed as if there is nothing wrong with that. I do not know if it is my place to give you relationship advice, but is your boyfriend a Christian? If he does not agree with you on the concept of premarital sex, then you should make sure you evaluate other important factors of your relationship before one or both of you get hurt.

As a single woman, I am so happy to see another Christian who shares these beliefs! I wish more women today stayed true to these values! Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 5

There are LOTS of people who think like that - he wants you not to. The modern world? That is a line, some things never change. Is he a Christian? - be sure that you have a serious relationship only with a Christian man or you will be headed for a fall - The Bible says not to be unequally yoked, and that is wise.
Go to church, get in a group with people who believe that and it becomes easier to wait until marriage.
And think about your husband - what a gift you will give him knowing that you have not been with anyone else.
My wife and I waited - three years - and if there is one thing I know it's that it was worth it. First - we have no regrets, and second - God blesses it so much. We never tire of each other and it is frequent and awesome. Is that what you want? The world does not understand - or they would wait too.
Waiting is a blessing for so many reasons.

Answer 6

Just because someone has pre marital sex with a partner doesn't mean they are going to go sleeping around with everybody. You can love a person without being married, and having sex is part of that love.

It depends on the individual. Some people are promiscuous, some not,irrespective of whether married or not. Being married is no guarantee that a person is not going to stray anyway.

Answer 7

Good for you, Lila! Sex is a gift from God, reserved for married men and women. If you wait until marriage to have sex with your husband, God's blessing will be upon your union. There are definitely people out there with the same resolve as you. I will not have sex until I am married. And I will be happier for it. Keep your resolve, and don't let your boyfriend talk you into anything that you know is against God's plan for your life. God bless you.

Answer 8

Ethical and moral persons of the world, unite! Yes, I will stand with you. Who cares what the rest of the "modern" world does? If everyone else jumps off the cliff, I assure you I will yet stand.

You may be interested to know that people were making that same "modern" claim 50-70-100 years ago. God is the same yesterday, today and forever.

Answer 9

One of my daughters wont. She has a boyfriend that thinks the same way though, so it works. I value good sex so I was not about to wait. If I had waited and ended up with some of the lousy lays I had to kick to the curb it would have just ended in divorce. And the ones that didn't want to go at it (like you) wouldn't have been any more happy with me. I'm making your skin crawl right now.

You know your values, now find someone that shares them and wants to wait also. Screwing around is not the right path for you.

Answer 10

Well, I'm not a single woman(actually, I'm a married man), but I think your boyfriend is wrong. Pre-marital sex is a sin. In fact, pre-marital sex can lead to the transmission of STDs and unwanted pregnancies among other things. And contrary to what your boyfriend thinks, it DOES work that way just fine in this modern world. He's just trying to get into your pants.